Serge Benhayon and Family: Living the way of love

28/5/2018

by Eunice Minford

I have known Serge Benhayon and his family for ten years now (since 2007) and that is a fair amount of time to make an assessment of the man, his character and his family. I know all four of his now adult children well and can categorically state they are all remarkable human beings, with a huge capacity to love, connect with people, work hard, and give back to society. They alone are a great testimony to their parents, regarding the quality of their upbringing, the values instilled and the depth of love and care provided.

I don’t know many or in fact any other family who has brought up four children who have never taken alcohol, smoked, taken drugs or indulged in the usual teenage ‘not-so-healthy’ pursuits, who all excel in their own fields, with a level of throughput of work and projects way beyond the norm, who are not lost and checked out on social media or other forms of entertainment, and who have a level of wisdom well beyond their biological age and live lives of deep integrity, responsibility and purpose. If we could replicate the recipe that resulted in children becoming adults of this quality, the world would be a very different place indeed.

So is Serge just lucky to have four children who are so loving, caring and talented with no mal-adaptive coping strategies or is there more to it? Well first-off, luck has nothing to do with it. It is thanks to the quality of love reflected to them during their upbringing by both their parents and which they have continued to deepen for themselves in adulthood that has resulted in the adults they are today and which they now reflect to everyone else – and so the ripple effect of the love shown to them, is now shown by them to many others, including myself.

What is even more remarkable is that Serge, his wife Miranda, and his family share this same quality of love with everyone else – equally so – it is not just kept for family members or a few close friends. It’s as if the world is their family and anyone who comes to meet and know them is treated and loved just as if they are a member of the blood family. There is no difference. This is easily witnessed in workshops and courses, where Serge has unending patience to address people’s questions, not just during the time of the workshop, but before, during and after, including any and all breaks. It is pretty phenomenal to witness – as I have been at other courses and workshops where the renowned speaker cannot get away quick enough or takes a few questions from a small number of people before departing rapidly – but definitely does not offer the same level of care, consistency and love to all equally…. and does so time after time after time … .

Serge also welcomes people to his home to stay or have dinner, to join with the family, and be part of the family. To be treated equally as part of the family – so there is no pretence or false niceness or put-ons, no airs and graces – everyone helps themselves to the food on offer in abundance and helps out to tidy up at the end – just as a family member would. The welcome is warm, open, loving and equal for all who cross the threshold – no-one is special or given special treatment….and yet everyone is special and feels special in the loving space provided.

But what is even more astonishing having observed this family for ten years is the absence of family dynamics and emotionality that is ever-present in most, if not nearly all other families. Indeed, one might think ‘it’s too good to be true’ – there must be a flaw, there must be something hidden, behind closed doors life must be different – but this is the most transparent family I have ever encountered and there is no doubt they challenge the world and the typical family because of the depth of love they live with each other and everyone else – for it exposes just how far the rest of us and our families are from living that depth of love. Big Ouch! At the same time it is to be celebrated and embraced for it shows just what is possible when we make life about love, purpose and God first and foremost, rather than our individualised agendas, issues and dramaramas.

It exposes, in fact, how most families are not actually loving with each other – but are living a reality where family love = permission to abuse. Yes, you read correctly – we have got so far away from what love is, we think it actually means we have the freedom to abuse each other when it comes to family life. We behave in ways and say things to our family members that we would never say to friends or work colleagues. We feel we can ‘be ourselves’ and just let rip with whatever wants to come out of our mouths, without any censorship, responsibility or consideration as to its effect.

We can react and get angry, shout, yell, scream, call names, be rude, demeaning, belittling, jealous, controlling, manipulative and a host of other not so great and definitely not loving ways – and we think it’s ok to do this because its family! The people we say we love the most, we are in reality often most abusive to… and we mistakenly think it’s ok and that this is family love?! We think that love is allowing these behaviours and attitudes, where we are free to show our dark sides, just because it is family?! How lost and how far removed have we become from what love is, to think in any way, shape or form that such behaviours constitute any form of love?

We in fact often show more decency and respect to our friends and work colleagues in our interactions than we do to our family members. And just to be clear, if there’s not at least a basic level of decency and respect in our communications with our family members then there is definitely not love.

There is no abuse in love, there is no dark side in love, there is no emotionality in love. Love does not equal abuse nor does it give permission to abuse, be angry, rude, controlling, manipulative or any other form of emotionality.

So when a family comes along that actually live and show a remarkable degree of love not just with each other, but with all others equally and who willingly share the ‘how to’ of this, in the knowing it is not some utopian ideal but can be lived and achieved by all – the world should be knocking down their door and clamouring for every shred of loving advice and wisdom they can share on the matter – given that most abuse of all forms occurs first, not on the battlefield, not in the workplace, but in the home.

It says much about the state of the world that we as a humanity prefer to continue with our abusive ways….not just in our own homes but by abusing this family, defaming them, name-calling, deriding them (as the media and some others have done), being jealous of them and the love they share, rather than admitting we don’t have it so great and being willing to expose the lies, the abuse, the rot and the lovelessness we live with, and humbly being open and willing to learn from those who have walked a little further on the return path of love … that we too may enjoy truly loving relationships with our family members and all who cross our thresholds. Now that would be a win-win for all concerned.

190 Comments

Mary

27/5/2018 10:53:34 pm

It comes as a big shock that there is more abuse happening in our homes than on a battlefield and that this abuse is a daily occurrence and we do not seem to be at all bothered by it. Why is this?

Jennifer Smith

30/5/2018 11:59:14 am

We have not yet considered that what happens on a battlefield commences in our homes. We bring out to the world what we live behind closed doors, whether it's hidden or not.

Ariana Ray

8/6/2018 09:45:51 pm

Jennifer, you write 'We bring out to the world what we live behind closed doors.' We have no standard of care that extends from family to the world and back again. The world view is that 'our' family is ours to do with as we choose, and we present a view that all is well when clearly it is not. Serge Benhayon is presenting and living a way of family life where all are family equally and all held in the same love, which turns the worlds view on family on it's head and exposes it for the loveless ideology that it is.

James Nicholson

31/5/2018 01:19:50 am

I agree Mary and atleast on a battlefield it is obvious physical abuse whereas in our homes it can verbal insidious abuse disguised as love when it is anything but love.

31/5/2018 11:18:50 pm

There has been an acceptance that abuse is an everyday thing, a normal regular thing we all experience with a 'that's life' kind of attitude. This generates and enables even further abuse to occur.

Michelle Mcwaters

2/6/2018 10:41:11 pm

We have become very comfortable with it, haven't we? And yet as a society we sill say we deplore violence. This simply exposes the huge gap in our levels of honesty. We can't say we deplore violence if we allow ourselves to indulge in negative thoughts, shut others out, withdraw, speak aggressively, react and so on - all behind the closed doors of our homes..

Joseph Barker

28/5/2018 12:22:00 am

The ‘dirty’ family secret of humanity is that we consistently attack true Love. The Benhayon family reflect that it’s totally possible though to live honouring, cherishing and celebrating it. What a way to go!

Michael Brown

29/5/2018 02:10:29 am

There is much to unearth from all that we have 'swept under the rug'.

30/5/2018 04:32:40 am

The 'dirty' family secret is fully exposed, as Eunice states 'If we could replicate the recipe that resulted in children becoming adults of this quality, the world would be a very different place indeed.' That we are not is down to humanity, but what the Benhayon's offer is a reflection of a different quality altogether.

Liane Mandalis

30/5/2018 10:23:49 pm

Often we attack what we crave the most – true love, genuine care, warmth, affection and connection. We miss it dearly and thus it is our deepest hurt when we have not invited it into our lives by virtue of the way we choose to live and interact with others.

