Serge Benhayon and Family: Living the way of love

28/5/2018

by Eunice Minford

I have known Serge Benhayon and his family for ten years now (since 2007) and that is a fair amount of time to make an assessment of the man, his character and his family. I know all four of his now adult children well and can categorically state they are all remarkable human beings, with a huge capacity to love, connect with people, work hard, and give back to society. They alone are a great testimony to their parents, regarding the quality of their upbringing, the values instilled and the depth of love and care provided.

I don’t know many or in fact any other family who has brought up four children who have never taken alcohol, smoked, taken drugs or indulged in the usual teenage ‘not-so-healthy’ pursuits, who all excel in their own fields, with a level of throughput of work and projects way beyond the norm, who are not lost and checked out on social media or other forms of entertainment, and who have a level of wisdom well beyond their biological age and live lives of deep integrity, responsibility and purpose. If we could replicate the recipe that resulted in children becoming adults of this quality, the world would be a very different place indeed.

So is Serge just lucky to have four children who are so loving, caring and talented with no mal-adaptive coping strategies or is there more to it? Well first-off, luck has nothing to do with it. It is thanks to the quality of love reflected to them during their upbringing by both their parents and which they have continued to deepen for themselves in adulthood that has resulted in the adults they are today and which they now reflect to everyone else – and so the ripple effect of the love shown to them, is now shown by them to many others, including myself.

What is even more remarkable is that Serge, his wife Miranda, and his family share this same quality of love with everyone else – equally so – it is not just kept for family members or a few close friends. It’s as if the world is their family and anyone who comes to meet and know them is treated and loved just as if they are a member of the blood family. There is no difference. This is easily witnessed in workshops and courses, where Serge has unending patience to address people’s questions, not just during the time of the workshop, but before, during and after, including any and all breaks. It is pretty phenomenal to witness – as I have been at other courses and workshops where the renowned speaker cannot get away quick enough or takes a few questions from a small number of people before departing rapidly – but definitely does not offer the same level of care, consistency and love to all equally…. and does so time after time after time … .

Serge also welcomes people to his home to stay or have dinner, to join with the family, and be part of the family. To be treated equally as part of the family – so there is no pretence or false niceness or put-ons, no airs and graces – everyone helps themselves to the food on offer in abundance and helps out to tidy up at the end – just as a family member would. The welcome is warm, open, loving and equal for all who cross the threshold – no-one is special or given special treatment….and yet everyone is special and feels special in the loving space provided.

But what is even more astonishing having observed this family for ten years is the absence of family dynamics and emotionality that is ever-present in most, if not nearly all other families. Indeed, one might think ‘it’s too good to be true’ – there must be a flaw, there must be something hidden, behind closed doors life must be different – but this is the most transparent family I have ever encountered and there is no doubt they challenge the world and the typical family because of the depth of love they live with each other and everyone else – for it exposes just how far the rest of us and our families are from living that depth of love. Big Ouch! At the same time it is to be celebrated and embraced for it shows just what is possible when we make life about love, purpose and God first and foremost, rather than our individualised agendas, issues and dramaramas.

It exposes, in fact, how most families are not actually loving with each other – but are living a reality where family love = permission to abuse. Yes, you read correctly – we have got so far away from what love is, we think it actually means we have the freedom to abuse each other when it comes to family life. We behave in ways and say things to our family members that we would never say to friends or work colleagues. We feel we can ‘be ourselves’ and just let rip with whatever wants to come out of our mouths, without any censorship, responsibility or consideration as to its effect.

We can react and get angry, shout, yell, scream, call names, be rude, demeaning, belittling, jealous, controlling, manipulative and a host of other not so great and definitely not loving ways – and we think it’s ok to do this because its family! The people we say we love the most, we are in reality often most abusive to… and we mistakenly think it’s ok and that this is family love?! We think that love is allowing these behaviours and attitudes, where we are free to show our dark sides, just because it is family?! How lost and how far removed have we become from what love is, to think in any way, shape or form that such behaviours constitute any form of love?

We in fact often show more decency and respect to our friends and work colleagues in our interactions than we do to our family members. And just to be clear, if there’s not at least a basic level of decency and respect in our communications with our family members then there is definitely not love.

There is no abuse in love, there is no dark side in love, there is no emotionality in love. Love does not equal abuse nor does it give permission to abuse, be angry, rude, controlling, manipulative or any other form of emotionality.

So when a family comes along that actually live and show a remarkable degree of love not just with each other, but with all others equally and who willingly share the ‘how to’ of this, in the knowing it is not some utopian ideal but can be lived and achieved by all – the world should be knocking down their door and clamouring for every shred of loving advice and wisdom they can share on the matter – given that most abuse of all forms occurs first, not on the battlefield, not in the workplace, but in the home.

It says much about the state of the world that we as a humanity prefer to continue with our abusive ways….not just in our own homes but by abusing this family, defaming them, name-calling, deriding them (as the media and some others have done), being jealous of them and the love they share, rather than admitting we don’t have it so great and being willing to expose the lies, the abuse, the rot and the lovelessness we live with, and humbly being open and willing to learn from those who have walked a little further on the return path of love … that we too may enjoy truly loving relationships with our family members and all who cross our thresholds. Now that would be a win-win for all concerned.

396 Comments

Mary

27/5/2018 10:53:34 pm

It comes as a big shock that there is more abuse happening in our homes than on a battlefield and that this abuse is a daily occurrence and we do not seem to be at all bothered by it. Why is this?

Jennifer Smith

30/5/2018 11:59:14 am

We have not yet considered that what happens on a battlefield commences in our homes. We bring out to the world what we live behind closed doors, whether it's hidden or not.

Ariana Ray

8/6/2018 09:45:51 pm

Jennifer, you write 'We bring out to the world what we live behind closed doors.' We have no standard of care that extends from family to the world and back again. The world view is that 'our' family is ours to do with as we choose, and we present a view that all is well when clearly it is not. Serge Benhayon is presenting and living a way of family life where all are family equally and all held in the same love, which turns the worlds view on family on it's head and exposes it for the loveless ideology that it is.

James Nicholson

31/5/2018 01:19:50 am

I agree Mary and atleast on a battlefield it is obvious physical abuse whereas in our homes it can verbal insidious abuse disguised as love when it is anything but love.

Ariana Ray

31/5/2018 11:18:50 pm

There has been an acceptance that abuse is an everyday thing, a normal regular thing we all experience with a 'that's life' kind of attitude. This generates and enables even further abuse to occur.

Michelle Mcwaters

2/6/2018 10:41:11 pm

We have become very comfortable with it, haven't we? And yet as a society we sill say we deplore violence. This simply exposes the huge gap in our levels of honesty. We can't say we deplore violence if we allow ourselves to indulge in negative thoughts, shut others out, withdraw, speak aggressively, react and so on - all behind the closed doors of our homes..

Joan Calder

26/8/2018 10:39:44 pm

And more than that Ariana, there are therapies that encourage couples to work through their stuff by shouting at each other believing that this kind of catharsis will heal their differences. Serge lives the opposite of this through love and understanding, two ingredients of compassion.

Jane Keep

13/8/2018 02:53:40 am

Brilliant point and question Mary - we think because something is happening 'over there' that we are clean of it or that we have nothing to do with abuse e.g. of the media, social media, or abuse in other parts of life - yet, if we are not looking at the way we are living, and saying no to abuse, then we are colluding with abuse being acceptable. It's time to look at our own lives, (lovingly so) observing, and understanding where we live in any form of abuse, and as we make changes, so too does this impact on abuse in the world.

Chan Ly

7/1/2019 12:20:36 pm

We tend to avoid looking at the abuse that exists in our family because we may have an investment in one way or another. But ultimately, it all seems to boil down to our level of acceptance to love, the more we embrace love the more we are willing to put a stop to the abuse.

Joseph Barker

28/5/2018 12:22:00 am

The ‘dirty’ family secret of humanity is that we consistently attack true Love. The Benhayon family reflect that it’s totally possible though to live honouring, cherishing and celebrating it. What a way to go!

Michael Brown

29/5/2018 02:10:29 am

There is much to unearth from all that we have 'swept under the rug'.

Ariana Ray

30/5/2018 04:32:40 am

The 'dirty' family secret is fully exposed, as Eunice states 'If we could replicate the recipe that resulted in children becoming adults of this quality, the world would be a very different place indeed.' That we are not is down to humanity, but what the Benhayon's offer is a reflection of a different quality altogether.

Liane Mandalis

30/5/2018 10:23:49 pm

Often we attack what we crave the most – true love, genuine care, warmth, affection and connection. We miss it dearly and thus it is our deepest hurt when we have not invited it into our lives by virtue of the way we choose to live and interact with others.

Gabriele Conrad

30/5/2018 10:24:58 pm

The mistaken belief that love is emotional contributes to our false ideas and notions of what love is and should be. And our aching needs obscure our better judgment and ability to feel what is true and what is not true.

Nicola Lessing

2/6/2018 08:20:41 pm

Yes bastardising the true meaning of love and attributing emotions to it is one of the greatest culprits in the mess we see everywhere and yet we all know what is love because at some level we all know what is not love.

Michelle Mcwaters

2/6/2018 10:46:28 pm

This is such a pertinent point Garbiele. Love being emotional is a whopper of a lie we have fallen for. It panders to our needs which we are then owned by. It is hard then to break out of because, as you say, it is much harder to feel the truth of what we have accepted.

Jonathan Stewart link

3/6/2018 11:22:40 pm

Realising that love is not emotional brings a whole different understanding of love to that which is generally regarded as love. It brings truth and clarity to what is otherwise confusing and at contradictory.

Vicky Cooke

26/6/2018 01:54:34 pm

This is so true. Growing up everything I learnt from either others, cards, tv, movies, magazines etc taught me that love is an emotion and you have to be emotional to love. Then I met Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine who presented the truth that in truth there is not one once of emotion in love. The relief I felt in my body when I heard this it was like I could finally let go of everything I had been taught and held onto that deep down I did not feel was true. We have bastardised so much including the what love is.

Henrietta Chang

31/5/2018 12:59:16 pm

Spot on Joseph - it is exposed here in knowing the level of attack that the Benhayon family is under, yet knowing how much they actually lead the way in terms of true and caring relationships with all.

Chan Ly

7/1/2019 12:28:49 pm

Any form of attack towards another person is a result of resisting love. It is so simple when we understand this, and also then makes it super easy to not take the attacks personally.

Michelle Mcwaters

11/6/2018 11:37:20 pm

Without that reflection of the Benhayon family I know that this attack would not have been exposed so clearly for me. I am so grateful that they are in my orbit and that my understanding of what love is continues to deepen and grow.

Willem Plandsoen

3/9/2018 08:06:40 pm

To live not lovingly seems indeed to be the normal in society, Joseph. I am very glad that the Benhayon family is role modeling the total opposite. My family also says: loving interactions, based on true love, not pretending to love, are our foundation.

Chan Ly

7/1/2019 12:24:29 pm

So true Joseph, it is a secret that is killing humanity. We first attack ourselves, the love within and then we attack others for reflecting love, hence we have a world that is afraid to be love.

Michael Brown

28/5/2018 01:46:30 am

I have experienced dinners with the Benhayon family and can confirm that I felt 100% part of the family, love equally and interacted with at the same level of care.

David

29/5/2018 04:51:50 pm

Agreed Michael, for me it set a new standard of what family meal time is all about - that is connection, purpose and incredible support and love for each other.

Jane Keep

14/8/2018 10:55:32 pm

Me too. They live with such transparency, openness, nothing hidden, no secrets, what you see is what you get - completely authentic to the bone, absolute integrity in everything. My experience of 14 years of knowing the Benhayon family is that they are exemplary and are a daily inspiration to me and so many others.

Carmel Reid

28/5/2018 04:44:18 am

'It’s as if the world is their family and anyone who comes to meet and know them is treated and loved just as if they are a member of the blood family.' As you say, Eunice, they are a role model for parents, siblings and all of us in terms of loving relationships with everybody they meet.

David Nicholson

15/6/2018 12:41:25 am

Carmel beautifully put there is no difference between anyone, everyone is family int he true sense of that word. One where everyone is supported to be all that they naturally are.

Lorraine Wellman

25/9/2018 12:38:48 am

I agree, this role model as parents is inspirational, 'If we could replicate the recipe that resulted in children becoming adults of this quality, the world would be a very different place indeed.'

Golnaz Shariatzadeh

28/5/2018 07:17:54 am

When I read your comment about Serge Benhayon’s children I smiled. “If we could replicate the recipe that resulted in children becoming adults of this quality, the world would be a very different place indeed”. The fact is that one of the things that I love about Serge Benhayon is the way He reminds us that we are so much more than is able to manifest in this physical realm, and the clarity and practicality with which he brings that all into normal daily life. This to me is a sign of a true teacher of philosophy. Showing by example the truth of what they teach. Having four children, raising them in tight partnership with your ex-wife, and when you re-marry your deeply honouring relationship to both women offering the space so they can be best of friends. And all four children have grown to be awesome role-models of the greatest quality in their own right to hundreds of people. Yes a fabulous example of true parenting.

Otto Bathurst

30/5/2018 06:35:13 pm

All pupils love to see examples that prove the teaching that they are hearing; it makes it undeniable and infinitely more accessible. Serge Benhayon's family is the example of what he teaches.

Ariana Ray

31/5/2018 12:09:15 am

I can vouch that brining up 4 children is no small thing, but to raise children who live the quality that Serge Benhayon's children live is out of my experience. These young adults are exceptional in all respects of their lived way of life and totally committed to life, community, humanity and living love.

Golnaz Shariatzadeh

29/5/2018 06:27:14 am

It is far too common to get jealous, resentful and attack those who are the greatest sources of reflection for us to realise our potential. The fact is that this is usually not something we consciously set off to do, but the inner pain and self fury of seeing the gap between what we see and where we have allowed ourselves to drop is too much and we choose to numb ourself to it. And in that moment of leaving the fullness of our awareness we end up attracting all sorts of thoughts, emotions and behaviours without discerning that they are in fact not our true essence.

Serge Benhayon and his family are a great reflection for the greatest expression of the divine within us and they also lovingly support people to have a greater understanding about the energetic aspects of life so that we are not such puppets to the dynamics at play. It is ironic, but perhaps understandable that they have been at the receiving end of orchestrated smearing and abuse through a handful of obsessed malicious sources, just as so many similar Soul-led individuals have throughout the ages.

Ariana Ray

9/6/2018 11:40:47 pm

'Serge Benhayon and his family are a great reflection for the greatest expression of the divine within us.' This is an absolute truth and what an opportunity we have to be inspired by this reflection. Thank God for Serge Benhayon.

David

29/5/2018 04:52:34 pm

Eunice a fully agree with what you share here, Serge lives everything that as a society we say we want to have in our lives, yet instead of embrace that a few choose to attack it and defame it and then you introduce the media who would rather spin the lies than see that the one thing we all say we want is not only possible but is being lived by a growing number of people and out of pure jealously it is further attacked. It will only be a matter of time though until we all wake up and see there is no point in attacking what we all innately know to be true.

Jonathan Stewart link

19/6/2018 10:12:17 pm

And the jealousy arises because people do not wish to feel the pain and accept the responsibility of the consequences of their choices.