Gabriele Conrad

30/5/2018 10:24:58 pm

The mistaken belief that love is emotional contributes to our false ideas and notions of what love is and should be. And our aching needs obscure our better judgment and ability to feel what is true and what is not true.

Nicola Lessing

2/6/2018 08:20:41 pm

Yes bastardising the true meaning of love and attributing emotions to it is one of the greatest culprits in the mess we see everywhere and yet we all know what is love because at some level we all know what is not love.

2/6/2018 10:46:28 pm

This is such a pertinent point Garbiele. Love being emotional is a whopper of a lie we have fallen for. It panders to our needs which we are then owned by. It is hard then to break out of because, as you say, it is much harder to feel the truth of what we have accepted.

Jonathan Stewart link

3/6/2018 11:22:40 pm

Realising that love is not emotional brings a whole different understanding of love to that which is generally regarded as love. It brings truth and clarity to what is otherwise confusing and at contradictory.

Henrietta Chang

31/5/2018 12:59:16 pm

Spot on Joseph - it is exposed here in knowing the level of attack that the Benhayon family is under, yet knowing how much they actually lead the way in terms of true and caring relationships with all.

11/6/2018 11:37:20 pm

Without that reflection of the Benhayon family I know that this attack would not have been exposed so clearly for me. I am so grateful that they are in my orbit and that my understanding of what love is continues to deepen and grow.

28/5/2018 01:46:30 am

I have experienced dinners with the Benhayon family and can confirm that I felt 100% part of the family, love equally and interacted with at the same level of care.

David

29/5/2018 04:51:50 pm

Agreed Michael, for me it set a new standard of what family meal time is all about - that is connection, purpose and incredible support and love for each other.

Carmel Reid

28/5/2018 04:44:18 am

'It’s as if the world is their family and anyone who comes to meet and know them is treated and loved just as if they are a member of the blood family.' As you say, Eunice, they are a role model for parents, siblings and all of us in terms of loving relationships with everybody they meet.

David Nicholson

15/6/2018 12:41:25 am

Carmel beautifully put there is no difference between anyone, everyone is family int he true sense of that word. One where everyone is supported to be all that they naturally are.

Golnaz Shariatzadeh

28/5/2018 07:17:54 am

When I read your comment about Serge Benhayon’s children I smiled. “If we could replicate the recipe that resulted in children becoming adults of this quality, the world would be a very different place indeed”. The fact is that one of the things that I love about Serge Benhayon is the way He reminds us that we are so much more than is able to manifest in this physical realm, and the clarity and practicality with which he brings that all into normal daily life. This to me is a sign of a true teacher of philosophy. Showing by example the truth of what they teach. Having four children, raising them in tight partnership with your ex-wife, and when you re-marry your deeply honouring relationship to both women offering the space so they can be best of friends. And all four children have grown to be awesome role-models of the greatest quality in their own right to hundreds of people. Yes a fabulous example of true parenting.

Otto Bathurst

30/5/2018 06:35:13 pm

All pupils love to see examples that prove the teaching that they are hearing; it makes it undeniable and infinitely more accessible. Serge Benhayon's family is the example of what he teaches.

31/5/2018 12:09:15 am

I can vouch that brining up 4 children is no small thing, but to raise children who live the quality that Serge Benhayon's children live is out of my experience. These young adults are exceptional in all respects of their lived way of life and totally committed to life, community, humanity and living love.

29/5/2018 06:27:14 am

It is far too common to get jealous, resentful and attack those who are the greatest sources of reflection for us to realise our potential. The fact is that this is usually not something we consciously set off to do, but the inner pain and self fury of seeing the gap between what we see and where we have allowed ourselves to drop is too much and we choose to numb ourself to it. And in that moment of leaving the fullness of our awareness we end up attracting all sorts of thoughts, emotions and behaviours without discerning that they are in fact not our true essence.

Serge Benhayon and his family are a great reflection for the greatest expression of the divine within us and they also lovingly support people to have a greater understanding about the energetic aspects of life so that we are not such puppets to the dynamics at play. It is ironic, but perhaps understandable that they have been at the receiving end of orchestrated smearing and abuse through a handful of obsessed malicious sources, just as so many similar Soul-led individuals have throughout the ages.

9/6/2018 11:40:47 pm

'Serge Benhayon and his family are a great reflection for the greatest expression of the divine within us.' This is an absolute truth and what an opportunity we have to be inspired by this reflection. Thank God for Serge Benhayon.

29/5/2018 04:52:34 pm

Eunice a fully agree with what you share here, Serge lives everything that as a society we say we want to have in our lives, yet instead of embrace that a few choose to attack it and defame it and then you introduce the media who would rather spin the lies than see that the one thing we all say we want is not only possible but is being lived by a growing number of people and out of pure jealously it is further attacked. It will only be a matter of time though until we all wake up and see there is no point in attacking what we all innately know to be true.

Melinda Knights

29/5/2018 06:51:42 pm

You have stated it very clearly Eunice, that our lives are either about love or they are not, and the power and responsibility to live love lies within each of us. And yes, we do need the reflections and wisdom of those already far ahead living love opening in family, community and business. Fighting those that live love does not make sense, not when it's what we all deeply want to experience in our daily lives.

Shami

29/5/2018 08:35:52 pm

Eunice, you really touch on a huge point here when you put together the massive 'ouch' of not living in family life with the same level of love for the whole of humanity, and also being inspired by the Benhayon family to at least want to work towards this. It is an interesting mix which I feel is on the one hand painfully exposing, but on the other deeply loving.

Ingrid Ward

29/5/2018 09:31:02 pm

Over the years I have asked many people ‘who is it who hurts you the most’ and the answer is always my family. It is quite shocking to hear but as you write so astutely, Eunice, it appears in this upside-down world of ours that “family love = permission to abuse”. Well to me this is the furthest from love and true family that is possible. But how wonderful that we have amongst us a family, the Benhayons, who are reflecting to us constantly what true family is and how it is possible to live this in a world that reflects the total opposite.

2/6/2018 08:30:46 pm

Very beautifully said Ingrid. It is indeed shocking to see and hear the abuse that goes on in families and even worse when it is done in the false name of love. That provides a whole other level of abuse because you don’t even have the right to complain because it is your family and they “love” you. What a great recipe to tie people up in knots and destroy them so in their devastation they continue this abomination once again all in the name of love, or it is normal or everyone does it etc etc.

4/6/2018 10:46:06 pm

Enter the Benhayon family showing another way. For some it is a huge inspiration and healing and for others it is repulsive and something they wish to destroy – go figure!

Rachel Murtagh link

30/5/2018 12:56:24 am

The Benhayon family is truly remarkable by the fact that they show not having dynamics is possible within a family unit and by the fact they live wise, loving and understanding to a level most of us have never experienced. They are also equally remarkable because they don't keep the love they have exclusively for each other, but hold everyone they meet with the same regard and love. This is the blueprint the whole world needs in terms of its relations and its relationships. The best role-models going.

Joshua Campbell

30/5/2018 05:03:31 am

I can certainly understand that accepting the fact that very very very few families truly live love and in fact live the complete opposite it is quite some pill to swallow, but it is by no means acceptable to be hurling abuse and vilification at those that do reflect love simply because it exposes the lack of love you live. We do no in any way learn or evolve out of this global mess if we keep approaching these Divine reflections in this way

14/6/2018 12:05:21 am

'We do not in any way learn or evolve out of this global mess if we keep approaching these Divine reflections in this way.' Indeed we do not. It's time to consider tat if we think we are doing so great, how is the world in such a mess? Could it be that we have accepted a standard for ourselves that says its okay as long we can have our TV, gaming and picture family, regardless of the quality we live our lives with. Yet all the while this standard is toxic to our health and well being?