Melinda Knights

29/5/2018 06:51:42 pm

You have stated it very clearly Eunice, that our lives are either about love or they are not, and the power and responsibility to live love lies within each of us. And yes, we do need the reflections and wisdom of those already far ahead living love opening in family, community and business. Fighting those that live love does not make sense, not when it's what we all deeply want to experience in our daily lives.

Golnaz Shariatzadeh

14/2/2019 05:54:29 am

It is useful to keep remembering that 'living love is what we all deeply want to experience in our daily lives' and that the attack of those reflecting that love come through us when we are not ready to face the pain of not living such quality or accept the personal responsibility of returning ourselves to it. With this understanding it becomes clear that the most loving response is always to live the greatest level of love regardless, just as Serge Benhayon and his family so beautifully reflect.

Shami

29/5/2018 08:35:52 pm

Eunice, you really touch on a huge point here when you put together the massive 'ouch' of not living in family life with the same level of love for the whole of humanity, and also being inspired by the Benhayon family to at least want to work towards this. It is an interesting mix which I feel is on the one hand painfully exposing, but on the other deeply loving.

Ingrid Ward

29/5/2018 09:31:02 pm

Over the years I have asked many people ‘who is it who hurts you the most’ and the answer is always my family. It is quite shocking to hear but as you write so astutely, Eunice, it appears in this upside-down world of ours that “family love = permission to abuse”. Well to me this is the furthest from love and true family that is possible. But how wonderful that we have amongst us a family, the Benhayons, who are reflecting to us constantly what true family is and how it is possible to live this in a world that reflects the total opposite.

Nicola Lessing

2/6/2018 08:30:46 pm

Very beautifully said Ingrid. It is indeed shocking to see and hear the abuse that goes on in families and even worse when it is done in the false name of love. That provides a whole other level of abuse because you don’t even have the right to complain because it is your family and they “love” you. What a great recipe to tie people up in knots and destroy them so in their devastation they continue this abomination once again all in the name of love, or it is normal or everyone does it etc etc.

Nicola Lessing

4/6/2018 10:46:06 pm

Enter the Benhayon family showing another way. For some it is a huge inspiration and healing and for others it is repulsive and something they wish to destroy – go figure!

Rachel Murtagh link

30/5/2018 12:56:24 am

The Benhayon family is truly remarkable by the fact that they show not having dynamics is possible within a family unit and by the fact they live wise, loving and understanding to a level most of us have never experienced. They are also equally remarkable because they don't keep the love they have exclusively for each other, but hold everyone they meet with the same regard and love. This is the blueprint the whole world needs in terms of its relations and its relationships. The best role-models going.

Joshua Campbell

30/5/2018 05:03:31 am

I can certainly understand that accepting the fact that very very very few families truly live love and in fact live the complete opposite it is quite some pill to swallow, but it is by no means acceptable to be hurling abuse and vilification at those that do reflect love simply because it exposes the lack of love you live. We do no in any way learn or evolve out of this global mess if we keep approaching these Divine reflections in this way

Ariana Ray

14/6/2018 12:05:21 am

'We do not in any way learn or evolve out of this global mess if we keep approaching these Divine reflections in this way.' Indeed we do not. It's time to consider tat if we think we are doing so great, how is the world in such a mess? Could it be that we have accepted a standard for ourselves that says its okay as long we can have our TV, gaming and picture family, regardless of the quality we live our lives with. Yet all the while this standard is toxic to our health and well being?

Natalie Hawthorne

30/5/2018 09:45:30 am

It is an absolute honour to have the Benahyon’s in my life and I am continually inspired to the potential we are all capable of living.

Golnaz Shariatzadeh

6/6/2018 04:56:14 am

What a wonderful way to respond to reflections that show us areas in our life that are less than what it could be and pull us up to be much more than we might have previously even imagined.

Fiona Pierce

30/5/2018 11:32:29 am

Brilliantly said Eunice, thank you. There is so much true inspiration on offer from the Benhayon family so rather than get jealous, lie about, demean, deride or try and belittle what they offer we could instead simply be open to being reminded of the depth of love that we all have within us that we can actually practically bring to all areas of our life - absolutely a win-win for all as you say.

Jennifer Smith

30/5/2018 11:48:13 am

Its a very sad state of affairs that we think that any abuse within our own household is 'normal' and that we 'tolerate' it because it's family. It no surprise then that when met by a family that bring what they live at home to everyone that we should react. For it reminds us of what we can live, but are not choosing.

Désirée

30/5/2018 12:48:03 pm

So beautifully said: "There is no abuse in love, there is no dark side in love, there is no emotionality in love. Love does not equal abuse nor does it give permission to abuse, be angry, rude, controlling, manipulative or any other form of emotionality."

Mind-boggling how often the word 'love' is misused when we us it for anything other than its true meaning and its living quality.

Rowena Stewart

20/6/2018 10:33:46 pm

So true Desiree. The level of abuse and disrespect that we disguise as Love is quite unfathomable. Thank God for Serge Benhayon and his gorgeous family who are correcting our appreciation and understanding of this word through their living example. When we are faced with such strong examples, it empowers us to replace our own warped version with the true expression of this God given quality.

David

22/8/2018 10:06:30 pm

Desiree I fully agree with you here, we misuse the word love to the point that every version of it that we are shown growing up is anything but the love we all innately know and feel inside.

Karin Barea

30/5/2018 02:01:42 pm

Reading this I realise just how much I love Serge Benhayon and his family and just how inclusive they all are. I have watched all his children grow over the years and am constantly inspired. I know they know they are constantly being observed and they never put on a show but live a wisdom we all have. How they live teaches me what is possible in the world and in relationships. None of it is luck but conscious, loving choices.

Janna Goodwille

28/7/2018 12:21:24 am

I love that you mention this Karin, "they know they are constantly being observed and they never put on a show but live a wisdom we all have". Their transparency and openness is a testament to the truth of what they are living.

Otto Bathurst

30/5/2018 06:18:45 pm

As you say, his children alone are a testimony to the way that Serge lives his life. Each one a beacon of responsibility, commitment, dedication, love and joy.

Aimee Edmonds

30/5/2018 06:23:12 pm

I couldn't agree more Eunice, when with any member of the Benhayon family, I have felt completely met, honoured, respected and loved by their presence, care and connection. I have not ever met a family like the Benhayon's that don't have any form of manipulation or dynamics anywhere in their relationships with anyone. That is truly amazing in the world we live in now. We should be inspired and observe how they are, NOT, make false claims because we are not living or more importantly choosing the same. Thank you Benhayon's for showing the truth of how we are meant to be in relationships and within family.

Otto Bathurst

30/5/2018 06:32:13 pm

I and all my family have experienced, felt and been inspired by the embrace and beholding love of this incredible family. I have never come across another family like it and so yes - we should all be clamouring to learn as much as we possibly can from them. Anyone who denigrates, abuses or slanders them is, in my opinion, only showing that they are not prepared to accept or honestly challenge the abuse that exists in their own family.

jane keep

29/10/2018 12:08:01 am

I agree Otto. My experience over 15 years is the consistency of all of the Benhayon family - the care, understanding, openness, transparency, dedication and commitment, and responsibility shines brightly from every one of them consistently so.

Beverley Croft

30/5/2018 07:47:20 pm

Wonderful that you have shared this aspect of Serge Benhayon and family. I endorse all you have said here, they are such amazing role models for how family life and living can be, it is disgraceful that they face the defamation and name calling that has occurred. When we see and experience the abuse within families that so commonly exists, it is unbelievable that this family has been so mistreated. What are people afraid of - being found out? Having to face the Truth?

Suzanne Cox

30/5/2018 08:01:16 pm

There has never been a time when I did not feel welcomed to sit at the table as an equal with Serge and any of his children over the last 18 years that I have known them ... never an outsider ... which is really quite extraordinary. I came to Serge as a
client and he my health well-being practitioner but ended up with true role models in parenting and family found with the whole Benhayon clan. Very humbling, healing and inspiring to be accepted as one with this family.

Fumiyo Egashira

30/5/2018 08:40:10 pm

“There is no abuse in love, there is no dark side in love, there is no emotionality in love. Love does not equal abuse nor does it give permission to abuse, be angry, rude, controlling, manipulative or any other form of emotionality” – this is such a strong statement I almost want to go ‘Yes, but…’ and I realise that that ‘but’ is where we stretch and take liberty of and allow what is not love to be normalised.

Ariana Ray

12/7/2018 10:30:20 pm

And what is not love certainly has normailsed - we have a who world of 'normal' sickness and disease, appallingly abusive behaviours, shocking and vile abuse by the media who have carte blanche to write lies about innocent people and all of this is considered to be normal. We have a new standard of living presented by Serge Benhayon, one that needs to be 'normalised' for change in this world is well overdue.

Leigh Matson

30/5/2018 09:34:41 pm

Since my family came across Serge Benhayon, his family and Universal Medicine so much has changed between us as a family unit. There is far more openness and honesty amongst us, much more playfulness and now love. Imperfect but thats not the goal anyway. All void prior to knowing the Benhayons and the way of living they present.

Liane Mandalis

30/5/2018 10:20:43 pm

The Benhayons are a living example of true family – a love lived that is shared with all and that shows us unmistakably that it is love, not blood, that unites us. There is so much for us all to learn from this reflection, as it is our true way to be.

Gabriele Conrad

30/5/2018 10:22:08 pm

Jealousy and pride stand in the way of people wanting to know more, find out how to live this level of love every day and do likewise; it is there for all of us, after all.

Eva Rygg

8/7/2018 05:18:24 am

The pride of having to admit that we had it all wrong is eating us.

Jane Torvaney

30/5/2018 10:31:47 pm

The reflection the Benhayon family offers us through the truly loving way they live is pure gold. It can challenge us to our core and make us squirm as we feel the areas where we are not choosing to be loving ourselves, but how much greater it is to see the truth and take the opportunity to change than stay in the ignorance of a less than loving life.

Rowena Stewart

23/6/2018 10:30:27 pm

So true Jane. What a gift it is to have such a powerful reflection of true Love and all that can unfold as a consequence, even when it makes us squirm because we have not lived this level of love in our own lives. Through this incredible reflection we are offered a genuine opportunity to powerfully address our lack and restore this inherent quality to life once more.

Willem Plandsoen

30/5/2018 10:43:44 pm

If I wouldn't have studied Serge Benhayon for almost 10 years, I also wouldn't believe that his family life is without the usual dynamics but filled with love. My family life is not there YET. Jealous? No. Inspired? Very much so.

andrew mooney

30/5/2018 11:06:55 pm

I have also always been welcomed by the Benhayons as family and felt the warmth, respect and love that they hold each other in, extended to myself without reservation. The love they so obviously live with every day is shared with all equally.

Rebecca Wingrave

31/5/2018 01:04:40 am

Agreed Eunice; 'If we could replicate the recipe that resulted in children becoming adults of this quality, the world would be a very different place indeed.' It seems rare to have such responsible adults living with this level of commitment and dedication to themselves and all others.

James Nicholson

31/5/2018 01:18:39 am

Eunice, lovely honest sharing about Serge and his family. As you share one of the amazing things is that no matter we are all treated equally just like family members, no different. Which is very unusual as we tend to treat people differently depending on how long we have known them etc. but to be shown that we can treat everyone equally with the same level of love, respect and decency no matter who they are is a real blessing. It is how I would love the world to be and know it can be as we have a living example. The rest is now up to us to make this the normal way of living with everyone.

Peta Lehane

31/5/2018 02:40:40 am

All that you express here Eunice, brings yet another beautiful opportunity for humanity to realise that what we’re living is simply not it - not when the standards of the Benhayon family are applied. Everything they represent I had no experience of until I began to study with the School of the Livingness and Universal Medicine. Yet somehow I knew it, too...I had always known it to be wrong to be hurtful and callous, manipulative and jealous, violent and abusive, but it was all that was ever reflected back to me. Versions of love were never truly lasting and yet in the time I’ve known the Benhayon’s, the love between them has become deeper and richer with every passing year. It’s very palpable to feel when you observe their way of being with each other and I am always inspired to live this myself.

Carmel Reid

31/5/2018 02:54:25 am

This is true, the way the Benhayon siblings interact is always loving and the work they all do is nothing short of amazing. They are role models for us in terms of their careers and the work they do but also great role models for how to be in life: in the family, in business, in the community and with friends.

Golnaz Shariatzadeh

31/5/2018 06:38:31 am

I love the example Serge Benhayon and his family set so clearly and so transparently. Love, support, sharing of wisdom and the deepest level of care are not attributes to withhold from anyone or special gifts to reserve for a selected one or a handful of people. We think it is not possible and even naive to live in this way. But wow, when you see this lived by not just one, but a group of people, there is nothing more glorious and more confirming of the fact that the qualities of God do indeed flow through us if we just let go and let it.

Matts Josefsson link

31/5/2018 10:32:56 am

Serge and his family is a great example of how it's not only possible to live in harmony together but they also show that it's totally natural and for me it seems like they represent the future for us. As a society we have lots to work on when it comes to family life and relationships and Serge and his family is a great reference point of how it can be like.

David

3/6/2018 06:25:04 am

Matts at a time when their is so much dysfunction within families, when people fight each other and argue on a regular basis and even when those that appear to get on feel board and stagnent it is worth deeply considering how The way of the Livingness has transformed so many peoples lives and just what if this could be the thing we've all been looking for. As you say Serge and his family live the example of this for us all to take note of, and many many have.

Carolien Braakenburg

31/5/2018 11:09:22 am

I love your blog Eunice and you are spot on, the love this family is reflecting to us all should be studied unclose and learned from as too may in this world have given up to the point that they cannot believe that such love exists. I once was doubtful myself but after 10 years of observing the Benhayon I now know for certain that this way of being is most definitely possible.

Rachel Murtahg link

31/5/2018 11:16:53 am

Serge shows us in every way imaginable how possible it is to live with integrity and love. From work to family and everything in-between, it all speaks for itself.

David

7/6/2018 11:35:39 pm

Well said Rachel,, it is that whole of life love that is so incredible, nothing less important or less loving than another part. Very much a true role model.

Sylvia

31/5/2018 12:25:32 pm

'and humbly being open and willing to learn from those who have walked a little further on the return path of love'

That is beautiful said. To just acknowledge some walk before us on the path in evolution back to soul. Serge Benhayon is by his livingness a gift for us all to learn how to live our love once again. A true love which includes our concern for ourselves and equally so for all others.

Henrietta Chang

31/5/2018 12:57:38 pm

Eunice, thank you for this great testimonial, which not only flags the Benhayon family as a true and loving role model, but also highlights the fact that we allow so much abuse in our relationships under the guise of 'letting go'. If we are indeed letting go - what are we letting go of? A facade or a role that we play with others outside of our family? And then slip into being nasty with our own family members? But our natural innate way of being is to be respectful and loving and caring, and so perhaps it exposes the fact that we have left this part behind, to be resurrected again. And the Benhayon family is the living proof that it can indeed be done.

Matilda Bathurst

2/6/2018 08:29:29 pm

It is a real inspiration and gift to have a living model of family that exposes all our ill acceptance of it being okay to vent our stuff on family. Abuse is abuse and when we accept it in our homes we are accepting and contributing to it in our world.

Ariana Ray

2/6/2018 11:12:29 pm

This blog certainly 'flags the Benhayon family as a true and loving role model, but also highlights the fact that we allow so much abuse in our relationships.' We have allowed our homes to be the centres of abuse not centres of love. It is time for change and the Benhayon's are showing us the way.