Natalie Hawthorne

30/5/2018 09:45:30 am

It is an absolute honour to have the Benahyon’s in my life and I am continually inspired to the potential we are all capable of living.

6/6/2018 04:56:14 am

What a wonderful way to respond to reflections that show us areas in our life that are less than what it could be and pull us up to be much more than we might have previously even imagined.

Fiona Pierce

30/5/2018 11:32:29 am

Brilliantly said Eunice, thank you. There is so much true inspiration on offer from the Benhayon family so rather than get jealous, lie about, demean, deride or try and belittle what they offer we could instead simply be open to being reminded of the depth of love that we all have within us that we can actually practically bring to all areas of our life - absolutely a win-win for all as you say.

30/5/2018 11:48:13 am

Its a very sad state of affairs that we think that any abuse within our own household is 'normal' and that we 'tolerate' it because it's family. It no surprise then that when met by a family that bring what they live at home to everyone that we should react. For it reminds us of what we can live, but are not choosing.

Désirée

30/5/2018 12:48:03 pm

So beautifully said: "There is no abuse in love, there is no dark side in love, there is no emotionality in love. Love does not equal abuse nor does it give permission to abuse, be angry, rude, controlling, manipulative or any other form of emotionality."

Mind-boggling how often the word 'love' is misused when we us it for anything other than its true meaning and its living quality.

Karin Barea

30/5/2018 02:01:42 pm

Reading this I realise just how much I love Serge Benhayon and his family and just how inclusive they all are. I have watched all his children grow over the years and am constantly inspired. I know they know they are constantly being observed and they never put on a show but live a wisdom we all have. How they live teaches me what is possible in the world and in relationships. None of it is luck but conscious, loving choices.

30/5/2018 06:18:45 pm

As you say, his children alone are a testimony to the way that Serge lives his life. Each one a beacon of responsibility, commitment, dedication, love and joy.

Aimee Edmonds

30/5/2018 06:23:12 pm

I couldn't agree more Eunice, when with any member of the Benhayon family, I have felt completely met, honoured, respected and loved by their presence, care and connection. I have not ever met a family like the Benhayon's that don't have any form of manipulation or dynamics anywhere in their relationships with anyone. That is truly amazing in the world we live in now. We should be inspired and observe how they are, NOT, make false claims because we are not living or more importantly choosing the same. Thank you Benhayon's for showing the truth of how we are meant to be in relationships and within family.

30/5/2018 06:32:13 pm

I and all my family have experienced, felt and been inspired by the embrace and beholding love of this incredible family. I have never come across another family like it and so yes - we should all be clamouring to learn as much as we possibly can from them. Anyone who denigrates, abuses or slanders them is, in my opinion, only showing that they are not prepared to accept or honestly challenge the abuse that exists in their own family.

Beverley Croft

30/5/2018 07:47:20 pm

Wonderful that you have shared this aspect of Serge Benhayon and family. I endorse all you have said here, they are such amazing role models for how family life and living can be, it is disgraceful that they face the defamation and name calling that has occurred. When we see and experience the abuse within families that so commonly exists, it is unbelievable that this family has been so mistreated. What are people afraid of - being found out? Having to face the Truth?

Suzanne Cox

30/5/2018 08:01:16 pm

There has never been a time when I did not feel welcomed to sit at the table as an equal with Serge and any of his children over the last 18 years that I have known them ... never an outsider ... which is really quite extraordinary. I came to Serge as a
client and he my health well-being practitioner but ended up with true role models in parenting and family found with the whole Benhayon clan. Very humbling, healing and inspiring to be accepted as one with this family.

Fumiyo Egashira

30/5/2018 08:40:10 pm

“There is no abuse in love, there is no dark side in love, there is no emotionality in love. Love does not equal abuse nor does it give permission to abuse, be angry, rude, controlling, manipulative or any other form of emotionality” – this is such a strong statement I almost want to go ‘Yes, but…’ and I realise that that ‘but’ is where we stretch and take liberty of and allow what is not love to be normalised.

Leigh Matson

30/5/2018 09:34:41 pm

Since my family came across Serge Benhayon, his family and Universal Medicine so much has changed between us as a family unit. There is far more openness and honesty amongst us, much more playfulness and now love. Imperfect but thats not the goal anyway. All void prior to knowing the Benhayons and the way of living they present.

30/5/2018 10:20:43 pm

The Benhayons are a living example of true family – a love lived that is shared with all and that shows us unmistakably that it is love, not blood, that unites us. There is so much for us all to learn from this reflection, as it is our true way to be.

30/5/2018 10:22:08 pm

Jealousy and pride stand in the way of people wanting to know more, find out how to live this level of love every day and do likewise; it is there for all of us, after all.

Jane Torvaney

30/5/2018 10:31:47 pm

The reflection the Benhayon family offers us through the truly loving way they live is pure gold. It can challenge us to our core and make us squirm as we feel the areas where we are not choosing to be loving ourselves, but how much greater it is to see the truth and take the opportunity to change than stay in the ignorance of a less than loving life.

Willem Plandsoen

30/5/2018 10:43:44 pm

If I wouldn't have studied Serge Benhayon for almost 10 years, I also wouldn't believe that his family life is without the usual dynamics but filled with love. My family life is not there YET. Jealous? No. Inspired? Very much so.

andrew mooney

30/5/2018 11:06:55 pm

I have also always been welcomed by the Benhayons as family and felt the warmth, respect and love that they hold each other in, extended to myself without reservation. The love they so obviously live with every day is shared with all equally.

Rebecca Wingrave

31/5/2018 01:04:40 am

Agreed Eunice; 'If we could replicate the recipe that resulted in children becoming adults of this quality, the world would be a very different place indeed.' It seems rare to have such responsible adults living with this level of commitment and dedication to themselves and all others.

31/5/2018 01:18:39 am

Eunice, lovely honest sharing about Serge and his family. As you share one of the amazing things is that no matter we are all treated equally just like family members, no different. Which is very unusual as we tend to treat people differently depending on how long we have known them etc. but to be shown that we can treat everyone equally with the same level of love, respect and decency no matter who they are is a real blessing. It is how I would love the world to be and know it can be as we have a living example. The rest is now up to us to make this the normal way of living with everyone.

Peta Lehane

31/5/2018 02:40:40 am

All that you express here Eunice, brings yet another beautiful opportunity for humanity to realise that what we’re living is simply not it - not when the standards of the Benhayon family are applied. Everything they represent I had no experience of until I began to study with the School of the Livingness and Universal Medicine. Yet somehow I knew it, too...I had always known it to be wrong to be hurtful and callous, manipulative and jealous, violent and abusive, but it was all that was ever reflected back to me. Versions of love were never truly lasting and yet in the time I’ve known the Benhayon’s, the love between them has become deeper and richer with every passing year. It’s very palpable to feel when you observe their way of being with each other and I am always inspired to live this myself.

31/5/2018 02:54:25 am

This is true, the way the Benhayon siblings interact is always loving and the work they all do is nothing short of amazing. They are role models for us in terms of their careers and the work they do but also great role models for how to be in life: in the family, in business, in the community and with friends.

31/5/2018 06:38:31 am

I love the example Serge Benhayon and his family set so clearly and so transparently. Love, support, sharing of wisdom and the deepest level of care are not attributes to withhold from anyone or special gifts to reserve for a selected one or a handful of people. We think it is not possible and even naive to live in this way. But wow, when you see this lived by not just one, but a group of people, there is nothing more glorious and more confirming of the fact that the qualities of God do indeed flow through us if we just let go and let it.

Matts Josefsson link

31/5/2018 10:32:56 am

Serge and his family is a great example of how it's not only possible to live in harmony together but they also show that it's totally natural and for me it seems like they represent the future for us. As a society we have lots to work on when it comes to family life and relationships and Serge and his family is a great reference point of how it can be like.

3/6/2018 06:25:04 am

Matts at a time when their is so much dysfunction within families, when people fight each other and argue on a regular basis and even when those that appear to get on feel board and stagnent it is worth deeply considering how The way of the Livingness has transformed so many peoples lives and just what if this could be the thing we've all been looking for. As you say Serge and his family live the example of this for us all to take note of, and many many have.

Carolien Braakenburg

31/5/2018 11:09:22 am

I love your blog Eunice and you are spot on, the love this family is reflecting to us all should be studied unclose and learned from as too may in this world have given up to the point that they cannot believe that such love exists. I once was doubtful myself but after 10 years of observing the Benhayon I now know for certain that this way of being is most definitely possible.

Rachel Murtahg link

31/5/2018 11:16:53 am

Serge shows us in every way imaginable how possible it is to live with integrity and love. From work to family and everything in-between, it all speaks for itself.

7/6/2018 11:35:39 pm

Well said Rachel,, it is that whole of life love that is so incredible, nothing less important or less loving than another part. Very much a true role model.

Sylvia

31/5/2018 12:25:32 pm

'and humbly being open and willing to learn from those who have walked a little further on the return path of love'

That is beautiful said. To just acknowledge some walk before us on the path in evolution back to soul. Serge Benhayon is by his livingness a gift for us all to learn how to live our love once again. A true love which includes our concern for ourselves and equally so for all others.

31/5/2018 12:57:38 pm

Eunice, thank you for this great testimonial, which not only flags the Benhayon family as a true and loving role model, but also highlights the fact that we allow so much abuse in our relationships under the guise of 'letting go'. If we are indeed letting go - what are we letting go of? A facade or a role that we play with others outside of our family? And then slip into being nasty with our own family members? But our natural innate way of being is to be respectful and loving and caring, and so perhaps it exposes the fact that we have left this part behind, to be resurrected again. And the Benhayon family is the living proof that it can indeed be done.

Matilda Bathurst

2/6/2018 08:29:29 pm

It is a real inspiration and gift to have a living model of family that exposes all our ill acceptance of it being okay to vent our stuff on family. Abuse is abuse and when we accept it in our homes we are accepting and contributing to it in our world.

2/6/2018 11:12:29 pm

This blog certainly 'flags the Benhayon family as a true and loving role model, but also highlights the fact that we allow so much abuse in our relationships.' We have allowed our homes to be the centres of abuse not centres of love. It is time for change and the Benhayon's are showing us the way.

31/5/2018 01:00:50 pm

Love simply is. And we are Love. "There is no abuse in love, there is no dark side in love, there is no emotionality in love. Love does not equal abuse nor does it give permission to abuse, be angry, rude, controlling, manipulative or any other form of emotionality." What have we made love to be in our world/lives? A great question to ask oneself!

Rebecca

31/5/2018 01:33:12 pm

When I look at Serge's children, you cannot doubt the love in the family, nothing else would deliver to the world 4 children so powerful, confident, vital and amazing.

31/5/2018 02:08:30 pm

Without any doubt the example lived by Serge Benhayon and his family is one that if modelled worldwide would radicalise the whole way that humanity lives and functions - and in time this will happen.

2/6/2018 08:26:04 pm

Yes it is definitely a when, not an if. We will live alongside one another respectfully, with love and as equals.

31/5/2018 02:16:27 pm

"If we could replicate the recipe that resulted in children becoming adults of this quality, the world would be a very different place indeed." Such a true statement and it is quite unbelievable that this family has had to endure the abuse from individuals and the media in the way they have and the fact is that this has not in anyway dimmed the reflection they have to offer - it has instead only magnified the reflection offered.

Kathleen Baldwin

31/5/2018 03:38:41 pm

This is a great testimony to Love, with a capital L in activity Eunice! And this is exactly what the Benhayon family is true 'Love in activity' for all to see and feel.

3/6/2018 01:03:34 am

What a great reflection is offered by the Benhayon family that Love lived consistently inspires hundreds and hundreds of people.

16/6/2018 11:22:54 pm

I agree Kathleen, this is a great testimony to Love, and a full dose of truth, which is what we all so desperately need.

31/5/2018 10:08:32 pm

All of the Benhayon family has played their part in supporting me to raise my child as a single parent. Now as an adult my daughter has a marker of what true love and true support actually looks like and feels like in her body. There is no coercing involved to get it right but the choice of free will which is everyone's right to choose what feels right for them. This is what I really appreciate about Serge Benhayon he presents the truth and if you’re not ready to hear the truth then so be it, but at least it has been said rather than suppressed so that no one has an opportunity to know in this life time what is real and what is not real.

2/6/2018 08:23:00 pm

Yes, Mary, this is one of many remarkable qualities Serge and his family offer - to share a lived truth without attachment and the need for others to 'get it'. There is patience and understanding in here that is absolute gold.

31/5/2018 10:30:42 pm

Through my friendship with Serge Benhayon and his family I have regained my sense of feeling the world and the people in it. I shut this ability that we all have down because I didn't feel able to cope with what was being presented to me by feeling how people actually feel. How to deal with the feeling of someone who watches pornography for example, that person may not know that they are giving off this energy it’s like a smell which is very unpleasant and creepy to be around. As humans we are giving off energy all the time and Serge Benhayon through his workshops and presentations has supported me and many others to regain confidence in our ability to read this energy /life. I shut this natural ability down as a child as it frightened me, the reflection of Serge Benhayon and his family playing with energy and seeing that it is not scary at all but a natural attribute and that this is just one small part of who we truly are. We are so much more than we allow ourselves to be that I know is true and if we can get ourselves out of the way and allow ourselves to truly know and feel who we are the world would be turned upside down over night.

31/5/2018 11:16:50 pm

What a roller coaster read – what you say about Serge Benhayon and his family is spot on and my experience too over the last 14 years and also what you say about the abuse and lovelessness in the world is all too common and such a sorry state of affairs.

14/6/2018 11:31:01 pm

It is a sorry state of affairs Nicola, and one that has not been addressed. What Eunice is doing here is exposing the lies we have accepted under the guise of 'family', when true family is shining forth for all to see in the Benhayon's.

31/5/2018 11:49:57 pm

Are we comfortable with connection and Love? The world seems to be devoid of these things, but is it a coincidence? Or have we deliberately looked to eradicate them? Sounds crazy I know but look at what happens to this family with utmost integrity and buckets of care. This in itself is worth serious consideration, for if we are against Love we are hurting ourselves.

31/5/2018 11:51:15 pm

Yes, it is definitely not luck that Serge's children are as they are, rather the reflection of love offered by their parents is the reason and that reflection of love is available and an inspiration to all.

Michelle McWaters

31/5/2018 11:54:04 pm

When I stop to reflect on the power of Serge Benhayon's livingness I am humbled by the steady love and wisdom he supports with. Without his example I would still be owned by my hurts, living life making it all about me rather than the increasing awareness that it is about all of us all of the time.

2/6/2018 08:19:43 pm

There is a beautiful balance and harmony in taking responsibility for and care of ourselves alongside knowing we are part of a grand whole.

1/6/2018 12:00:13 am

Re-reading this blog today has supported me to appreciate more what I have chosen to be a part of. In saying yes to the inspiration of the Benhayon family I have a developing awareness of the bigger picture and an emerging acceptance that not only do I have a right to a place within the universe, but that it is an equal place with that of all others.

10/6/2018 11:18:52 pm

Michelle, this is a huge claiming, for yes we all have an equal place in the Universe, no one has more or less. That is the beauty of Serge Benhayon's work, he presents the divinity within us all equally and can do so because he lives this in his own life.