Henrietta Chang

31/5/2018 01:00:50 pm

Love simply is. And we are Love. "There is no abuse in love, there is no dark side in love, there is no emotionality in love. Love does not equal abuse nor does it give permission to abuse, be angry, rude, controlling, manipulative or any other form of emotionality." What have we made love to be in our world/lives? A great question to ask oneself!

Eva Rygg

8/7/2018 05:25:17 am

Yes, and are we prepared to answer with absolute honesty?

Rebecca

31/5/2018 01:33:12 pm

When I look at Serge's children, you cannot doubt the love in the family, nothing else would deliver to the world 4 children so powerful, confident, vital and amazing.

Jonathan Stewart link

31/5/2018 02:08:30 pm

Without any doubt the example lived by Serge Benhayon and his family is one that if modelled worldwide would radicalise the whole way that humanity lives and functions - and in time this will happen.

Matilda Bathurst

2/6/2018 08:26:04 pm

Yes it is definitely a when, not an if. We will live alongside one another respectfully, with love and as equals.

Jonathan Stewart link

31/5/2018 02:16:27 pm

"If we could replicate the recipe that resulted in children becoming adults of this quality, the world would be a very different place indeed." Such a true statement and it is quite unbelievable that this family has had to endure the abuse from individuals and the media in the way they have and the fact is that this has not in anyway dimmed the reflection they have to offer - it has instead only magnified the reflection offered.

Kathleen Baldwin

31/5/2018 03:38:41 pm

This is a great testimony to Love, with a capital L in activity Eunice! And this is exactly what the Benhayon family is true 'Love in activity' for all to see and feel.

Golnaz Shariatzadeh

3/6/2018 01:03:34 am

What a great reflection is offered by the Benhayon family that Love lived consistently inspires hundreds and hundreds of people.

Ariana Ray

16/6/2018 11:22:54 pm

I agree Kathleen, this is a great testimony to Love, and a full dose of truth, which is what we all so desperately need.

Mary

31/5/2018 10:08:32 pm

All of the Benhayon family has played their part in supporting me to raise my child as a single parent. Now as an adult my daughter has a marker of what true love and true support actually looks like and feels like in her body. There is no coercing involved to get it right but the choice of free will which is everyone's right to choose what feels right for them. This is what I really appreciate about Serge Benhayon he presents the truth and if you’re not ready to hear the truth then so be it, but at least it has been said rather than suppressed so that no one has an opportunity to know in this life time what is real and what is not real.

Matilda Bathurst

2/6/2018 08:23:00 pm

Yes, Mary, this is one of many remarkable qualities Serge and his family offer - to share a lived truth without attachment and the need for others to 'get it'. There is patience and understanding in here that is absolute gold.

Mary

31/5/2018 10:30:42 pm

Through my friendship with Serge Benhayon and his family I have regained my sense of feeling the world and the people in it. I shut this ability that we all have down because I didn't feel able to cope with what was being presented to me by feeling how people actually feel. How to deal with the feeling of someone who watches pornography for example, that person may not know that they are giving off this energy it’s like a smell which is very unpleasant and creepy to be around. As humans we are giving off energy all the time and Serge Benhayon through his workshops and presentations has supported me and many others to regain confidence in our ability to read this energy /life. I shut this natural ability down as a child as it frightened me, the reflection of Serge Benhayon and his family playing with energy and seeing that it is not scary at all but a natural attribute and that this is just one small part of who we truly are. We are so much more than we allow ourselves to be that I know is true and if we can get ourselves out of the way and allow ourselves to truly know and feel who we are the world would be turned upside down over night.

Nicola Lessing

31/5/2018 11:16:50 pm

What a roller coaster read – what you say about Serge Benhayon and his family is spot on and my experience too over the last 14 years and also what you say about the abuse and lovelessness in the world is all too common and such a sorry state of affairs.

Ariana Ray

14/6/2018 11:31:01 pm

It is a sorry state of affairs Nicola, and one that has not been addressed. What Eunice is doing here is exposing the lies we have accepted under the guise of 'family', when true family is shining forth for all to see in the Benhayon's.

Joseph Barker

31/5/2018 11:49:57 pm

Are we comfortable with connection and Love? The world seems to be devoid of these things, but is it a coincidence? Or have we deliberately looked to eradicate them? Sounds crazy I know but look at what happens to this family with utmost integrity and buckets of care. This in itself is worth serious consideration, for if we are against Love we are hurting ourselves.

Jonathan Stewart link

31/5/2018 11:51:15 pm

Yes, it is definitely not luck that Serge's children are as they are, rather the reflection of love offered by their parents is the reason and that reflection of love is available and an inspiration to all.

Michelle McWaters

31/5/2018 11:54:04 pm

When I stop to reflect on the power of Serge Benhayon's livingness I am humbled by the steady love and wisdom he supports with. Without his example I would still be owned by my hurts, living life making it all about me rather than the increasing awareness that it is about all of us all of the time.

Matilda Bathurst

2/6/2018 08:19:43 pm

There is a beautiful balance and harmony in taking responsibility for and care of ourselves alongside knowing we are part of a grand whole.

Michelle McWaters

1/6/2018 12:00:13 am

Re-reading this blog today has supported me to appreciate more what I have chosen to be a part of. In saying yes to the inspiration of the Benhayon family I have a developing awareness of the bigger picture and an emerging acceptance that not only do I have a right to a place within the universe, but that it is an equal place with that of all others.

Ariana Ray

10/6/2018 11:18:52 pm

Michelle, this is a huge claiming, for yes we all have an equal place in the Universe, no one has more or less. That is the beauty of Serge Benhayon's work, he presents the divinity within us all equally and can do so because he lives this in his own life.

Michael Brown

1/6/2018 01:49:48 am

The Benhayon children especially inspire me beyond. To see that as young men and women we can be in life without losing touch with who we are is just heavenly.

Carmel Reid

1/6/2018 03:49:12 am

What I love about the Benhayon family is that they all have their own qualities that they bring to humanity, each is gifted in their own way and they bring all their many talents to us in full wherever they are in the world.

Ingrid Ward

8/6/2018 12:39:07 am

Yes, it is amazing to see the wonderful qualities each one has individually but then put them together and we have the hugest pot of gold, gold they do not keep to themselves but share with all equally. For me the Benhayon family have re-written the meaning of inspirational.

Golnaz Shariatzadeh

9/6/2018 11:29:36 pm

The Benhayon family are a constant confirmation for me of how we are actually all one and the same in essence: the most gorgeous foundation of love, truth, authority, honouring of everyone equally, commitment and purpose and so much more. And how we each have our own unique expression this stupendous divine whole.

Lieke Campbell

1/6/2018 06:27:48 am

Yes I know the feeling of "family love = permission to abuse", the thoughts can come in that nobody will know and the family member won't tell anyone because they are family. It is great to expose this because this is not love, this is abuse like abuse is in any other situation and we need to see it as such.

Sarah Flenley

1/6/2018 01:14:05 pm

It is quite telling of our state of being that a family showing us how to be a family in the world with no abuse is having a lot of abuse hurled at them by a few and the media. Yet the standard model for families where a lot of abuse goes unchecked, is left alone.

jeanette macdonald

9/6/2018 10:38:26 am

That is such an important point you make Sarah and yes so telling of where we are at in society. Whatever abuse happens in the family stays in the family at all costs, (that can be groups as well) and any sign of something that is capable of making huge loving change is stamped out for fear of what is truly happening being exposed.

Matilda Bathurst

10/9/2018 01:53:06 am

How back to front and ignorant we are.

Sandra Vicary

1/6/2018 01:25:58 pm

Its so true what you say about Serge's four children Eunice. I have never come across a family who's children all hold this level of love, integrity and committment towards everyone they meet, between each other and all their family members and towards their work. There is absolutely no coincidence that these young adults are how they are, but because of the way they were borught up by their parents and consistantly shown that same level of love, truth integrity and commitment throughout their lives. This family are literllay the pinnacle of role models for any family.

Joseph Barker

1/6/2018 01:49:39 pm

To accept truth requires us to completely admit that the false sweet tasting substitutes we indulge in are not ‘close’ to love but absolute poison.

Rowena Stewart

1/6/2018 08:23:45 pm

No luck involved. These four children represent the true love that Serge Benhayon has made his family and working life about. The love and success that they lead their lives with today is a direct reflection of a quality that we all know within us, but seemed to have abandoned eons ago. Serge is not establishing anything new here, although it may appear that way, just resurrecting our true way of living in harmony with each other, so that we may all bring forth the riches within us for the benefit of all.

Alison Valentine

1/6/2018 09:37:09 pm

I agree Eunice I love what you have shared, the world should be knocking down the door of the Benhayon family to find out what it means to live as a loving family with no issues no family dynamic and absolutely no abuse of any kind. They are roll models for how true family can be and should be studied in every aspect of how they all live, so that all of humanity can be offered an opportunity to live this way too.

Jane Keep

14/8/2018 09:23:49 am

Absolutely agree Alison - there is evidently so much that is not going so well on this planet at this time. We are the current guardians of it - this planet is on our watch. Serge Benhayon and the Benhayon Family are living the future - an absolute inspiration. Surely given how intense life can feel, and the ups and downs we can experience we would all be beating the door down to know more - and that there is another way?

Ariana Ray

2/6/2018 12:33:42 am

'I don’t know many or in fact any other family who has brought up four children who have never taken alcohol, smoked, taken drugs or indulged in the usual teenage ‘not-so-healthy’ pursuits, who all excel in their own fields, with a level of throughput of work and projects way beyond the norm, who are not lost and checked out on social media or other forms of entertainment, and who have a level of wisdom well beyond their biological age and live lives of deep integrity, responsibility and purpose.' This paragraph alone is a powerful testimony of what we have in the Benhayon family, and the one man who stands behind it all - Serge Benhayon - bringing truth and love to parenting and to the world.

Michael Brown

2/6/2018 04:23:29 am

10 years is a long time to know someone intimately, and to be able to know what their level of integrity is.

Monika Rietveld

2/6/2018 08:21:53 am

I agree, Eunice, the Benhayon family show 'what is possible when we make life about love, purpose and God first and foremost, rather than our individualised agendas, issues and dramaramas.'
To us it might seem magical because of how we live our lives, but shows it is natural and possible. Deep down we actually all know it for it reminds us of how we feel as one, up in the universe.

Natalie Hawthorne

2/6/2018 11:55:21 am

I was so grateful when my Sister told me about Serge Benhayon, it was without question that I wanted to meet this man, she didn't tell me that much at all about what or who he was, just simple a man that was worth checking out. There was so many obstacle on the day trying to get there, tubes delayed then suddenly stopped working... got there in the end with a black cab and it was worth every second getting there.

Jonathan Stewart link

2/6/2018 12:26:15 pm

There are no truer words spoken than the comments written here that Serge Benhayon and family is the true example and reflection of what family is professed to be but lived by very, very few.

2/6/2018 04:29:19 pm

The Benhayon family changes the dynamics of a typical family. It is a joy to see how the children are raised by the whole family - there are no dynamica just true relationships.

Joseph Barker

2/6/2018 05:27:59 pm

Spend time with Serge Benhayon and his family and I dare you to see if you can avoid their sweetness, humour and genuine care. To slander them as horrible in some way would never be possible if you just spent some time in their presence.

Nicola Lessing

2/6/2018 08:12:40 pm

As you say, the reflection of true love can be quite confronting as it exposes to us all that is not love and that we may have even fooled ourselves was love.

Matilda Bathurst

2/6/2018 08:17:08 pm

A full, sure and felt testimony about Serge and his family, along with a powerful exposure of the abuse that runs rife and is increasing in society today... thank you, Eunice. When we wake up to the ways we contribute to the abuse in the world we will have a real connection to our responsibility and purpose.

Vicky Cooke

2/6/2018 08:26:51 pm

It is shocking to think that most of the abuse in the world happens in families!!! This can include things like bullying as well between partners and between children and that just because they are family they have a ‘right’ to treat another family member disrespectfully. One of the many things Serge and his family reflect in the way forward is true complete transparency. I have never known people so transparent and open in the way they live and are, not just when talking with someone but in everyday movements like walking or just being. I have known Serge Benhayon for about 12 years now and the whole family for about 9. There is zero protection, show, need but instead and openness and love where every person is held as an equal. Now that is what I call true Livingness.

Rowena Stewart

2/6/2018 08:46:27 pm

It is a sad indictment of how far Humanity's standards have fallen that we see the Benhayon family as unusual in how they live with each other, rather than celebrating the love they bring because we have made it the norm to live with the same level of integrity, responsibility and compassion for one another.

Mary

2/6/2018 09:39:45 pm

Reading all these different blogs about Serge Benhayon, I realise I have said yes to all that he presents about the Ageless Wisdom teachings. I have been reflected such a different way to live and chatting to a friend recently I said I could not go back to my former life of misery and depression, there is not an ounce in my body that wants to be so lost again. It's by looking back that I realise just how lost and self-destructive I was and just how far I have come back to myself.

Matilda Bathurst

16/6/2018 07:15:14 am

The power of reflection to appreciate all that has changed and all that is possible... thank you, Mary.

Stephanie Stevenson

3/6/2018 01:09:12 am

Serge Benhayon and his family offer the most amazing role model of how true family lives - everyone being treated equally, whether blood family or not. This is the true and natural way of being - the future way of that is possible for all.
"It’s as if the world is their family and anyone who comes to meet and know them is treated and loved just as if they are a member of the blood family. There is no difference".

Carmel Reid

3/6/2018 04:33:47 am

I have met many of the children of parents who have studied with Universal Medicine and they all have a confident way of engaging with everyone they meet, adults and children alike, it is delightful to see.

Jonathan Stewart

9/6/2018 12:29:09 am

I completely agree Carmel and they are proof that the example lived by Serge Benhayon and his family is not some one-off weird phenomena but a practical inspiration that can and is being replicated in these individuals own unique ways.

Alison Valentine

3/6/2018 11:57:15 am

Serge Benhayon is re-imprinting a true and loving way of how family should be. The wonderful thing is he doesn't keep it to himself, he shares every part of his life with us all, there is nothing he holds back or keeps to himself. This is so rare when most families keep everything to themselves hidden behind closed doors. No hidden secrets, or keeping it for a chosen few, Serge shares all of his wisdom with everyone, I love this and it is a huge inspiration, he has taught me so much about family and what true family life is really about.

Ariana Ray

7/6/2018 09:18:05 pm

'Serge Benhayon is re-imprinting a true and loving way of how family should be." He is reimprinting what family is, and what it is to be real in the world with a family of four. There is no hiding in a cave for this man, he is out there showing us all what is possible.

Rowena Stewart

3/6/2018 07:55:17 pm

Serge Benhayon is simply living our global parental duties, to raise children in the knowing of who they truly are, wise, sensitive and powerful human beings with a great many awesome qualities to share with the world. He has never raised them to be something other than who they truly are and consequently they are all extremely hard working, professional adults who positively contribute to our society and are a pleasure and inspiration to know.

Shami

3/6/2018 10:49:49 pm

To be a young person these days and not having indulged in drugs and/or alcohol is very very rare. And based on this fact alone, it is worth standing up and taking notice of how the Benhayon Family live, and not to follow them like lemmings, but to allow an openness of vision - which is seeing without judgement - which can lead to true inspiration.