1/6/2018 01:49:48 am

The Benhayon children especially inspire me beyond. To see that as young men and women we can be in life without losing touch with who we are is just heavenly.

1/6/2018 03:49:12 am

What I love about the Benhayon family is that they all have their own qualities that they bring to humanity, each is gifted in their own way and they bring all their many talents to us in full wherever they are in the world.

8/6/2018 12:39:07 am

Yes, it is amazing to see the wonderful qualities each one has individually but then put them together and we have the hugest pot of gold, gold they do not keep to themselves but share with all equally. For me the Benhayon family have re-written the meaning of inspirational.

9/6/2018 11:29:36 pm

The Benhayon family are a constant confirmation for me of how we are actually all one and the same in essence: the most gorgeous foundation of love, truth, authority, honouring of everyone equally, commitment and purpose and so much more. And how we each have our own unique expression this stupendous divine whole.

Lieke Campbell

1/6/2018 06:27:48 am

Yes I know the feeling of "family love = permission to abuse", the thoughts can come in that nobody will know and the family member won't tell anyone because they are family. It is great to expose this because this is not love, this is abuse like abuse is in any other situation and we need to see it as such.

Sarah Flenley

1/6/2018 01:14:05 pm

It is quite telling of our state of being that a family showing us how to be a family in the world with no abuse is having a lot of abuse hurled at them by a few and the media. Yet the standard model for families where a lot of abuse goes unchecked, is left alone.

jeanette macdonald

9/6/2018 10:38:26 am

That is such an important point you make Sarah and yes so telling of where we are at in society. Whatever abuse happens in the family stays in the family at all costs, (that can be groups as well) and any sign of something that is capable of making huge loving change is stamped out for fear of what is truly happening being exposed.

Sandra Vicary

1/6/2018 01:25:58 pm

Its so true what you say about Serge's four children Eunice. I have never come across a family who's children all hold this level of love, integrity and committment towards everyone they meet, between each other and all their family members and towards their work. There is absolutely no coincidence that these young adults are how they are, but because of the way they were borught up by their parents and consistantly shown that same level of love, truth integrity and commitment throughout their lives. This family are literllay the pinnacle of role models for any family.

1/6/2018 01:49:39 pm

To accept truth requires us to completely admit that the false sweet tasting substitutes we indulge in are not ‘close’ to love but absolute poison.

Rowena Stewart

1/6/2018 08:23:45 pm

No luck involved. These four children represent the true love that Serge Benhayon has made his family and working life about. The love and success that they lead their lives with today is a direct reflection of a quality that we all know within us, but seemed to have abandoned eons ago. Serge is not establishing anything new here, although it may appear that way, just resurrecting our true way of living in harmony with each other, so that we may all bring forth the riches within us for the benefit of all.

Alison Valentine

1/6/2018 09:37:09 pm

I agree Eunice I love what you have shared, the world should be knocking down the door of the Benhayon family to find out what it means to live as a loving family with no issues no family dynamic and absolutely no abuse of any kind. They are roll models for how true family can be and should be studied in every aspect of how they all live, so that all of humanity can be offered an opportunity to live this way too.

2/6/2018 12:33:42 am

'I don’t know many or in fact any other family who has brought up four children who have never taken alcohol, smoked, taken drugs or indulged in the usual teenage ‘not-so-healthy’ pursuits, who all excel in their own fields, with a level of throughput of work and projects way beyond the norm, who are not lost and checked out on social media or other forms of entertainment, and who have a level of wisdom well beyond their biological age and live lives of deep integrity, responsibility and purpose.' This paragraph alone is a powerful testimony of what we have in the Benhayon family, and the one man who stands behind it all - Serge Benhayon - bringing truth and love to parenting and to the world.

2/6/2018 04:23:29 am

10 years is a long time to know someone intimately, and to be able to know what their level of integrity is.

Monika Rietveld

2/6/2018 08:21:53 am

I agree, Eunice, the Benhayon family show 'what is possible when we make life about love, purpose and God first and foremost, rather than our individualised agendas, issues and dramaramas.'
To us it might seem magical because of how we live our lives, but shows it is natural and possible. Deep down we actually all know it for it reminds us of how we feel as one, up in the universe.

2/6/2018 11:55:21 am

I was so grateful when my Sister told me about Serge Benhayon, it was without question that I wanted to meet this man, she didn't tell me that much at all about what or who he was, just simple a man that was worth checking out. There was so many obstacle on the day trying to get there, tubes delayed then suddenly stopped working... got there in the end with a black cab and it was worth every second getting there.

2/6/2018 12:26:15 pm

There are no truer words spoken than the comments written here that Serge Benhayon and family is the true example and reflection of what family is professed to be but lived by very, very few.

2/6/2018 04:29:19 pm

The Benhayon family changes the dynamics of a typical family. It is a joy to see how the children are raised by the whole family - there are no dynamica just true relationships.

2/6/2018 05:27:59 pm

Spend time with Serge Benhayon and his family and I dare you to see if you can avoid their sweetness, humour and genuine care. To slander them as horrible in some way would never be possible if you just spent some time in their presence.

2/6/2018 08:12:40 pm

As you say, the reflection of true love can be quite confronting as it exposes to us all that is not love and that we may have even fooled ourselves was love.

2/6/2018 08:17:08 pm

A full, sure and felt testimony about Serge and his family, along with a powerful exposure of the abuse that runs rife and is increasing in society today... thank you, Eunice. When we wake up to the ways we contribute to the abuse in the world we will have a real connection to our responsibility and purpose.

Vicky Cooke

2/6/2018 08:26:51 pm

It is shocking to think that most of the abuse in the world happens in families!!! This can include things like bullying as well between partners and between children and that just because they are family they have a ‘right’ to treat another family member disrespectfully. One of the many things Serge and his family reflect in the way forward is true complete transparency. I have never known people so transparent and open in the way they live and are, not just when talking with someone but in everyday movements like walking or just being. I have known Serge Benhayon for about 12 years now and the whole family for about 9. There is zero protection, show, need but instead and openness and love where every person is held as an equal. Now that is what I call true Livingness.

2/6/2018 08:46:27 pm

It is a sad indictment of how far Humanity's standards have fallen that we see the Benhayon family as unusual in how they live with each other, rather than celebrating the love they bring because we have made it the norm to live with the same level of integrity, responsibility and compassion for one another.

2/6/2018 09:39:45 pm

Reading all these different blogs about Serge Benhayon, I realise I have said yes to all that he presents about the Ageless Wisdom teachings. I have been reflected such a different way to live and chatting to a friend recently I said I could not go back to my former life of misery and depression, there is not an ounce in my body that wants to be so lost again. It's by looking back that I realise just how lost and self-destructive I was and just how far I have come back to myself.

16/6/2018 07:15:14 am

The power of reflection to appreciate all that has changed and all that is possible... thank you, Mary.

Stephanie Stevenson

3/6/2018 01:09:12 am

Serge Benhayon and his family offer the most amazing role model of how true family lives - everyone being treated equally, whether blood family or not. This is the true and natural way of being - the future way of that is possible for all.
"It’s as if the world is their family and anyone who comes to meet and know them is treated and loved just as if they are a member of the blood family. There is no difference".

3/6/2018 04:33:47 am

I have met many of the children of parents who have studied with Universal Medicine and they all have a confident way of engaging with everyone they meet, adults and children alike, it is delightful to see.

Jonathan Stewart

9/6/2018 12:29:09 am

I completely agree Carmel and they are proof that the example lived by Serge Benhayon and his family is not some one-off weird phenomena but a practical inspiration that can and is being replicated in these individuals own unique ways.

3/6/2018 11:57:15 am

Serge Benhayon is re-imprinting a true and loving way of how family should be. The wonderful thing is he doesn't keep it to himself, he shares every part of his life with us all, there is nothing he holds back or keeps to himself. This is so rare when most families keep everything to themselves hidden behind closed doors. No hidden secrets, or keeping it for a chosen few, Serge shares all of his wisdom with everyone, I love this and it is a huge inspiration, he has taught me so much about family and what true family life is really about.

7/6/2018 09:18:05 pm

'Serge Benhayon is re-imprinting a true and loving way of how family should be." He is reimprinting what family is, and what it is to be real in the world with a family of four. There is no hiding in a cave for this man, he is out there showing us all what is possible.

3/6/2018 07:55:17 pm

Serge Benhayon is simply living our global parental duties, to raise children in the knowing of who they truly are, wise, sensitive and powerful human beings with a great many awesome qualities to share with the world. He has never raised them to be something other than who they truly are and consequently they are all extremely hard working, professional adults who positively contribute to our society and are a pleasure and inspiration to know.

3/6/2018 10:49:49 pm

To be a young person these days and not having indulged in drugs and/or alcohol is very very rare. And based on this fact alone, it is worth standing up and taking notice of how the Benhayon Family live, and not to follow them like lemmings, but to allow an openness of vision - which is seeing without judgement - which can lead to true inspiration.

3/6/2018 11:21:38 pm

Serge Benhayon's children 'are a great testimony to their parents, regarding the quality of their upbringing, the values instilled and the depth of love and care provided.' The four children are a living testimony to their parents and a huge blessing to all those who meet them. They are huge role models for people of all ages and inspirational in how they live.

4/6/2018 02:50:18 am

"There is no abuse in love" This may sound like common sense when written in this way but when life is put under the microscope there is plenty of abuse to be seen in the name of love and family.

4/6/2018 03:43:32 am

Many of us older folk have done the alcohol, the cigarettes and many of my friends used to take drugs, so it is very refreshing to meet with children who will never drink or take drugs - they are already starting out in life on the front foot.

4/6/2018 05:02:51 am

This family is not only living love and reflecting to the world just how amazing we are truly are, they are enjoying it! Most may look at their lives and think it is way too much responsibility and burden, but this family shows that responsibility is not only a great joy to live, it is the only way to live true love.

Karoline Schleiffelder

4/6/2018 12:33:16 pm

Reading this about a family living as a loving as the Benhayon family do, can for some and or many seem exaggerated or question it's validity, but that's because
for many this commitment to living the truth of love is not lived, where we are loved for who we are, we are held in love and the knowing that we are all equal in love as it is our very nature. The Benhayon family live love and show us what it looks like, how it feels, and we all have that potential. In deep appreciation to the Benhayon family for living as a family that is beyond the limitations of how many of us live in a world that does not value the truth of love and that love which brings an alchemy of transformation to our very lives, our families and beyond.

Nico van Haastrecht

4/6/2018 07:58:49 pm

The Benhayon family shows us what it is to live as a family together, a way of being in family we have lived before and in the future all will live. This family shows us how all families in the future will be like, that said, they live the future that all mankind one day will come to.

4/6/2018 07:59:32 pm

From the temporal we could say that the Benhayon family is a happy family and that they are lucky to have such children that are very successful in living their lives. But as I said this is only from the temporal thinking where we do not appreciate the fact that we can live two qualities off life, one from fire and one from prana, of which the latter is mostly lived on our planet.

4/6/2018 08:43:24 pm

Eunice, this really makes sense and reading it I can feel how its not about rules and trying to get our kids to be a certain way, that it is the reflection that we offer as parents/carers that is key and can inspire our children; 'It is thanks to the quality of love reflected to them during their upbringing by both their parents and which they have continued to deepen for themselves in adulthood that has resulted in the adults they are today'.

4/6/2018 11:13:13 pm

What we witness in the Benhayon family is the Love of God in action. The quality of his four children, and in turn the quality of their children, is a living example of what it really means to embody the Ageless Wisdom and raise children to know without doubt who they and how to embrace their future. What is offered to us is a huge reminder of what true parenting is all about and hence the opportunity to ditch the ideals and beliefs that smoother our children's potential and thus evolve the whole of humanity as a consequence.

4/6/2018 11:46:43 pm

As presented by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine many many times if we had true love and care in all homes we would have no war. We have a responsibility to live with integrity and respect in our homes (whoever we live with - friends, partner, family) and in how we treat both ourselves and all who we meet and are in contact with every moment of every day.

4/6/2018 11:56:39 pm

It is true that 'our individualised agendas, issues and dramaramas.... exposes, in fact, how most families are not actually loving with each other – but are living a reality where family love = permission to abuse. This sadly is all too true and can be seen behind the door of any family home, but Serge Benhayon is living in a way that shows us another way to be in families.

5/6/2018 12:33:47 am

The amount of love, transparency and integrity lived by the Benhayon family sure brings up a lot of reactions, exactly for the reason you described: 'it exposes just how far the rest of us and our families are from living that depth of love.'

5/6/2018 03:52:04 am

Since meeting Serge Benhayon and listening to his presentations, many of us have stopped drinking alcohol because we can now understand the energetic imprint and what it does in our body, aside from the liver damage doctors already knew about. Our social life is now alcohol free and it is lovely to attend a function where everybody has a great time but nobody is shouting loudly and getting drunk, and nobody has a hangover the next day.

5/6/2018 01:33:55 pm

The weird thing is that many people run a mile from true love. I have for example witnessed many people who claim to want a loving relationship with a partner but when it is offered they sabotage it and make all sorts of demands.

6/6/2018 08:34:40 pm

The caliber of Serge Benhayon's children reflect the depth of his wise and consistent love, and this has been one of the biggest healings in my life. Consequently I am learning how to treat everyone with the same level of decency and respect, including myself and hence resetting the standards of engagement across the board, all thanks to the quality of love that Serge Benhayon demonstrates throughout his life 24/7. When we base our relationships on love, respect and integrity, everything flourishes.

7/6/2018 12:10:25 am

The world should be knocking down the door of the Benhayon family to find out what it means to live as a loving family, because the domestic violence statistics clearly tell us that the world does not know how to do that. We have so much to learn from the Benhayon family about true family and relationships that we should be studying them intently. We have so much to learn.

7/6/2018 03:59:30 am

I see siblings be rude to each other and I see adult friends insult each other or be sarcastic and they may think it's funny but to me it feels like abuse.

16/6/2018 07:12:58 am

I agree, Carmel, and what is scary is that these forms of communication are another level of abuse that we normalise ('it's banter', 'character buildings and/or 'our terms of endearment') shutting us away further from our innate love, care and respect.

17/6/2018 12:44:04 pm

Those remarks, sarcasm, jibes, ‘ribbing’ each other and insults - what energy finds that funny?

7/6/2018 09:46:05 am

I love what you are sharing here Eunice and it certainly was for me a big ouch and I wanted to dodge the bullet and not want to see how the way I had been living was lack of true love, particularly with my family. See and feeling how the Benhayon's are with each other and everyone and the depth of Love that they are expressing the whole time is mesmerising. I can't get enough of it and I am deeply inspired to connect to that same love within me and to open up and express this with all too.

7/6/2018 12:37:42 pm

I am very grateful that the Benhayon family have re-introduced to me what true love is. And that is available to us all equally. The emotional version of love I had been living was exhausting me, true love vitalises.

7/6/2018 08:52:25 pm

"If we could replicate the recipe that resulted in children becoming adults of this quality, the world would be a very different place indeed." So very true and having now met this quality, it is my responsibility to restore it to my life and live it to the best of my ability, in appreciation of the integrity bestowed upon us all through the quality of parenting Serge Benhayon has established.