Ariana Ray

3/6/2018 11:21:38 pm

Serge Benhayon's children 'are a great testimony to their parents, regarding the quality of their upbringing, the values instilled and the depth of love and care provided.' The four children are a living testimony to their parents and a huge blessing to all those who meet them. They are huge role models for people of all ages and inspirational in how they live.

Michael Brown

4/6/2018 02:50:18 am

"There is no abuse in love" This may sound like common sense when written in this way but when life is put under the microscope there is plenty of abuse to be seen in the name of love and family.

Carmel Reid

4/6/2018 03:43:32 am

Many of us older folk have done the alcohol, the cigarettes and many of my friends used to take drugs, so it is very refreshing to meet with children who will never drink or take drugs - they are already starting out in life on the front foot.

Joshua Campbell

4/6/2018 05:02:51 am

This family is not only living love and reflecting to the world just how amazing we are truly are, they are enjoying it! Most may look at their lives and think it is way too much responsibility and burden, but this family shows that responsibility is not only a great joy to live, it is the only way to live true love.

Karoline Schleiffelder

4/6/2018 12:33:16 pm

Reading this about a family living as a loving as the Benhayon family do, can for some and or many seem exaggerated or question it's validity, but that's because
for many this commitment to living the truth of love is not lived, where we are loved for who we are, we are held in love and the knowing that we are all equal in love as it is our very nature. The Benhayon family live love and show us what it looks like, how it feels, and we all have that potential. In deep appreciation to the Benhayon family for living as a family that is beyond the limitations of how many of us live in a world that does not value the truth of love and that love which brings an alchemy of transformation to our very lives, our families and beyond.

Ariana Ray

19/6/2018 11:34:33 pm

Karoline, you write: 'The Benhayon family live love and show us what it looks like, how it feels, and we all have that potential.' This is very true but is not something we have all seized for ourselves. It is much needed, for what is on offer here is capable of transforming family life.

Nico van Haastrecht

4/6/2018 07:58:49 pm

The Benhayon family shows us what it is to live as a family together, a way of being in family we have lived before and in the future all will live. This family shows us how all families in the future will be like, that said, they live the future that all mankind one day will come to.

Nico van Haastrecht

4/6/2018 07:59:32 pm

From the temporal we could say that the Benhayon family is a happy family and that they are lucky to have such children that are very successful in living their lives. But as I said this is only from the temporal thinking where we do not appreciate the fact that we can live two qualities off life, one from fire and one from prana, of which the latter is mostly lived on our planet.

Rebecca Wingrave

4/6/2018 08:43:24 pm

Eunice, this really makes sense and reading it I can feel how its not about rules and trying to get our kids to be a certain way, that it is the reflection that we offer as parents/carers that is key and can inspire our children; 'It is thanks to the quality of love reflected to them during their upbringing by both their parents and which they have continued to deepen for themselves in adulthood that has resulted in the adults they are today'.

Rowena Stewart

4/6/2018 11:13:13 pm

What we witness in the Benhayon family is the Love of God in action. The quality of his four children, and in turn the quality of their children, is a living example of what it really means to embody the Ageless Wisdom and raise children to know without doubt who they and how to embrace their future. What is offered to us is a huge reminder of what true parenting is all about and hence the opportunity to ditch the ideals and beliefs that smoother our children's potential and thus evolve the whole of humanity as a consequence.

Vicky Cooke

4/6/2018 11:46:43 pm

As presented by Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine many many times if we had true love and care in all homes we would have no war. We have a responsibility to live with integrity and respect in our homes (whoever we live with - friends, partner, family) and in how we treat both ourselves and all who we meet and are in contact with every moment of every day.

Jonathan Stewart link

19/6/2018 10:24:40 pm

Very true Vicky, for like the ripples that spread across a pond when you throw a pebble into it so to how we live is a pebble in the pond of life. The more we live in integrity the bigger the pebble becomes as does the ripples and the pond as can be seen by the example of the Benhayon family.

Ariana Ray

4/6/2018 11:56:39 pm

It is true that 'our individualised agendas, issues and dramaramas.... exposes, in fact, how most families are not actually loving with each other – but are living a reality where family love = permission to abuse. This sadly is all too true and can be seen behind the door of any family home, but Serge Benhayon is living in a way that shows us another way to be in families.

Liane Mandalis

16/10/2018 10:58:34 am

That our homes have doors is symbolic of the fact we are able to close them at will should what we live in them not match the beauty we know deep within. When such beauty is reconnected to, it is able to then be breathed back into the world and the door to our inner heart (our true home) be forever flung open so that all can see and feel the wonder of such love.

Monika Rietveld

5/6/2018 12:33:47 am

The amount of love, transparency and integrity lived by the Benhayon family sure brings up a lot of reactions, exactly for the reason you described: 'it exposes just how far the rest of us and our families are from living that depth of love.'

Carmel Reid

5/6/2018 03:52:04 am

Since meeting Serge Benhayon and listening to his presentations, many of us have stopped drinking alcohol because we can now understand the energetic imprint and what it does in our body, aside from the liver damage doctors already knew about. Our social life is now alcohol free and it is lovely to attend a function where everybody has a great time but nobody is shouting loudly and getting drunk, and nobody has a hangover the next day.

Nicola Lessing

5/6/2018 01:33:55 pm

The weird thing is that many people run a mile from true love. I have for example witnessed many people who claim to want a loving relationship with a partner but when it is offered they sabotage it and make all sorts of demands.

Rowena Stewart

6/6/2018 08:34:40 pm

The caliber of Serge Benhayon's children reflect the depth of his wise and consistent love, and this has been one of the biggest healings in my life. Consequently I am learning how to treat everyone with the same level of decency and respect, including myself and hence resetting the standards of engagement across the board, all thanks to the quality of love that Serge Benhayon demonstrates throughout his life 24/7. When we base our relationships on love, respect and integrity, everything flourishes.

Ariana Ray

7/6/2018 12:10:25 am

The world should be knocking down the door of the Benhayon family to find out what it means to live as a loving family, because the domestic violence statistics clearly tell us that the world does not know how to do that. We have so much to learn from the Benhayon family about true family and relationships that we should be studying them intently. We have so much to learn.

Carmel Reid

7/6/2018 03:59:30 am

I see siblings be rude to each other and I see adult friends insult each other or be sarcastic and they may think it's funny but to me it feels like abuse.

Matilda Bathurst

16/6/2018 07:12:58 am

I agree, Carmel, and what is scary is that these forms of communication are another level of abuse that we normalise ('it's banter', 'character buildings and/or 'our terms of endearment') shutting us away further from our innate love, care and respect.

Leigh Matson

17/6/2018 12:44:04 pm

Those remarks, sarcasm, jibes, ‘ribbing’ each other and insults - what energy finds that funny?

Natalie Hawthorne

7/6/2018 09:46:05 am

I love what you are sharing here Eunice and it certainly was for me a big ouch and I wanted to dodge the bullet and not want to see how the way I had been living was lack of true love, particularly with my family. See and feeling how the Benhayon's are with each other and everyone and the depth of Love that they are expressing the whole time is mesmerising. I can't get enough of it and I am deeply inspired to connect to that same love within me and to open up and express this with all too.

Sarah Flenley

7/6/2018 12:37:42 pm

I am very grateful that the Benhayon family have re-introduced to me what true love is. And that is available to us all equally. The emotional version of love I had been living was exhausting me, true love vitalises.

Rowena Stewart

7/6/2018 08:52:25 pm

"If we could replicate the recipe that resulted in children becoming adults of this quality, the world would be a very different place indeed." So very true and having now met this quality, it is my responsibility to restore it to my life and live it to the best of my ability, in appreciation of the integrity bestowed upon us all through the quality of parenting Serge Benhayon has established.

Ingrid Ward

8/6/2018 12:26:25 am

As you say, when there is a family amongst us, the Benhayons, who offer such an inspirational reflection of what true family is you would think that everyone in the world would be “knocking down their door and clamouring for every shred of loving advice and wisdom they can share on the matter”. And even though there are many who are appreciating this glorious reflection there are some who are obviously not able to deal with the love that is coming their way and have set out to destroy it. Crazy really, when this messed up world of ours is needing every ounce of love it could possibly get.

Monica Gillooly

8/6/2018 02:02:43 pm

There is so much to be learned from the love expressed and show to all by the Benhayon family, and it does and can push people's button's as they feel and understand that how they live in their own families is not the love they see reflected here ... and as Eunice presents here, we have a choose to be honest about how we are and learn or to reject, dismiss and defame. The world and how we are in it is so obviously not working so it's time we considered another way and the fact that there can be a different way to live love, and the Benhayons live and breathe this for all to see.

Joseph Barker

8/6/2018 03:21:01 pm

They are human and not perfect but Serge Benhayon and his family can’t be faulted for their dedication to Love, supporting others and to truth. It’s confronting to see for many of us, as it shows how shut down and cynical we have been. Rather than lash out at this beautiful family - so much better to be inspired to change our life around.

Rachel Murtagh link

8/6/2018 09:39:03 pm

The other day, I had the good fortune of observing how Natalie Benhayon was able to hold steady, with no reaction when being confronted by a man who was being aggressive. Not only was she able to not react, she also met him in the highest regard. It was deeply inspiring. Serge Benhayon and his whole family are the greatest role models I have ever met. They show how life can be lived with integrity, love and truth.

Jonathan Stewart

9/6/2018 12:24:27 am

The greatest abuse is the abuse of allowing, of tolerance and acceptance that abuse is a normal part of life. The lived example of the Benhayon family demonstrates that abuse is not normal nor has to accepted.

Carmel Reid

9/6/2018 03:16:12 am

The way we bring up our children sets how the world will be in generations to come.

Meg

16/6/2018 09:50:07 pm

Great point Carmel, we are not just raising our children but setting standards for the future.

Rowena Stewart

9/6/2018 01:19:36 pm

All four of Serge Benhayon's children are a striking example of true parenting and are in them selves are superb role models that are empowering many adults to re-discover and embody our innate truth, integrity and respect within our selves once again.

kev mchardy

9/6/2018 08:54:38 pm

It is an amazing to know that we can live like Serge and his family if we choose and that is definitely where we are all headed when we finally realise and admit that the way we all live just doesn't work and never has, but being open honest and loving to everyone, no one excluded is what will get us out of the mess we are in.

Ariana Ray

15/6/2018 11:46:57 pm

'It is an amazing to know that we can live like Serge and his family if we choose.' It is amazing and the enormity of this is phenomenal. It will change parenting and turn it on it's head, bringing into families a new standard of love.

Matilda Bathurst

16/6/2018 07:09:47 am

The 'no-one excluded' bit really inspires me... an exploration into and learning about true equality... I love being a student of this.

Danna Elmalah

10/6/2018 03:24:11 am

It is that. Family is often described as love, but rarely truly have I seen a family who actually does not abuse each other. I have seen 99% of the families: putting each other down, being jealous of each other, calling each other names, manipulating each other, demanding and treating each other without respect.

Carmel Reid

10/6/2018 04:36:41 am

The Benhayon family are a great example of how different we can all be and how, when we live our expression in full, whatever that is, so many people can benefit from what we offer for all humanity.

Rowena Stewart

10/6/2018 12:56:02 pm

The level of success that each of Serge Benhayon's children has achieved is quite remarkable in itself, but what takes it into another dimension is the complete absence of competition or jealousy between these four very accomplished and talented adults. Living proof that when we raise children to know who they are and how to adhere to their innate awareness, wisdom and integrity they will naturally commit to life with every ounce of their being.

Rowena Stewart

10/6/2018 11:47:08 pm

The way the Benhayon family live stands out because they are adhering to standards we have long forgotten but are in fact our norm. And so we have a choice, to remember our true ways and re-align to the simple power of Love or throw rotten tomatoes at them because they expose the rot we have all allowed to fester in our family homes and in society.

Elaine Arthey

11/6/2018 12:45:24 am

A great testimonial, thank you Eunice. I have known Serge Benhayon for over thirteen years and in that time also met and had interactions with his four children, his former wife and partner and his present wife. This is an extraordinary ordinary family and it is awesome to see how the grandchildren are also developing in their own super wise ways.

Golnaz Shariatzadeh

11/6/2018 04:16:31 am

If you list the number of activities and projects each of the Benhayon family are deeply committed to it blows your mind, because most of us can not even comprehend that it is possible to fit in this amount of focus and activity in a 24 hour time scale, let alone offer every single area and every single person involved the highest level of care and dedication without an ounce of holding back.
They are a fabulous example to humanity of what we are capable of if we choose to live in a way that supports such level of expression.

Henrietta

11/6/2018 12:36:46 pm

The Dalai Lama once said something along the lines of spending 10 years observing someone before you know them really well - in terms of observing how they live and how they interact with their family and community etc. This gives you huge insight into how steady a person is and how much consistency they hold in what they present and if they live what they share and teach. Eunice, in knowing and observing Serge for so many years, you know that what you see is solid and unwavering and offering so much truth. I too have been observing Serge and his family for just over 10 years and to me they are true role models, here to inspire others to live with the same integrity and love for all. What a blessing and one that needs not be questioned as we have seen so much over the years to confirm the solidness on offer.

Alison Valentine

11/6/2018 11:09:45 pm

"If we could replicate the recipe that resulted in children becoming adults of this quality, the world would be a very different place indeed." So true Eunice,the world would not see the sickness, illness and abuse that is a constant reminder that we are not allowing children to be who they naturally are and grow up free of all the ideals and beliefs of how we think children should be and the long term affect this has on our health and wellbeing in our later years.

Ariana Ray

12/6/2018 12:17:43 am

''It’s as if the world is their family." And the world is indeed their family, no one is held less and no one more.

Carmel Reid

12/6/2018 04:33:33 am

I have met some children who have never eaten sweets and they are refreshingly calm. I used to eat sweets that I bought at the boarding school tuck shop, freshers or love hearts or fruit gums, spangles or sherbet dip. These days sweets are much more sophisticated and come in large family packets - supermarkets have sweets near the tills, so do petrol stations. I have worked in a holiday resort supermarket and heard the demands of fractious children. It is not nice. Chocolate and sugar are on offer everywhere and are not designed for stillness.

Vicky Cooke

12/6/2018 12:07:09 pm

Family lives have changed so much over the years. When I was younger it would be normal to sit around the table every evening and have dinner together and talk (or argue) about the day. In my teens more and more of my friends would sit around the telly and have dinner watching what was on rather than talking to each other and now ... I would say it is quite rare for people to sit around the table at dinnertime but instead everyone all eating at different times fitting things in around when they eat and most children and young people on social media pretty much all the time. With what is said now for social media to be the parents of our current generation! I appreciate and love the ethics, values, standards and principals the Benhayon family have not just when it comes to meal times together but all times as a family and with everyone they meet equally so. The world really does need role models like this right now.

Rowena Stewart

12/6/2018 08:24:43 pm

The quality of the Benhayon family sets a new precedent in parenting. The level of Brotherhood that is lived, between both parents and the whole family has enabled these children to understand the true meaning of respect, boundaries, how to work together, the impact of their choices, honesty and how to honour their own and everyone else's feelings. The result is an unprecedented commitment to life and humanity as they express their full potential in all they do and what they do is quite astounding.

Ariana Ray

13/6/2018 12:24:54 am

'I don’t know many or in fact any other family who has brought up four children who have never taken alcohol, smoked, taken drugs or indulged in the usual teenage ‘not-so-healthy’ pursuits, who all excel in their own fields.' This is a superb testimony to the parenting skills of Serge Benhayon, and thank God we have this example to show us a way forward with parenting.