8/6/2018 12:26:25 am

As you say, when there is a family amongst us, the Benhayons, who offer such an inspirational reflection of what true family is you would think that everyone in the world would be “knocking down their door and clamouring for every shred of loving advice and wisdom they can share on the matter”. And even though there are many who are appreciating this glorious reflection there are some who are obviously not able to deal with the love that is coming their way and have set out to destroy it. Crazy really, when this messed up world of ours is needing every ounce of love it could possibly get.

Monica Gillooly

8/6/2018 02:02:43 pm

There is so much to be learned from the love expressed and show to all by the Benhayon family, and it does and can push people's button's as they feel and understand that how they live in their own families is not the love they see reflected here ... and as Eunice presents here, we have a choose to be honest about how we are and learn or to reject, dismiss and defame. The world and how we are in it is so obviously not working so it's time we considered another way and the fact that there can be a different way to live love, and the Benhayons live and breathe this for all to see.

8/6/2018 03:21:01 pm

They are human and not perfect but Serge Benhayon and his family can’t be faulted for their dedication to Love, supporting others and to truth. It’s confronting to see for many of us, as it shows how shut down and cynical we have been. Rather than lash out at this beautiful family - so much better to be inspired to change our life around.

8/6/2018 09:39:03 pm

The other day, I had the good fortune of observing how Natalie Benhayon was able to hold steady, with no reaction when being confronted by a man who was being aggressive. Not only was she able to not react, she also met him in the highest regard. It was deeply inspiring. Serge Benhayon and his whole family are the greatest role models I have ever met. They show how life can be lived with integrity, love and truth.

9/6/2018 12:24:27 am

The greatest abuse is the abuse of allowing, of tolerance and acceptance that abuse is a normal part of life. The lived example of the Benhayon family demonstrates that abuse is not normal nor has to accepted.

9/6/2018 03:16:12 am

The way we bring up our children sets how the world will be in generations to come.

Meg

16/6/2018 09:50:07 pm

Great point Carmel, we are not just raising our children but setting standards for the future.

9/6/2018 01:19:36 pm

All four of Serge Benhayon's children are a striking example of true parenting and are in them selves are superb role models that are empowering many adults to re-discover and embody our innate truth, integrity and respect within our selves once again.

kev mchardy

9/6/2018 08:54:38 pm

It is an amazing to know that we can live like Serge and his family if we choose and that is definitely where we are all headed when we finally realise and admit that the way we all live just doesn't work and never has, but being open honest and loving to everyone, no one excluded is what will get us out of the mess we are in.

15/6/2018 11:46:57 pm

'It is an amazing to know that we can live like Serge and his family if we choose.' It is amazing and the enormity of this is phenomenal. It will change parenting and turn it on it's head, bringing into families a new standard of love.

16/6/2018 07:09:47 am

The 'no-one excluded' bit really inspires me... an exploration into and learning about true equality... I love being a student of this.

Danna Elmalah

10/6/2018 03:24:11 am

It is that. Family is often described as love, but rarely truly have I seen a family who actually does not abuse each other. I have seen 99% of the families: putting each other down, being jealous of each other, calling each other names, manipulating each other, demanding and treating each other without respect.

10/6/2018 04:36:41 am

The Benhayon family are a great example of how different we can all be and how, when we live our expression in full, whatever that is, so many people can benefit from what we offer for all humanity.

10/6/2018 12:56:02 pm

The level of success that each of Serge Benhayon's children has achieved is quite remarkable in itself, but what takes it into another dimension is the complete absence of competition or jealousy between these four very accomplished and talented adults. Living proof that when we raise children to know who they are and how to adhere to their innate awareness, wisdom and integrity they will naturally commit to life with every ounce of their being.

10/6/2018 11:47:08 pm

The way the Benhayon family live stands out because they are adhering to standards we have long forgotten but are in fact our norm. And so we have a choice, to remember our true ways and re-align to the simple power of Love or throw rotten tomatoes at them because they expose the rot we have all allowed to fester in our family homes and in society.

Elaine Arthey

11/6/2018 12:45:24 am

A great testimonial, thank you Eunice. I have known Serge Benhayon for over thirteen years and in that time also met and had interactions with his four children, his former wife and partner and his present wife. This is an extraordinary ordinary family and it is awesome to see how the grandchildren are also developing in their own super wise ways.

11/6/2018 04:16:31 am

If you list the number of activities and projects each of the Benhayon family are deeply committed to it blows your mind, because most of us can not even comprehend that it is possible to fit in this amount of focus and activity in a 24 hour time scale, let alone offer every single area and every single person involved the highest level of care and dedication without an ounce of holding back.
They are a fabulous example to humanity of what we are capable of if we choose to live in a way that supports such level of expression.

Henrietta

11/6/2018 12:36:46 pm

The Dalai Lama once said something along the lines of spending 10 years observing someone before you know them really well - in terms of observing how they live and how they interact with their family and community etc. This gives you huge insight into how steady a person is and how much consistency they hold in what they present and if they live what they share and teach. Eunice, in knowing and observing Serge for so many years, you know that what you see is solid and unwavering and offering so much truth. I too have been observing Serge and his family for just over 10 years and to me they are true role models, here to inspire others to live with the same integrity and love for all. What a blessing and one that needs not be questioned as we have seen so much over the years to confirm the solidness on offer.

11/6/2018 11:09:45 pm

"If we could replicate the recipe that resulted in children becoming adults of this quality, the world would be a very different place indeed." So true Eunice,the world would not see the sickness, illness and abuse that is a constant reminder that we are not allowing children to be who they naturally are and grow up free of all the ideals and beliefs of how we think children should be and the long term affect this has on our health and wellbeing in our later years.

12/6/2018 12:17:43 am

''It’s as if the world is their family." And the world is indeed their family, no one is held less and no one more.

12/6/2018 04:33:33 am

I have met some children who have never eaten sweets and they are refreshingly calm. I used to eat sweets that I bought at the boarding school tuck shop, freshers or love hearts or fruit gums, spangles or sherbet dip. These days sweets are much more sophisticated and come in large family packets - supermarkets have sweets near the tills, so do petrol stations. I have worked in a holiday resort supermarket and heard the demands of fractious children. It is not nice. Chocolate and sugar are on offer everywhere and are not designed for stillness.

12/6/2018 12:07:09 pm

Family lives have changed so much over the years. When I was younger it would be normal to sit around the table every evening and have dinner together and talk (or argue) about the day. In my teens more and more of my friends would sit around the telly and have dinner watching what was on rather than talking to each other and now ... I would say it is quite rare for people to sit around the table at dinnertime but instead everyone all eating at different times fitting things in around when they eat and most children and young people on social media pretty much all the time. With what is said now for social media to be the parents of our current generation! I appreciate and love the ethics, values, standards and principals the Benhayon family have not just when it comes to meal times together but all times as a family and with everyone they meet equally so. The world really does need role models like this right now.

12/6/2018 08:24:43 pm

The quality of the Benhayon family sets a new precedent in parenting. The level of Brotherhood that is lived, between both parents and the whole family has enabled these children to understand the true meaning of respect, boundaries, how to work together, the impact of their choices, honesty and how to honour their own and everyone else's feelings. The result is an unprecedented commitment to life and humanity as they express their full potential in all they do and what they do is quite astounding.

13/6/2018 12:24:54 am

'I don’t know many or in fact any other family who has brought up four children who have never taken alcohol, smoked, taken drugs or indulged in the usual teenage ‘not-so-healthy’ pursuits, who all excel in their own fields.' This is a superb testimony to the parenting skills of Serge Benhayon, and thank God we have this example to show us a way forward with parenting.