Victoria

20/6/2018 02:18:21 pm

Yes this is very rare indeed. I have witnessed over the years that Serge Benhayons connection and knowing of who he is consistently inspires the same in others.

Carnel Reid

13/6/2018 04:07:27 am

‘If we could replicate the recipe that resulted in children becoming adults of this quality, the world would be a very different place indeed.’ It is so lovely to meet children who are polite but not in a trying to please way, simply staying connected with themselves and with us.

13/6/2018 12:24:03 pm

Serge Benhayon reflects to humanity what is possible in parenting and that we can raise children who are absolutely loving and grow up always honouring the truth they feel. It is a joy to know his four children and welcome their support to our family.

Michael Brown

13/6/2018 01:25:58 pm

It's so great to read something about Serge Benhayon that agrees with my own experience of knowing him for 10 years myself.

Carmel Reid

13/6/2018 01:47:35 pm

Serge benhayon has helped us to see that family is more than just blood ties, family is All of Us.

Rowena Stewart

13/6/2018 07:58:09 pm

"The welcome is warm, open, loving and equal for all who cross the threshold – no-one is special or given special treatment….and yet everyone is special and feels special in the loving space provided." True love in action, a quality that levels and exaults the playing field, reminding us all of our divinity through the applied activity of true brotherhood.

Carolien Braakenburg

24/6/2018 11:55:55 pm

absolutely Rowena, and over the past 10 years it has not faulted once, only continues to deepen and expand.

James Nicholson

14/6/2018 12:24:19 am

I have known the Benhayons for a long time as well and fully agree that: 'If we could replicate the recipe that resulted in children becoming adults of this quality, the world would be a very different place indeed.' It would be the world we have always wanted and dreamed of but have never fully accepted that it could be a possible reality. One step at a time, one family at a time and slowly but surely we will all return to the love we naturally are.

Carmel Reid

14/6/2018 02:17:49 pm

Serge Benhayon is introducing us all to a far wider perspective on the word 'family' so that we can see clearly that we are not attached to blood ties, the needs to treat everyone with decency and respect applies to everyone at home, at work and in the world. We all have a lot to learn about our relationships with all of humanity and we have a lot to learn about ourselves and how we are in the world and with ourselves. 'Be Love' he says and so many of us have no idea how, even though love is who we are.

Michelle McWaters

19/6/2018 03:55:43 am

It is very telling as to how we live when we don't know how to 'be love'. What I really appreciate about Serge is that when I know I am falling short of what I know love is and the love I am, there is always enormous understanding as to where I am at, why I am there and what the way forward is. In the space created I find that I am much more accepting of all those things because I am given the space to understand that I am simply expanding into the next point of evolution.

Natalie Hawthorne

14/6/2018 03:56:41 pm

With the Clarity that Serge Benhayon lives in it became super heightened that the way i was choosing to live my life was very far away from any clarity thats available to us all.

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15/6/2018 03:14:56 am

Serge Benhayon is the most amazing man I’ve ever met - and I feel strongly that it’s his example the world will be studying in years to come. But why wait?

Michael Brown

15/6/2018 01:55:56 pm

Family ≠ Love. Quality in relationship = Love.

Carmel Reid

15/6/2018 07:29:49 pm

I have heard Serge Benhayon talk about decency and respect in terms of all our relationships and these are great words to remember in our families.

Rowena Stewart

15/6/2018 10:54:49 pm

"I don’t know many or in fact any other family who has brought up four children who have never taken alcohol, smoked, taken drugs or indulged in the usual teenage ‘not-so-healthy’ pursuits ..." A significant achievement in itself in an age where there are so many harming influences so readily available to our kids and teenagers.

Matilda Bathurst

16/6/2018 07:07:42 am

'...humbly being open and willing to learn from those who have walked a little further on the return path of love'. This is the surrender (of all that we are familiar with but that is not of love) that will change the world.

Carmel Reid

16/6/2018 06:30:45 pm

How do instill values into your children? By the way you live. Children tend to copy the adults around them and Serge Benhayon absolutely lives everything he teaches, his words are never empty.

Heather Pope

29/6/2018 10:43:28 am

Its a telling statement that offers not only parents but all of us a way forward. Our way of living offers values to all we meet in each day.

Rowena Stewart

16/6/2018 07:17:22 pm

"If we could replicate the recipe that resulted in children becoming adults of this quality, the world would be a very different place indeed." And the real beauty of Serge Benhayon's teachings is that we are empowered to replicate the recipe in all areas of our lives, so that we too can raise our children to know who they are with the same confidence and wisdom by applying the same level of love, integrity and truth in all we do.

Esther Andras

16/6/2018 08:14:30 pm

"There is no abuse in love, there is no dark side in love, there is no emotionality in love. Love does not equal abuse nor does it give permission to abuse, be angry, rude, controlling, manipulative or any other form of emotionality." This is so good to see it written down. We are taking all the emotions as a part of life and do not even consider that we actually could live without them. But as you so clearly state, love has nothing to do with emotions, it simply loves. There is still much to learn for all of us when it comes to love and the Benhayon family is lighting the way.

Meg

16/6/2018 09:44:16 pm

Eunice you've done an amazing job at describing the Benhayon family - "It’s as if the world is their family and anyone who comes to meet and know them is treated and loved just as if they are a member of the blood family." This is one thing that always massively inspires and astonishes me, the amount of care, love and welcoming you get from all the Benhayon's in just saying hello in passing makes you feel like family. Imagine if all the world lived with this much care for each other, we could eliminate depression and loneliness and so many other disorders overnight.

Heather Pope

29/6/2018 10:42:08 am

The care and love is jaw dropping. Never once have I seen it falter. This fact alone offers that the inner development is greatly needed, for the outer openness to be present.

Rik Connors

17/6/2018 03:37:01 am

It is without a doubt, and I agree with Eunice on all points, I have witnessed a family that is about love and responsibility first and foremost. I and most students of Universal Medicine would not be where they are at without the love and support of Serge, his wife Miranda, and the whole Benhayon family. We also now have 2nd generation Benhayon children that are setting the benchmark for how kids should be growing up -- I love how much purpose these young children reflect.

Leigh Matson

17/6/2018 12:41:36 pm

The Benhayon family have been a huge inspiration for my own family of whom I love dearly as we learn to build more love in ourselves and each other. It’s horrible when snide remarks or jabs are metted out amongst family members and it’s accepted as normal. Never mind everything else that occurs.

Golnaz Shariatzadeh

17/6/2018 01:44:44 pm

It is a joy to see any one live a deeply loving, dedicated and wise expression and inspire others to do the same. There are no words to describe witnessing a whole family living such a foundation together as well as joyfully sharing their wisdom and supporting others 24/7. The Benhayon Family reflect the future of humanity - in brotherhood.

Rowena Stewart

17/6/2018 07:59:50 pm

When we meet true Love in the form of Serge Benhayon and his gorgeous family, we have to do a serious re-write of our version of Love on a massive scale. What is presented is so far from our common or garden version because of its absence of emotions, abuse and manipulation, that it can take us a while to fully understand and begin to live in accordance with the depth of honesty, transparency, tenderness, acceptance, appreciation and harmony that the word and activity truly mean. The beauty of it is that we have before a living lesson that we can continually refer too, to help us stay on track, a blessing to be deeply cherished.

Janna Goodwille

28/7/2018 12:34:46 am

"We have to do a serious re-write of our version of Love on a massive scale". Beautifully expressed Rowena, and this re-writing is certainly my current experience. It is remarkable that the Benhayons are offering an undeniable living model of what is possible in true Love and true family. Actually being able to see and feel the depth of Love we all are and can all live through what all the Benhayons bring is incredible and deeply humbling.

Ariana Ray

17/6/2018 10:39:42 pm

'I don’t know many or in fact any other family who has brought up four children who have never taken alcohol, smoked, taken drugs or indulged in the usual teenage ‘not-so-healthy’ pursuits, who all excel in their own fields.' In a world where such pursuits as alcohol, drugs etc are the norm, this is remarkable indeed. To meet the Benhayon family is such a gift, for they reflect something different in the world, that life is not about how much we can get for ourselves, but how much we can give of ourselves to humanity.

Victoria

20/6/2018 01:40:11 pm

True, and it is this purpose that inspires. We can get so lost when we loose sight of the greater plan and why we are truly here.

Carmel Reid

18/6/2018 12:03:50 am

What I find inspiring about the whole Benhayon family is their steadiness and consistency, no matter what is going on in the world or which country they are in, they are consistently living their fullness, and offering the same standard of care everywhere.

Carmel Reid

18/6/2018 01:11:42 pm

' it shows just what is possible when we make life about love, purpose and God first and foremost, rather than our individualised agendas, issues and dramaramas.' This is true, through all the Benhayon's we see great examples of service to humanity with no individualistic gain.

Rowena Stewart

18/6/2018 09:09:17 pm

"The people we say we love the most, we are in reality often most abusive to ..." Interesting how at present our sense of family seems to bring out the worst in us, as opposed to being the sanctuary of harmony, respect and honesty that in truth it really is.

Doug Valentine link

18/6/2018 09:57:18 pm

It is definitely not too good to be true, because it is all true. Serge and his family are all the real deal who are showing us all that we too can be the real deal if we learn to connect to the one true source and live from there.

Heather Pope

29/6/2018 10:11:52 am

In living with the media lies, and trolling that the Benhayon family have since 2012 I have never seen them falter even once. They remain an open book, getting on with the dedicated service each one of them offers, and equally holding all with love.

Jennifer Smith

30/6/2018 02:00:36 pm

This in itself is extraordinary. With the way media have reported and what they have said many people would have hid themselves away or it would have had serious implications for their mental health. But this had not happened with Serge and his family. As you say Heather they keep getting on with life, with none of this affecting them. There is much here on what can be shared for those who find themselves in a similar position.

Joseph Barker

19/6/2018 12:12:59 am

This sharing shows perfectly how as a race we fight tooth and nail to hang on to issues and ignore true grace, simplicity and beauty. But as Serge Benhayon show we really don’t have to.

19/6/2018 01:15:41 pm

Serge Benhayon presents to me a new way of parenting. And as I bring in kids to this world, it is a blessing to have a reflection of such love, and to understand and respond to the behaviours that are presented. Raising a child becomes about how they evolve and stay who they are, and so it is looked at in a totally different way

andrew mooney

26/6/2018 12:30:34 pm

I agree that Serge Benhayon has shown the world the potential and purpose of parenting with love and has inspired me deeply to be a more loving and understanding parent myself for my children.

kev mchardy

19/6/2018 08:30:35 pm

I have known Serge now for about 14 years and in that time I have seen so many people shine under his guidance and beam full of light/life, the way we are meant to be, not just the fraction of the glory that we are that most of us generally live.

Rowena Stewart

19/6/2018 09:59:52 pm

Our societies are made up of us, individuals living together. So it makes sense that the quality of our societies rests on the quality of family that we manifest in our homes. If we make the decision to restore love, respect and responsibility with our 'nearest and dearest', we create a strong and accountable foundation for the wider community, from which we can then address the ills we have allowed to flourish through our disregard and neglect of those closest to us.

Golnaz Shariatzadeh

19/6/2018 11:38:28 pm

Serge Benhayon and his family are amazing at reflecting how we could all be living a far greater level of love, dedication, responsibility and purpose and how glorious our most natural innate expression truly is. Their example shatters the reduced lineal concepts of human life and supports you to re-imprint them with a much more expanded spherical awareness.

Carmel Reid

20/6/2018 04:08:02 am

'Love does not equal abuse nor does it give permission to abuse, be angry, rude, controlling, manipulative or any other form of emotionality.' If this is a Truth, and my feeling is that it is, we cannot say 'I love you' and mean it if we are at any time abusive with our partners, children, parents or anyone else.

Ruth Ketnor

20/6/2018 08:52:51 am

Thank you Eunice. Yes why not be inspired by Serge Benhayon and his Family, there is so much on offer by them. Jealousy and hatred towards these truly loving people gets us no where just deeper in the mess we are in, but to be inspired by this family gives us the choice to start to step away from this and be the change we all crave for.

Victoria

20/6/2018 01:35:02 pm

The Benhayon family is a gorgeous reflection of what is possible when you make life about love, truth and purpose. It doesn't just happen it is lived each day and shows that true family is... and this we can all choose.

Victoria

20/6/2018 02:05:30 pm

How upside down it is that we can attack and abuse the very thing we want the most, love and connection...with ourselves with family and the wider world. It does not have to be this way as is beautifully reflected in the quality of relationships the Benhayons live with themselves, as do others too that live this way.

Vicky Cooke

20/6/2018 09:52:23 pm

If you want a reflection of or to observe someone who is genuine, sweet, lives with authority, deeply cares for others and treats all as equal, playfull, incredibly wise and all knowing, committed to truth true and the plan, has great purpose, never holds back, is super powerful yet incredibly tender, love themselves (their body and being to the core), truly makes life about love and people, embraces what they have been given and learnt to then consistently expand with the next thing to learn or bring, lives with such a dedication and consistency then observe Serge Benhayon for in this alone you will learn much.

Rowena Stewart

21/6/2018 10:01:29 pm

The amount of love, wisdom and commitment that the Benhayon family has is testament to the power of Love when fully embodied and lived. We could make a such a difference in the world very quickly if we take to heart what is on offer here and impart to our younger generations through our living ways the real meaning of Love, Life and our purpose here on Earth.

Helen Giles

21/6/2018 10:35:34 pm

As this article outlines, there is so much we can all re-learn from Serge Benhayon and his family about living life with love and care for all of humanity.

Ariana Ray

21/6/2018 11:10:46 pm

'If we could replicate the recipe that resulted in children becoming adults of this quality, the world would be a very different place indeed.' And so it would - to have children parented the Benhayon way and grow up to be adults with a complete settlement in the body, with no need for anything outside to make them greater - the world would be transformed with this quality of adults.

Carmel Reid

22/6/2018 04:17:03 am

The kind of love you write about here Eunice is not what you see in most families but it will come as more and more people are inspired by those who live The Way of The Livingness

Ariana Ray

23/6/2018 02:43:56 am

Teens who don't drink, take drugs or loose themselves in gaming - now that is something to sit up and pay attention to, alongside the deeply enduring reflection of how Serge Benhayon and his family live - they are an example for us all in true family living.

Jennifer Smith

25/6/2018 12:47:48 pm

I agree Ariana. There are not too many that don't participate in all of these behaviours. So much so that its considered normal for teenagers to do this - a 'right of passage'. We certainly need young people living in a way that is not this to see how loving and committed they are really both in family life and in community. The Benhayon's show this in abundance, humbly so.

Michael Brown

23/6/2018 12:23:30 pm

It's great to expose what happens under the name of family.

Joseph Barker

23/6/2018 12:43:50 pm

Amazing to be here on this planet at this time, in the presence and company of Serge Benhayon and his family. What they are bringing is truly game changing and I feel will come to be seen as hugely significant by all humanity. The science of energy and responsibility is the missing part of life’s jigsaw we have been hiding from right under our face.

Golnaz Shariatzadeh

23/6/2018 12:51:13 pm

I have witnessed this for years, but I never tire of hearing it mentioned: “Serge, his wife Miranda, and his family share this same quality of love with everyone else – equally so – it is not just kept for family members or a few close friends. It’s as if the world is their family and anyone who comes to meet and know them is treated and loved just as if they are a member of the blood family. There is no difference.” The Benhayon family are a great example of the future of humanity in true brotherhood.