Carnel Reid

13/6/2018 04:07:27 am

‘If we could replicate the recipe that resulted in children becoming adults of this quality, the world would be a very different place indeed.’ It is so lovely to meet children who are polite but not in a trying to please way, simply staying connected with themselves and with us.

13/6/2018 12:24:03 pm

Serge Benhayon reflects to humanity what is possible in parenting and that we can raise children who are absolutely loving and grow up always honouring the truth they feel. It is a joy to know his four children and welcome their support to our family.

13/6/2018 01:25:58 pm

It's so great to read something about Serge Benhayon that agrees with my own experience of knowing him for 10 years myself.

13/6/2018 01:47:35 pm

Serge benhayon has helped us to see that family is more than just blood ties, family is All of Us.

13/6/2018 07:58:09 pm

"The welcome is warm, open, loving and equal for all who cross the threshold – no-one is special or given special treatment….and yet everyone is special and feels special in the loving space provided." True love in action, a quality that levels and exaults the playing field, reminding us all of our divinity through the applied activity of true brotherhood.

14/6/2018 12:24:19 am

I have known the Benhayons for a long time as well and fully agree that: 'If we could replicate the recipe that resulted in children becoming adults of this quality, the world would be a very different place indeed.' It would be the world we have always wanted and dreamed of but have never fully accepted that it could be a possible reality. One step at a time, one family at a time and slowly but surely we will all return to the love we naturally are.

14/6/2018 02:17:49 pm

Serge Benhayon is introducing us all to a far wider perspective on the word 'family' so that we can see clearly that we are not attached to blood ties, the needs to treat everyone with decency and respect applies to everyone at home, at work and in the world. We all have a lot to learn about our relationships with all of humanity and we have a lot to learn about ourselves and how we are in the world and with ourselves. 'Be Love' he says and so many of us have no idea how, even though love is who we are.

19/6/2018 03:55:43 am

It is very telling as to how we live when we don't know how to 'be love'. What I really appreciate about Serge is that when I know I am falling short of what I know love is and the love I am, there is always enormous understanding as to where I am at, why I am there and what the way forward is. In the space created I find that I am much more accepting of all those things because I am given the space to understand that I am simply expanding into the next point of evolution.

14/6/2018 03:56:41 pm

With the Clarity that Serge Benhayon lives in it became super heightened that the way i was choosing to live my life was very far away from any clarity thats available to us all.

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15/6/2018 03:14:56 am

Serge Benhayon is the most amazing man I’ve ever met - and I feel strongly that it’s his example the world will be studying in years to come. But why wait?

15/6/2018 01:55:56 pm

Family ≠ Love. Quality in relationship = Love.

15/6/2018 07:29:49 pm

I have heard Serge Benhayon talk about decency and respect in terms of all our relationships and these are great words to remember in our families.

15/6/2018 10:54:49 pm

"I don’t know many or in fact any other family who has brought up four children who have never taken alcohol, smoked, taken drugs or indulged in the usual teenage ‘not-so-healthy’ pursuits ..." A significant achievement in itself in an age where there are so many harming influences so readily available to our kids and teenagers.

16/6/2018 07:07:42 am

'...humbly being open and willing to learn from those who have walked a little further on the return path of love'. This is the surrender (of all that we are familiar with but that is not of love) that will change the world.

16/6/2018 06:30:45 pm

How do instill values into your children? By the way you live. Children tend to copy the adults around them and Serge Benhayon absolutely lives everything he teaches, his words are never empty.

16/6/2018 07:17:22 pm

"If we could replicate the recipe that resulted in children becoming adults of this quality, the world would be a very different place indeed." And the real beauty of Serge Benhayon's teachings is that we are empowered to replicate the recipe in all areas of our lives, so that we too can raise our children to know who they are with the same confidence and wisdom by applying the same level of love, integrity and truth in all we do.

Esther Andras

16/6/2018 08:14:30 pm

"There is no abuse in love, there is no dark side in love, there is no emotionality in love. Love does not equal abuse nor does it give permission to abuse, be angry, rude, controlling, manipulative or any other form of emotionality." This is so good to see it written down. We are taking all the emotions as a part of life and do not even consider that we actually could live without them. But as you so clearly state, love has nothing to do with emotions, it simply loves. There is still much to learn for all of us when it comes to love and the Benhayon family is lighting the way.

16/6/2018 09:44:16 pm

Eunice you've done an amazing job at describing the Benhayon family - "It’s as if the world is their family and anyone who comes to meet and know them is treated and loved just as if they are a member of the blood family." This is one thing that always massively inspires and astonishes me, the amount of care, love and welcoming you get from all the Benhayon's in just saying hello in passing makes you feel like family. Imagine if all the world lived with this much care for each other, we could eliminate depression and loneliness and so many other disorders overnight.

Rik Connors

17/6/2018 03:37:01 am

It is without a doubt, and I agree with Eunice on all points, I have witnessed a family that is about love and responsibility first and foremost. I and most students of Universal Medicine would not be where they are at without the love and support of Serge, his wife Miranda, and the whole Benhayon family. We also now have 2nd generation Benhayon children that are setting the benchmark for how kids should be growing up -- I love how much purpose these young children reflect.

17/6/2018 12:41:36 pm

The Benhayon family have been a huge inspiration for my own family of whom I love dearly as we learn to build more love in ourselves and each other. It’s horrible when snide remarks or jabs are metted out amongst family members and it’s accepted as normal. Never mind everything else that occurs.

17/6/2018 01:44:44 pm

It is a joy to see any one live a deeply loving, dedicated and wise expression and inspire others to do the same. There are no words to describe witnessing a whole family living such a foundation together as well as joyfully sharing their wisdom and supporting others 24/7. The Benhayon Family reflect the future of humanity - in brotherhood.

17/6/2018 07:59:50 pm

When we meet true Love in the form of Serge Benhayon and his gorgeous family, we have to do a serious re-write of our version of Love on a massive scale. What is presented is so far from our common or garden version because of its absence of emotions, abuse and manipulation, that it can take us a while to fully understand and begin to live in accordance with the depth of honesty, transparency, tenderness, acceptance, appreciation and harmony that the word and activity truly mean. The beauty of it is that we have before a living lesson that we can continually refer too, to help us stay on track, a blessing to be deeply cherished.

17/6/2018 10:39:42 pm

'I don’t know many or in fact any other family who has brought up four children who have never taken alcohol, smoked, taken drugs or indulged in the usual teenage ‘not-so-healthy’ pursuits, who all excel in their own fields.' In a world where such pursuits as alcohol, drugs etc are the norm, this is remarkable indeed. To meet the Benhayon family is such a gift, for they reflect something different in the world, that life is not about how much we can get for ourselves, but how much we can give of ourselves to humanity.

18/6/2018 12:03:50 am

What I find inspiring about the whole Benhayon family is their steadiness and consistency, no matter what is going on in the world or which country they are in, they are consistently living their fullness, and offering the same standard of care everywhere.

18/6/2018 01:11:42 pm

' it shows just what is possible when we make life about love, purpose and God first and foremost, rather than our individualised agendas, issues and dramaramas.' This is true, through all the Benhayon's we see great examples of service to humanity with no individualistic gain.

18/6/2018 09:09:17 pm

"The people we say we love the most, we are in reality often most abusive to ..." Interesting how at present our sense of family seems to bring out the worst in us, as opposed to being the sanctuary of harmony, respect and honesty that in truth it really is.

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18/6/2018 09:57:18 pm

It is definitely not too good to be true, because it is all true. Serge and his family are all the real deal who are showing us all that we too can be the real deal if we learn to connect to the one true source and live from there.

19/6/2018 12:12:59 am

This sharing shows perfectly how as a race we fight tooth and nail to hang on to issues and ignore true grace, simplicity and beauty. But as Serge Benhayon show we really don’t have to.

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