Carmel Reid

24/6/2018 03:49:32 am

The way Serge Benhayon is with his children and the way his children are with their children is inspiring many parents to bring up their own children in such a deeply loving way that they greet you as confident human beings who look you in the eye with no judgment and with absolute trust. These children are a delight to be around and I look forward to there being more like that in the generations to come.

Ariana Ray

24/6/2018 12:43:24 pm

What Serge Benhayon is showing us here is the truth of how family can live - it's not what the world teaches us, but it is available to us by his inspiration, and we too can discover this for ourselves and make family a different experience in this world.

Rowena Stewart

24/6/2018 08:22:08 pm

All that Serge Benhayon has achieved with his family arises from a dedication to Truth and an inherent integrity that outstrips our current standards in the world today. The consequence of this integrity has produced four children who are a power house in their chosen professions, whose commitment to humanity is un-paralleled, something we can all achieve if we apply our selves with the same degree of absolute integrity in our relationships, family lives and work.

Fiona Pierce

24/6/2018 08:36:44 pm

It is incredible the level of depth of care, integrity, consistency and love that Serge Benhayon offers to all equally, the time that he dedicates to being there to answer peoples questions and support without any strings attached whatsoever.

Natalie Hawthorne

24/6/2018 10:50:09 pm

The Benhayon family is a fantastic reflection on how it can be with parents and children. As you say Eunice the way both the parents have been dedicated in deepening their relationship with themselves and each other has an immediate impact by reflection showing to their adult children that they too have this potential as well.

Carolien Braakenburg

24/6/2018 11:52:42 pm

We have become so far removed from what lovely truly is and from how a family can be with each other that our norm has dropped to an all time low. Then when a family like the Benhayon comes along it is mistrusted, thought to be not true or a set up etc. This is the saddest part of all, that we have lost our connection to love and true family to such an extend that when it is right in front of our eyes we no longer believe in it.

Jennifer Smith

25/6/2018 12:40:47 pm

Look at the family and home life of Serge Benhayon and what it shows is a man who is deeply loving. This is no different than the man walking down the street, attending to chores or even mowing the lawn. Deeply loving is his way and its that way that has very much inspired many to be that same way themselves.

Ingrid Ward

25/6/2018 01:16:40 pm

The Benhayon family feel so ordinary on one level but on another what they are bringing to the world is extraordinary, exposing the ill state of most family situations today. Serge Benhayon’s four children are such shining lights in the world of shadows we live in and with each of them having a “level of wisdom well beyond their biological age and live lives of deep integrity, responsibility and purpose” I know that by them reflecting this to others change cannot but come to the world which so desperately needs it.

andrew mooney

26/6/2018 12:25:12 pm

I agree that love begins with a basic level of respect and decency for others. This is the bare minimum standard that we should have in our relationships everywhere.

Golnaz Shariatzadeh

27/6/2018 08:03:24 am

There is so much about Serge Benhayin and his family and the way that they live that blows your mind. And that is a great thing, because very soon you start to realise that all the miseries and limitations of life does not need to exist, if only we too start living with an honouring of the wisdom and love that flows through our inner heart as they all do.
Another great thing is that they show how this is not a wishy washy thing - they are the most dedicated and hard working people I know and also the most open, loving and joyful!

Natalie Hawthorne

28/6/2018 10:43:21 pm

The point where you say love does not give permission to abuse I feel is huge. It is a reminder that we have just the same responsibility to not abuse as to allow abuse from another. Sometimes it is just easier to brush it of and not create a situation. This just feeds the lovelessness and when you start to truly allow Love in you know how important every aspect is loved or else in truth no real Love is truly taking place. Love is not compartmentalised it is All or nothing.

Jennifer Smith

29/6/2018 02:29:27 am

A truly loving home life, pays dividends 100 plus fold to the communities in which we live.

Michael Brown

29/6/2018 03:36:23 am

It's amazing for me to have a source of inspiration for how family life can be lived, with the upmost love and joy.

Eva Rygg

12/7/2018 10:43:33 am

I could not agree more - an absolute source of inspiration they are.

Heather Pope

29/6/2018 10:10:07 am

Each of Serge Benhayon's four (now adult) children are absolute points of inspiration in my experience too. I've known some of them since they were only in their early teens, and watched them develop into the most extraordinary people, simply by applying the Way of the Livingness. They are living proof of living a heart and soul centric life.

Jennifer Smith

30/6/2018 01:53:47 pm

The quality of how we live our whole life is important. Therefore, how we are at home will be how we are at work and visa versa - there is no difference. Most of us think we can have a work persona or way and then be a whole other way at home. Whilst on the surface this may be the case, but we know that what we are keeping is a facade. Serge Benhayon is the most transparent person I know, being aware of the to the detail. His family are also the same. Its really super inspiring to observe as well as uncomfortable at times too because what is being offered is a reminder of what I have not and am not choosing in my own life. But that is for me to examine and not for me to blame.

Lieke Campbell

1/7/2018 07:26:06 pm

I have also been deeply touched by how the Benhayon family lives with each other. They show love is much deeper than just functioning together. And also that love does not come with being blood family but with our choices to be loving with ourselves and each other.

Samantha Davidson

8/7/2018 02:11:43 am

I agree, they do inspire those around them through how they live the truth that family is not about blood. We are all connected and we are all family within humanity. Separation harms us.

Ariana Ray

1/7/2018 11:24:14 pm

Serge Benhayon and his family are living a way of love - a way that we can all choose to replicate - or not. His commitment to living love is an absolute with no time out or no variation for any reason whatsoever. That is what is so inspiring about him - he lives the absolute truth.

Nattalija

2/7/2018 01:26:30 am

The Benhayon family hold the truth of what love and family equals, nothing more or less, but a willingness to hold each and every person with a divine level of deep appreciation and understanding. They are truly inspiring many world -wide.

Monika Rietveld

2/7/2018 10:37:08 am

'It felt a bit like he had reached deep inside of me and given the real me a big hug! I felt like I had been truly seen for who I was, as a complete equal.' It felt exactly like this for me, like a part of me that wasn't seen before got awakened again and I was met with so much love and absolute equality it felt like a big healing.

Matilda Bathurst

2/7/2018 10:44:20 pm

Being open and willing to learn in our relationships is a brilliant standard to hold; just applying the word open to my body and giving myself permission to be so, has instant and remarkable effects.

Ariana Ray

3/7/2018 07:57:43 am

Serge Benhayon's example of family life is very powerful, it is pure inspiration and certainly something I am working towards in my own life. Without his inspiration I know my life would be very different today - it has lifted me up and over what I was living in and shown me there is another way to live.

Golnaz Shariatzadeh

3/7/2018 09:19:26 am

It is deeply inspiring when someone chooses to transparently live a life of love, harmony, wisdom, joy, dedication, support of everyone and deeply honouring of us All. Also there is no price you can place on receiving this reflection and support in a manner that unequivocally lets you know not only that you too could be living this, but what's more that this is actually your true essence and innate expression.
Serve Benhayon and his family live such a life and reflection 24/7.

Carola Woods link

4/7/2018 12:01:01 pm

It is that we have removed ourselves from the understanding and knowing of what love is, due to the fact that we are avoiding the responsibility to live this love for ourselves, which is in truth who we are in essence. When we willingly return to holding ourselves in the highest regard, that is in love, we then will hold all other in the equalness that love is. Serge Benhayon and the Benhayon family are indeed the personification of what it is to allow the quality of love be at the heart of all they do and all they are with, a model without a doubt of what is possible for us to us all to also begin to live together and realise our truest and divine potential.

Victoria

4/7/2018 11:46:33 pm

Ahh, Eunice! I absolutely love your articles. It is so simple, the Benhayon family are simply and purely living with love filled hearts. So many of us are not willing to admit that we don’t do the same and are therefore looking to put down anything and anyone who will show us up.

Eva Rygg

12/7/2018 10:37:48 am

How true Victoria - the need to put down the ones that are reflecting the rot we have chosen to live in is obvious.

Carmel Reid

5/7/2018 04:08:14 am

Serge Benhayon is helping us to understand ourselves and all our relationships and offers himself as a beautiful role model as both a parent and a husband. He is totally open with us, nothing is ever held back.

Joseph Barker

5/7/2018 08:36:40 pm

We think the only option to turning a blind eye is war, and certainly our history seems to bear that out. But what Serge Benhayon shows is that when the truth is presented with care and true love, there’s nothing that’s attached or to be fearful of.

Ariana Ray

5/7/2018 11:08:34 pm

If we look at the world around us, who is offering a way of family life lived from love? I've not seen this until Serge Benhayon came along. There are many who like to talk about family living from love, but there's no evidence of a commitment to living the way of love until the Benhayon family came on the scene. They are a beacon of light in terms of inspiration for us all to learn from.

Stephanie Stevenson

6/7/2018 09:27:25 pm

I agree Eunice - Serge Benhayon lives and reflects a true model for parenting with Love for all to benefit from.
"It is thanks to the quality of love reflected to them during their upbringing by both their parents and which they have continued to deepen for themselves in adulthood that has resulted in the adults they are today and which they now reflect to everyone else – and so the ripple effect of the love shown to them, is now shown by them to many others, including myself".

Liane Mandalis

7/7/2018 01:28:50 pm

Serge Benhayon and his family are a model of what a true family is, reminding us that our family are not people that are randomly plonked into our lives, but more so a constellated group through which we can choose to evolve. That is, we are brought together depending on what needs to be looked at for each of us in this particular life. In some cases this is through hardship and needing to renounce certain seemingly ‘inherited’ patterns and traits, and in other cases it is to really show the world how, if we create a harmonious family in our own homes, then we can also create a harmonious family on a global scale in our communities and across the world. Sometimes it is a bit of both of these things.

Jonathan Stewart link

7/7/2018 10:39:42 pm

The reflection that Serge Benhayon and his family reflect is a truly loving and transformational one indeed for, "If we could replicate the recipe that resulted in children becoming adults of this quality, the world would be a very different place indeed."

Samantha Davidson

8/7/2018 02:09:33 am

This is a very powerful statement and I relate to it...."There is no abuse in love, there is no dark side in love, there is no emotionality in love. Love does not equal abuse nor does it give permission to abuse, be angry, rude, controlling, manipulative or any other form of emotionality." We have in society lost the true meaning of love and we get caught in the emotional idea of it, this is not it, form my experience of returning to the true lived meaning of love.

Eva Rygg

8/7/2018 04:58:12 am

Wow Eunice, thank you for writing this testimonial and much needed sharing of truth. Serge Benhayon and his family are ground breaking role models that will eventually change the entire world.

Eva Rygg

8/7/2018 05:03:53 am

Exposing that we are 'living a reality where family love = permission to abuse' - Put like that, it ought to be a REAL wakeup call for all.

Michael Brown

10/7/2018 01:44:55 am

I have come to know many of the Benhayon family very well over the last few years, and can say that they inspire me beyond belief to build a life that is based around what is true, rather than what is right.

Gabriele Conrad

16/7/2018 07:13:44 pm

Truth, what is true and what is love, far outweigh any right or wrong which are, after all, only a better or worse version of each other or, in other words, two sides of the very same coin.

Joseph Barker

11/7/2018 12:18:17 am

So many of us walk around putting on a charade of a calm surface while all the time emotions and hurts bubble underneath. We call those who can button their lip, those who are doing well - but the real way forward is transparency, honesty and honouring our sensitivity. Serge Benhayon is an exemplar of this and so much more.

Mary

13/7/2018 11:18:11 pm

In a world that to me seems seemingly out of control when teenagers and young adults are suiciding because they cannot cope with life and this tragedy seems to be getting worse. The Benhayon family stands out against the tide as it were of the world to say there is another way to live. This is a very loving, non-abusive way to live, with absolute integrity and respect for one another. These values are what Serge Benhayon lives by, and supports others to do the same and then see the changes and reap the benefits of living from the heart first.

Joseph Barker

15/7/2018 11:12:48 pm

Reading the profound healings Serge Benhayon has inspired and the true integrity he lives with you might think he would be a serious man. Nothing could be further from the truth - he is seriously funny and playful. He always reminds me to keep life light, whatever I do.

Eva Rygg

29/7/2018 05:24:59 am

'he is seriously funny and playful' - He certainly is, Serge Benhayon is the most playful person I have ever met - the way he has an audience crack up in laughter is priceless.

Gabriele Conrad

16/7/2018 07:11:25 pm

There is only love and nothing but Love in God's house and thus, everyone by virtue of where we all come from, is family.

Willem Plandsoen

17/7/2018 08:06:50 pm

The way the Benhayon's live is for me also a source of inspiration: it shows that a family, partners can live together lovingly, without discussions, fights or even abuse.

Sandra Vicary

18/7/2018 10:09:10 am

It is so true what you say here Eunice about Serge's four children. They are true, deeply inspirational role models for not only our youth of today, but for every man woman and child. We would most certainly live in an extraordinarily different world if all our youth lived with this same level of integrity and self responsibility.

Natalie Hawthorne

18/7/2018 01:56:32 pm

It is no exaggeration or emphasis on how Serge and Miranda Benhayon treat everyone equally with the amount of Love that they have for each other they have with all. The Love that they are is exactly what they are sharing and it is so holding and embracing it is simple just divine to be around them.

Joseph Barker

19/7/2018 12:09:49 am

The way we live in every moment of our life affects everything. This is what I have heard Serge Benhayon present. Yet amongst all the abuse and names I’ve seen hurled at him, never once have I seen someone address what he has actually said. To me this is so revealing.

Michael Brown

19/7/2018 06:06:12 am

Living the way of love is not something that just happens. It takes much commitment and absolute willingness.

Michelle Mcwaters

19/7/2018 10:05:51 pm

'They alone are a great testimony to their parents, regarding the quality of their upbringing, the values instilled and the depth of love and care provided.' If we were to take this one element of Serge Benhayon's life we would have to admit how remarkable this is. In this admission we would surely have to ask questions about how he and his wife managed to do this! I have found, however, that with anything remarkable like this, or even broken bones that have suddenly healed (this has happened a lot in the esoteric community), others have had a tendency to dismiss what they see in front of them because they simply can't compute what they have just witnessed, so used to the norms we have created that aren't true. Serge Benhayon, in every aspect of his life, challenges those norms and exposes them for what they are in the livingness of what is true. He is one incredibly remarkable man, and yet so normal.

Carmel Reid

20/7/2018 12:29:55 pm

The absence fo family dynamics is inspiring - so often you hear siblings being rude and disrespectful to each other or you hear parents speaking sharply to their children and there is none of that in the Benhayon family. I have only heard them speak to each other with the utmost respect and decency.

Eva Rygg

29/7/2018 05:19:31 am

I have noticed this as well. When children/siblings learn to be disrespectful towards each other this is something that often remains an issue/hurt between them also as adults and so the relationship between them is often hiding an old and deep resentment.

Matilda Bathurst

21/7/2018 08:43:34 pm

Making life about 'love, God and purpose'... Serge Benhayon and his family not only live this but also show how simple, sweet and clear life is when lived this way.

Fiona Pierce

22/7/2018 02:30:37 am

This is the most truly transparent and inclusive family I have ever met as well, the way that they live is an inspiration to me.

Heather Di Marino

22/7/2018 01:20:16 pm

I couldn't agree more. This man and his family are absolute true role modals in a world that desperately needs and is crying out for another way to live. I too, have had the good fortune of knowing this family for the past 10 years and each one of them has demonstrated time and again how it is possible to be open, transparent and totally committed to life, love and people. By simply observing them over the years, I have been inspired to bring more of me to every relationship and give back more to society; my life has quite simply blossomed as a result. I have so much to thank them for.

Janine Whitling

22/7/2018 11:10:57 pm

I wish i had experienced this awesome family unit when i was growing up just to see and feel something different was possible. Instead my norm and the norm of my friends, was that families were usually the cause of misery, pain and ongoing issues. Oh to have more Benhayon families in the world!!

Eva Rygg

29/7/2018 05:08:32 am

Yes to that! We sorely need to see a different reflection of what true family is really about.

Jennifer Smith

23/7/2018 11:51:24 am

Its only when we see and feel love that we realise how far away we have been from living that in our own lives. Up until that point we think what we live is love. Sometimes we don't want to see that an that's ok. But we do need to see what is possible in family life because where is it for most is not great.

Henrietta Chang

23/7/2018 12:18:57 pm

The Dalai Lama was one who said that it is wise to observe someone closely for a length of time (as in 10 years or so) before you make any decisions or conclusions about them. 10 years is adequate time for a person to either show a consistency in the way they live, OR make the mistakes that will show if their persona is a facade. Eunice, you have given a good solid 10 years of observation time of Serge Benhayon, and what you have shared here is beautiful in the knowing that what you see from this beautiful and unimposing man, is what you get. This is the gift and the gold for you, and the amazing thing is that regardless of anyone else appreciating this from Serge, they still get the same consistency from him anyways - no judgement, always holding everyone as his amazing equal.

Henrietta Chang

23/7/2018 12:24:57 pm

Thank God for true role models in our world at a time when there is so much corruption and greed and violence and manipulation in our society. Serge Benhayon and his family are like a beacon in the cold mist, leading the way back to our warm sun. Serge has learned how to shine the sun's rays through him in the midst of the mist and melt all that lies around him. And he is forever reminding us that we can do likewise - that we are all equal Sons of God.

Mary

24/7/2018 10:44:23 pm

What you have shared with us all Eunice is the ripple affect love has just like the pebble when it hits the water the ensuing ripples within the water eventually hit every part of the lake or pond. So to me what we need to build is the ripples of love towards ourselves and each other so that this supersedes the prevalent energy we have today which is anything but love.

Rowena Stewart

27/7/2018 12:44:27 pm

Real love holds us as nothing less than divine, a very different quality to the emotional neediness I know I have mascaraed as Love in the past. When we meet the real deal it introduces a level of integrity, respect, tenderness and dignity that sets a whole new benchmark to live by and hence sets the bar for humanity to step up to.

Eva Rygg

29/7/2018 05:04:50 am

Faced with the real deal it is impossible not to feel the falseness of conditional love and the emotional neediness that comes with it.

Shami

27/7/2018 01:05:40 pm

What I find so beautiful about this, is how each person in this family have taken it upon themselves to deepen and to grow of their own accord, not staying in the shadow of their very loving and stupendous parents, but actually going out and bringing themselves to life as full and capable adults themselves.

Janna Goodwille

28/7/2018 12:51:10 am

Yes "big ouch" to the exposing of lies about love and family, it is humbling to admit I have consistently chosen to believe in and act upon them. And yet, big celebration too! That the example of the Benhayons shows "just what is possible when we make life about love, purpose and God first and foremost, rather than our individualised agendas, issues and dramaramas". When we choose to align to Love, there is a never-ending source of expansion and confirmation feeding us that can be brought to and felt by everyone we meet.

Elizabeth McCann

28/7/2018 08:29:50 am

The love which the Benhayon family live with 24/7 and share unhindered with all, with no exception, is deeply inspiring and acts as a true role model for most of us as it reveals how family life could be, when it is built on a foundation of truth.

Eva Rygg

28/7/2018 01:15:56 pm

'It is thanks to the quality of love reflected to them during their upbringing by both their parents and which they have continued to deepen for themselves in adulthood that has resulted in the adults they are today and which they now reflect to everyone else – and so the ripple effect of the love shown to them, is now shown by them to many others, including myself.' - Eunice, I am also one of the many that are deeply touched and inspired by what this family is reflecting to us all, it is absolutely ground breaking, and some people don't know what to do with such level of love, care and integrity, and so they choose to attack and attempt to destroy that which reflects the lack of love and joy in their own life.

Natalie Hawthorne

29/7/2018 04:41:36 pm

What I have been deeply inspired by is the harmony that the Benhayon’s live with - for themselves, with each other and everyone else. There is no pandering only love and truth with all. With this you know exactly where you stand and you feel deeply held and loved.

Nico van Haastrecht

12/8/2018 06:44:08 pm

To me it is the transparency they live consistently, but too when I watched them over the years, the forever expanding love they live and the dedication to deepen and explore the depth of the love we all are connected to. In that they are a true inspiration to me but too they show me the future of how we one time all will live.

Rosanna Bianchini

1/8/2018 12:33:35 pm

The love and consistent quality that Serge presents is the key to true parenting – true success is in the quality of love reflected to his 4 children and now grandchildren "during their upbringing by both their parents and which they [the children] have continued to deepen for themselves in adulthood has resulted in the adults they are today and which they now reflect to everyone else – and so the ripple effect of the love shown to them, is now shown by them to many others"

Rowena Stewart

3/8/2018 12:16:17 am

As children we always inherently reflect the quality of our parenting and all of Serge Benhayon's children are no exception. They are all very significant examples of the depth of love and respect Serge and his wife has raised their children with, without question.

Fiona L

3/8/2018 01:10:17 pm

The Benhayon family, through the way they live and embrace everyone equally have completely redefined ‘family’ for myself and everyone else. Family has become a place where our worst behaviour often plays out and members are expected to just put up with it. Whereas the Benhayon family is defined by the quality of their relationships and their support for each other to evolve.

Michael Brown

4/8/2018 02:22:23 am

"If we could replicate the recipe that resulted in children becoming adults of this quality, the world would be a very different place indeed." Knowing Serge's children for many years I can say hand on heart that should a society be founded and lived on the principles that the 4 children have embodied, we would have Truth, not peace, on Earth.

Ariana Ray

4/8/2018 03:26:37 am

Serge Benhayon offers us all a view of what true family is, it is a gift that is divine in its quality, for we have much to learn where it comes to family life. The statistics tells us that we have not got it right - 2-3 deaths a week from domestic abuse just in the UK alone will tell us how we are doing, leave alone the hundreds of thousands of families where domestic abuse is rampant. There is so much we can learn from this man.

Shami

4/8/2018 12:04:31 pm

I have been very inspired by Serge Benhayon and how he and his family live together, and especially with how the children have been raised. There is something exceptional about them, something that does not meet the standard criteria for how to 'fit in' but rather a whole, and far more incredible standard of absoluteness in love and in integrity.

Fiona L

4/8/2018 02:45:07 pm

It has been very inspiring to observe the way Serge and Deborah Benhayon have raised their children. It has broken down a lot of ideas I had about being a mum and a parent that were not actually based on love or what would evolve myself and my child. One thing I have most appreciated is observing the setting of standards in their homes. This has not been done as rules but very clearly drew a line in the sand of what is love and what is not.

Danna Elmalah

10/8/2018 02:40:26 am

Very very true. We have walked the path of lovelessness. We now can choose to walk the path of love, Serge Benhayon has dedicated his life for us to observe what this path of love feels and is like, so that by his reflection we can do so too. How couragous is that in a world where we fight love and escape through evil.

Sarah Flenley

11/8/2018 11:58:18 am

"At the same time it is to be celebrated and embraced for it shows just what is possible when we make life about love, purpose and God first and foremost, rather than our individualised agendas, issues and dramaramas."

I have witnessed many students of Universal Medicine making it more about love, purpose and God and the changes in them have been miraculous. There is a light and beauty that shines ever so brightly and a steadiness that is unshakeable.

Jane Keep

11/8/2018 09:24:31 pm

Stunning testimony - and from my experience of knowing Serge Benhayon and the Benhayon family for 14 years I absolutely agree with all that you say. I am constantly inspired by the Benhayon family. There is a true way, another way in relation to families - one that is leading the way, and I am up for learning all that I can from this.

Annelies van Haastrecht

11/8/2018 11:14:44 pm

'It’s as if the world is their family and anyone who comes to meet and know them is treated and loved just as if they are a member of the blood family. There is no difference.' So true, humanity is their family and whatever mud is thrown at them ( through social media and the media) they will only respond (not react) with love, true love without an ounce of emotion in it because they know, and live this knowing, how harmful this would be for us all.

Nico van Hastrecht

12/8/2018 06:36:42 pm

What Serge and his family is telling us is that there is a purpose in living together in family beyond what we in general have understand family is about. Family is not an accidentally couple of people living together, but in the constellation of people there is something special to learn for each of its members if we make family about love and evolution instead of the functional family we have made it instead.

Nico van Haastrecht

12/8/2018 06:37:32 pm

The Benhayon family is lovingly reflecting to us that while we might think that our family is loving, as long as there is drama and a level of abuse, we have to become honest with ourselves and acknowledge that there is a deeper level of love to connect to.

Caroline Reineke link

14/8/2018 11:37:19 pm

‘Serge and his family share this same quality of love with everyone else – equally so – it is not just kept for family members or a few close friends. It’s as if the world is their family’. I have felt that as well. That is remarkable in a world where there is exclusivity and family dynamics. In this family I have just seen love in all their movements and interactions with all. A great reflection and inspiration for me!

Andrew Mooney

16/8/2018 06:42:52 am

Here here Eunice love does not equal abuse so when we say we love our family members and friends and partners do we really mean this or fully understand what we are committing to? Or do we just say the words and carry on with varying levels of disrespect and lack of decency? Love is a certain quality of energy that we can all choose not a birthright.

Samantha Davidson

18/8/2018 01:02:56 pm

There are teenagers and young adults in the world who have not tried drugs etc however how many that do not try drugs do so because of pressure, cultural should do’s, fear of exclusion from thier family etc...I have observed the Benhayon’s for over 10 years as the teenagers have become adults and they are amazing, wise, ageless healing practitioners and professionals in thier fields. I have no doubt they chose their health and well-being over drugs etc because of an established self worth and love, not through any other force or pressure. They are inspirational, powerful and inspire this in others, what amazing role models they have for parents and are in their own right. A life lived, says it all and speaks for itself, consistency and love lived for all with responsibility is not seen a lot in life, but watch and be open to a way of life with love and truth at its heart and you will see it in the Benhayon’s.

Ingrid Ward

21/8/2018 07:06:05 pm

It is shocking to acknowledge that “most abuse of all forms occurs first, not on the battlefield, not in the workplace, but in the home.”, but it is the truth, a truth that many of us do not want to own in any way. I have asked many people who has hurt them the most in their lives and the answer without exception is ‘my family’. But now we have a family in our midst who are reflecting back to us what true family is, without perfection, and in the process breaking down the lesser version of what we have accepted family to be. What an amazing place this world would be to live in if all children were raised with the love and integrity that the Benhayon children were raised with

23/8/2018 07:17:24 am

The transparency and consistency is what really stands out with the Benhayon family. Transparency in the sense that they are an open book - willing to share how they live and remaining completely open to supporting so many other people and families. Nothing is kept to themselves. Consistency in the way that they are the same with everyone - offering as much love and support to a friend as they would their own family. This way of living is new model that shines bright and gets noticed. It takes love to the next level.

sue Q

30/9/2018 09:58:24 pm

I agree HM. The love and consistency each member of the Benhayon family show, not only for their blood family - but for everyone they meet. I have seen this personally for over ten years now. It shows us all what is possible in human life - an inspiration for everyone who choose to discern truth and love.

Adele Leung

23/8/2018 03:54:16 pm

Treating family as equal love to everyone is one of the most needed movements to support all other relationships in our lives.

Shami

26/8/2018 12:10:59 pm

This one statement alone: that all four children are not spending time daily checked-out on social media, is phenomenal in itself because it is so rare.

Matilda Bathurst

10/9/2018 01:50:42 am

And therefore worthy of our study. When the trajectory for our young people and their relationships with the online world is so dire, we should be seeking out those that are not trapped and allow ourselves to be inspired.

Carola Woods link

26/8/2018 12:19:12 pm

Without a doubt the Benhayon family represent the power of embracing and honouring what true family means – one that honors the constellation of the family and maximises the opportunity to deepen in love and pull each other to the live their greatest potential, that is no less that the love we all are in essence. Our current meaning and outplays in our families are generally that of normalising abuse and settling for love that is conditional which is the antithesis of the power of love we all deserve to live and be pulled up to live together.

Fiona L

28/8/2018 12:24:03 pm

“Serge, his wife Miranda, and his family share this same quality of love with everyone else – equally so – it is not just kept for family members or a few close friends”. This concept of family being more precious than everyone else is one of the greatest lies in society that Serge Benhayon and his family have broken down by role modelling. To see love that is equal for all feels so right and reminds us that this is the truth of how we can be with each other. Saving more love for a partner, child or parent creates conditions and is not the real deal.

Andrew Mooney

29/8/2018 01:22:54 am

So many people are traumatised by their families so it really is remarkable the level of harmony and unity the Benhayon’s have genuinely achieved in their family.

Jennifer Smith

29/8/2018 01:59:03 am

The word family has possibly been one of the most bastardised of words. Given the layers of abuse that has been allowed through blood lines over may thousands of years, which continues today, one could well and truly ask, is what we think family is, true?

jennym

5/9/2018 01:52:43 pm

We are better understood by the quality of our interactions, not only our family, friends but with all people.

andrew mooney

6/9/2018 01:38:51 pm

Noone is given 'special treatment' yet everyone is made to feel welcome and 'special' in their own way because they are so welcomed with open arms and an open heart. What a way to live, and a way that has been around for many thousands of years in many different places in the world. Serge and his family are practicing the true sense of living in true community, a lineage that has been with us all along and which we all know is possible on this planet.

Otto Bathurst

18/10/2018 09:08:20 am

Love this. No-one is more special, but everyone is special! As you say, a level of equality and love unmatched (at least in my experience) anywhere else in the world.

Caroline Francis

7/9/2018 08:05:58 pm

We in fact often show more decency and respect to our friends and work colleagues in our interactions than we do to our family members. And just to be clear, if there’s not at least a basic level of decency and respect in our communications with our family members then there is definitely not love.

Simply, it comes back to me. Live the true love in the relationship with self then this automatically has a knock-on effect in my relationship with my husband, kids, extended family and every relationship I encounter. The foundation I set in life lies with me and living the love I am.

Stephanie Stevenson

11/9/2018 07:50:34 pm

Well said Caroline –an inspiring reflection of living with responsibility.
"The foundation I set in life lies with me and living the love I am".

Victoria Picone

7/9/2018 11:24:35 pm

To the casual reader this may all sound somewhat idealistic, as many families are not living this quality of relationship with each other. The fact is though it is true, as I have witnessed myself over many years now. It is not a surprise that each of the children have grown into the powerful adults they are, and bringing this same quality to their own lives and families. A beautiful example of how love is lived, and the many lives that are touched by this.

Matilda Bathurst

10/9/2018 01:48:50 am

Just to imagine living like this in our families, knowing, because of the Benhayon's example, that it is totally possible, sets a bar or standard that is very inspiring.

Stephanie Stevenson

11/9/2018 03:58:06 am

Serge Benhayon and his family consistently reflect an inspiring way of living from love equally so with all - this is the new-normal family role-model that is possible for all to enjoy and live in an harmonious way.

Rachel Murtagh link

13/12/2018 09:30:00 am

Yes, Stephanie Serge and his family are true role models as to how family can live and express with each other. This is in such a different way to the way most of us experience family life to be that it is deeply inspirational and shows us just what is possible.

Stephanie Stevenson

11/9/2018 08:11:15 pm

The discontent and unsettlement of separation from our natural way of being is prevalent in society today and this is reflected in the alarming increases in illness and disease (diabetes, obesity, heart problems etc), the sharp rise in mental illness and violent abuse (verbal and physical) that is occurring in every walk of life and being accepted as normal. It is definitely not love that is the foundation in the majority of families and societies.
"And just to be clear, if there’s not at least a basic level of decency and respect in our communications with our family members then there is definitely not love".

Gina Dunlop

12/9/2018 01:11:43 pm

Serge Benhayon and all his family most certainly reflect the love and respect we all deep down crave. Their love overflows with giving. And often this can be hard to receive and let in. Especially so, when the abuse which we see dished out within our own lives, begins first with unloving abusive thoughts and actions towards ourselves.

Anna

15/9/2018 01:17:05 pm

Serge Benhayon and his family are setting standards for what true family is, and with a strong foundation of love and respect first and foremost. This is incredibly inspiring as they reflect and confirm to us the joy and magic that is on offer to us all if we choose.

David

4/12/2018 10:58:40 pm

I agree Anna, at a time when so much disruption in families exists this is indeed the only way forward. The way where we get inspired to set new standards of loev and support each day.

Natalie Hawthorne

16/9/2018 11:49:26 am

Absolutely Eunice, the Benhayon children are most definitely a testament to what they have been brought up with and reflected in the way Serge and Deborah Benhayon have been dedicated to showing them the truth of Love. To see them become the adults they are today and the enormous lives they are sharing with everyone is the confirmation that there is another way we can live and bring up young.

Anna

16/9/2018 12:08:39 pm

It is deeply beautiful and inspiring to see the Benhayon family work together in harmony and love. Their whole focus is to support each other to truly evolve, they are setting standards that offer us all a reflection of what true family can be.

Matilda Bathurst

22/9/2018 10:50:30 pm

'There is no abuse in love'... if we embrace this fact and apply it to all our relationships (including absolutely the one with ourselves), then we would have a very different standard and foundation in our societies and life.

28/9/2018 05:28:51 am

The more I observe family the more i see how we use the title of family to abuse each other and to control one another. It is a sad site to see how family think that means you an say what you like and act how you like without consequences.

Jill Steiner

28/9/2018 02:03:48 pm

I remember hearing it said that the most unsafe for children is in their own home, and this is from people who have first hand accounts of dealing with abuse in families. I was so shocked when I heard this, What you express Eunice is so startling but true about how most families live with varying degrees of abuse and not realise how loveless that way of living really is. Thank God for Serge the family man showing us how to live lovingly with respect and honour within our families.

sue queenborough

30/9/2018 09:53:15 pm

Serge Benhayon and his family "are all remarkable human beings, with a huge capacity to love, connect with people, work hard, and give back to society." I so agree. I have never seen them treat anyone with disrespect, only honouring everyone they meet with equalness - and love.

Shami

5/10/2018 01:05:17 pm

I have seen this too, how inside what we call our family units, there can be the worst cases of abuse that simply would not happen anywhere else. And so, I love the way that the Benhayon family live, with love for eachother.

Otto Bathurst

18/10/2018 09:04:18 am

Agree. I have heard things said to family members that would never be said to neighbours, friends, or strangers.

Jennifer Smith

6/10/2018 12:43:14 pm

This is a wonderful article. That highlights what is lived and encouraged at home completely influences how we are within the broader community. That no facades can be put up, because they can be seen straight through. Yesterday I was observing how both Michael and Curtis Benhayon were with their babies. At different times they were both walking around hold and playing with their babies, but at the same time being very responsive the the people around them. Totally gorgeous to see.

Julie

15/10/2018 08:40:54 pm

Every one of the Benhayon's has touched my life and the life of those around me. They have shown me consistent love and respect even when I did not have those things for myself - they have never held me as less and I don't know any other people in my life that has that level of committment to humanity. I am just one person but they are like that with everyone.

Liane Mandalis

16/10/2018 10:53:41 am

When someone lives true family (Brotherhood on Earth) it can be a very confronting reflection because in it we are left to feel our own deviation from such Oneness.

Otto Bathurst

18/10/2018 08:52:41 am

Me and my whole family have been loved by Serge and his family as if we were actually part of his family - which in fact, as far as they are concerned, we are. As you say Eunice, there is no difference. This is utterly remarkable and an incredible gift to experience, totally redefining what I had known family to mean.

Jane Keep

1/11/2018 01:27:53 am

I agree Otto and Eunice, same for me -over 15 years I have been treated with the greatest care, love, respect and always felt part of the Benhayon family - not in any kind of way whereby the Benhayon's try and influence my life, or interfere - far from it, in that they are so open and transparent, and I never feel excluded - and in that I am completely left to be me, and to make my own decisions and choices.

Aimee Edmonds

17/11/2018 12:43:47 am

I know what you mean Jane. Serge has only meant my family once 10 years ago yet whenever I see him he asks me how they are each by name and asks me to say hello to them with an incredible amount of love. It shows we do not need to know someone super well to hold them in love.

Gill Randall link

27/10/2018 09:59:16 am

What is so incredible about Serge Benhayon is that he treats us all like his family, which as you say Eunice, is not like most families even treat their own loved ones. Never once have I heard him bitch or moan about anybody, his patience and guidance is never ending and he supports one and all.

jane keep

30/10/2018 12:43:31 am

Yes! totally agree. I always feel like an equal member of the Benhayon family, never excluded, less, or judged, which is not the norm in society.

Matilda Bathurst

23/11/2018 12:09:44 am

Thank you Gill. The way you describe it makes it so clear the Serge is a true role model and very practical in the way he presents and lives truth.

Golnaz Shariatzadeh

2/11/2018 12:47:51 am

Throughout my life I have come across much advice about how to address people's unloving actions: the recommendations I considered the most loving were to "never make it about the person, but just address their behaviour". Such recommendations were always offered as a way of people management, as a tick box that you try to do and that is how I took them.
But meeting Serge Benhayon, for the first time I have seen a depth of love, care and understanding of people which has shown what I thought was the pinnacle of honouring another be just a natural tip of the iceberg. The immense honouring of people - ALL people - present and those not present, as if they all are family, even when exposing their unloving choices, is a powerful reflection offered by Serge which is constantly calling me to consider deepening my own level of love, care and honouring of myself and all people equally.

Tricia Nicholson

2/11/2018 11:04:35 pm

Serge Benhayon is certainly bringing true love to the world by this he is calling out the levels of abuse accepted as normal and bushed aside for us all to see. His level of integrity honesty and humility is showing the world who we all are by reflection and inspiration triggering our inner knowing to be reclaimed and lived as true family in our every way.

Sam

4/11/2018 12:54:32 am

Serge holds an extraorinary amount of love that he shares with all equally. His family also do this, they know that in truth we are all one family it is rare we have a family that know and live this truth.

4/11/2018 06:10:09 am

Serge Benhayon has supported me with raising my children -and I am not sure how I would do it without the wisdom he offers. It is beautiful to understand my kids in so many ways - and the quality they bring.

Natalie Hawthorne

8/11/2018 12:41:43 pm

This is what I love about Serge and the Benhayon family is that they are all encompassing with there love, no matter what, every time you meet and are with them. No matter who you are and what you bring they will love just like they love each other. This is un heard of. Yet this is exactly what were are all looking for, Love that has no bounds or conditions, where brotherhood is the fore.

Aimee Edmonds

17/11/2018 12:39:13 am

We make being love with our family as a hard thing, as something we have to work on which shows how far away we have walked from true family. Now we find it ‘easier’ to have family like so many of us do, just tolerating each other or not. The Benhayon family stand out because the opposite unfortunately has been adopted for eons. Their true reflection of who we are and how we all can be in our relationships is a blessing to a world who has not chosen this loving way yet.

Michael Brown

19/11/2018 01:08:39 pm

This is the sort of love I want in my life.

Gill Randall link

20/11/2018 11:01:52 pm

Relationships are so important and family is our first relationship. Here we often learn a lot of hurtful abusive ways of living, and we repeat this behaviours as adults, instead of having open loving relationships where problems are honestly discussed and sorted. The reflection from the Benhayons is a family that works.

Matilda Bathurst

23/11/2018 12:08:07 am

How degraded does the world have to become before we start saying no to abuse in our lives? Things are really bad and it is harder and harder to pretend they are not.

Ariana Ray

28/11/2018 10:12:51 pm

"If we could replicate the recipe that resulted in children becoming adults of this quality, the world would be a very different place indeed." The model provided by Serge Benhayon and his family is there for us all to choose to live.

Jennifer Smith

29/11/2018 08:47:28 am

Our views, notions and even activities of love are so skewed, that when true love is presented we simply react to it, and then make all sorts of accusations about whom is presenting that true love. But why react to something that is what after all we really want? Because we are being shown what we know we are not choosing ourselves. Therein lies the irresponsibility, because we do know what we are choosing, but choose also to not be honest to ourselves about this. Thereby reacting and blaming another or others for our own choices.

Jennifer Smith

29/11/2018 08:56:33 am

We may choose not to live love in our own lives, but we need to be able to respect that others are choosing this and need the freedom to do so without abuse or vilification for those choices.

Alison Valentine

3/12/2018 11:29:04 pm

Until we say no to abuse in our homes, until our homes are a harmonious place to bring up children then there will always be a battlefield somewhere to contend with.

Golnaz Shariatzadeh

4/12/2018 07:45:11 am

The last paragraph in this article alone sums up so much of what is happening in our world, where with great pride we hold on to beliefs and behaviours even when it starts to show that they are hurting ourselves and or others. And most of us don’t like facing the possibility that we might have made quite terrible choices and don’t like to see the extent of abuse, rot and lovelessness in our lives.
Yet throughout history we have time and again been shown a far greater level of wisdom and love than the majority were choosing. And here we have a choice once again, will we remain “open and willing to learn from those who have walked a little further on the return path of love … that we too may enjoy truly loving relationships with our family members and all who cross our thresholds” or will we hold on tight to our limitations and blind-spots?

Matilda Bathurst

4/12/2018 11:24:57 pm

There is absolutely no abuse in love and while we try and convince ourselves that there is, we keep ourselves apart from the magic that true love is.

Samantha Davidson

10/12/2018 10:39:24 pm

It is staggering the abuse that we dish out and accept form those nearest to us and call normal...."We in fact often show more decency and respect to our friends and work colleagues in our interactions than we do to our family members." Some time ago I made a choice that I was going to stop being part of the abusive habits that I had picked up in life, be it a harsh word, blame or hurt...it is has been a life changer...

Lorraine

13/12/2018 01:18:29 am

Absolutely Eunice, it's like being in a family gives another family member the right to abuse you, it is horrendous, 'It exposes, in fact, how most families are not actually loving with each other – but are living a reality where family love = permission to abuse.'

Lorraine Wellman

15/12/2018 12:51:49 am

Why does being part of a family give members permission to abuse... thank goodness Serge Benhayon and his family are showing us how a truly loving family live, 'We can react and get angry, shout, yell, scream, call names, be rude, demeaning, belittling, jealous, controlling, manipulative and a host of other not so great and definitely not loving ways – and we think it’s ok to do this because its family!'

Michael Brown

20/12/2018 10:34:23 am

It's a game changer to see what family can really be.

Ariana Ray

28/12/2018 10:36:46 pm

Eunice, you write how Serge Benhayon's children "alone are a great testimony to their parents, regarding the quality of their upbringing, the values instilled and the depth of love and care provided." I 100% agree with this. I have never known such extraordinary young people and I have been around the block a few times. These young men and women are an inspiration to all who meet them, they live lives of such great integrity and treat all with such a depth of care, it is a real blessing to know them.

Ariana Ray

13/1/2019 11:25:49 pm

Look at the way Serge Benhayon's children move through live, for example the quality of music that comes from Michael Benhayon - it's out of this world and lifts you to feel a grander and more expansive version of who we are - thank God for Serge Benhayon and his amazing family who are an inspiration everyday.

Gill Randall link

4/2/2019 11:18:24 pm

Family is so often the place where abuse happens or feelings are hidden, but through our families, we can learn so much when we are open to change. The quality of love and care the Benhayon family have for each other is such a different reflection for us to feel how true family can be lived.

Ariana

5/2/2019 09:53:56 pm

I know that before I met Serge Benhayon I had no idea what 'living a way of love' was. It was only meeting Serge Benhayon that allowed me to see the truth - that we are so much more than we think we are, that we have within us all a vast love that we come from and can return to.

Michael Brown

9/2/2019 01:02:31 pm

I love knowing and talking to Serge's children... they are my absolute role models.

Rowena Stewart

23/2/2019 10:19:43 pm

The depth of love that Serge Benhayon holds fast to is not common in the world, but is fast returning as a consequence of what is lived and shared with so many. A much needed benchmark for a humanity that has lost its true relationship with this word and quality, one that empowers us to reclaim this innate virtue in our lives again.

Viktoria

27/3/2019 10:02:31 pm

I met Serge Benhayon when I was 19 years old and to today's date he has treated me with nothing but respect, dignity and love. A level of respect, dignity and love that I have not experienced by anybody, not even those closest to me.

Vicky Cooke

6/5/2019 01:22:13 pm

'If we could replicate the recipe that resulted in children becoming adults of this quality, the world would be a very different place indeed.' here here. Lets do it ✨💫❤️

Melinda Knights

7/5/2019 03:07:56 am

Thank you Eunice, it's such an important discussion because how we are in family and our early experiences can shape our whole life, as it presently is it is family that is responsible for much of the worlds abuse, but it is something that we can change. We definitely need families like the Benhayon’s to reflect what's possible, that love is our true essence and we can live that love equally with all. Love is very needed in the world.

Amparo Lorente Cháfer

9/10/2019 08:14:49 pm

We reduce ourselves first and then we allow a lesser version of what family could be.
The Benhayon family shows us how Love can be fully lived and shared without reservations or any ounce of abuse. Great marker to be inspired of, which actually should not be something extraordinary if we consider that this marker could be our natural very basis as well.

Leigh

19/10/2019 11:07:26 am

I've known Serge and his family for close to 9 years now and everything you have described has matched my experience. I may not have had dinner with them however whenever I speak to any member of their family I am met with a consistent level of decency, love and respect.

Amparo Lorente Cháfer

22/11/2019 10:14:01 pm

Relating with everyone we meet as a member of our family is one of the things humanity needs most. We can feel from within that indeed we all are equal brothers united by the love we are and come from. Family is not a private redoubt, but a field that holds and includes everyone without any difference. From this unifying space, we can't but collaborate and enrich each other out of the created mess we still live in. This is what Serge Benhayon teaches and lives, a new standard of family that includes everyone in it.

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