I can for sure see how judgement is harming and how it's different from discerning what's going on in a situation and truly observing all that is there to be seen and acted on.
Spot on Fiona, and when there is judgement there is no room for true observation.
So true Fiona and what a skill it is to learn how to remain truly impartial so we can see the bigger picture and not get hooked by small minded judgments that fracture our trust in each other.
Holding someone to a past behaviour traps them in time and the judgement we have becomes its own condemnation.
And not only does judgment trap another in their past behaviour it also traps the one judging.
I agree Jonathan, it's like we hold someone up against a wall by their throat with one hand and put our other hand around our own throat and simultaneously pin ourselves up against another wall. Neither of us is able to move.
Absolutely Heather, judging someone on how they have behaved traps them in time, and is like a condemnation.
What an incredible revelation to hear that when we judge another, we add to their ability to harm. This really is quite astounding when you consider that most of us judge others almost as effortlessly as we breath.
Yes, this is absolutely huge and brings a whole different perspective.
This video has really supported me to understand the deep hurt we cause to another by holding them in judgement. And by the same token when we hurt another we equally hurt ourselves.
Yes judging always feels horrible and is so harming to both parties.
Serge Benhayon discussing various topics with Rebecca Asquith on Serge Benhayon TV is an opportunity for everyone to be inspired to live with a deeper understanding of life and expose all those accepted 'normal' things that are actually deeply harming to us. Judgement being one of these - it may appear innocuous but energetically it is actually pure poison to ourselves and others.
I do not think we yet realise how crippling our judgements on each other are and that the very act of us condemning another for their love-less ways is yet another way we enjoin that person in the lovelessness rather than observing it and bringing the understanding (true love) of why that person just did what they did, instead of us lacing the situation with the one and same poison that person is in by the very act of the judgement itself. There is so much for us to unpack and unpick here.
Agree, to bring this level of observation and understanding, while not condoning ill or abusive behaviour totally expands the nature of our collective responsibility. Inspiring beyond words.
To understand how we contribute to abuse by holding judgements of people rather than saying no to the abusive behaviours is such an important distinction. As we get to the opportunity to take responsibility of how we feed the lovelessness that is circulating.
Words of absolute clarity, and absolute responsibility… Have we truly considered how our judgment of another can contribute to how they are? That we indeed can go far deeper in our understanding of ourselves and others, than we well may have cared to? Whilst still saying a categorical 'no' to anything that is abusive to our body and being… Thank-you #SergeBenhayon Your wisdom has rocked my life in the most deeply illuminating ways possible.
So very true, judgement is felt even if it is not spoken, and it comes with a degree of arrogance which feels doubly as awful.
Absolutely agree, judgement is felt even if it is not spoken, and has no place in our lives if love is our choice.
The more we bring understanding to each relationships the more we can bring love and true support. Thank you Serge Benhayon for offering us such simplicity in what is often sold to us as the hardship of everyday relationships.
I have found that I can go into judgment as a form of protection, which means I am way off from being loving or understanding as I am focussed on myself. I have always noticed that people often behave the way you treat them or expect them to behave. If someone treats you like you are stupid or less, its common to feel like that. So it makes sense that if you judge and condemn someone as being wrong or bad, that they feel that and it can feed that behaviour.
And we can definitely feel being treated as less, stupid, and certainly judged. Understanding is one of the great healing medicines of this world.
Such simple wisdom but incredibly powerful when we can see past someones actions and not personalise it, therefore not making a judgement on them. This is super important as when we are in judgement, this energy feeds that behaviour. Therein lies our responsibility to understand where someone is and what goes on for them, by not allowing the abuse but also to have no judgement. Then we are no longer contributing to the abuse that is occurring.
I understand how we can say no to the abusive behave because it is something that is coming through that person but not to hold them in the judgment of their action. That is a great teaching for all of us
It’s a bit of an ‘ouch’ moment to realise that when we are judging another we are actually holding them in the very pattern we are judging them for. So, then it makes sense if we bring understanding to where they are in life, and to separate what we are judging them for from who they are in their essence, we are offering them the space to come to know themselves a little bit more. And in the process, we also come to know ourselves.
To truly understand that our judgments are actually imprisoning of others and adding to the lack of love and understanding in our world is an all encompassing way to look at our responsibility for the quality we all live with.
We all want love and Serge delivers love through his lived wisdom .. more and more wisdom is shared .. it always makes me ponder how he lives with so much love and understanding? … What does it take to walk in his shoes? .... thus is true inspiration!
This is such a simple but very powerful teaching that we can never hear or study to often. The faster we learn to distinguish the person from their actions, the faster we enable our selves to disarm the abuse we have allowed to run rife in our world.
Just 1.07 minutes and it totally changes how I look at judgement.
Wow this simple revelation about judgement could transform human life for everyone if we practiced it.
As I've learnt from other presentations from Serge Benhayon is that understanding comes from observing and feeling the energy of anything or a person, myself or a behaviour. Thats where understanding comes from rather than justifying or having a logical answer as to whats going on from my head only. Understanding is a whole body feeling whats going on for another or myself.
‘Understanding is the greatest form of love’. With understanding we get the whole picture, rather than our reactions and judgments - either to another person or our own behaviour. I have felt this aspect of love from Serge Benhayon, and it is very healing to be deeply understood, whilst feeling the standards of what is love and what is not.
Ground breaking .. a whole different insight into why we should not judge.
Serge Benhayon always lifts our awareness and this is no exception. Learning how to fully appreciate and confirm each through deepening our understanding is a fundamental science to successful relationship, however transient it maybe and one that when embodied builds true society.
This man shares a well of wisdom, words of gold. So much for us to hear and learn from. You can hear the compassion in his voice, you can see the care in his movements. Thank you Serge Benhayon for all that you bring.
A teaching that can take a life time to master, given in just a few minutes. Pure Gold I agree Viktoria. We have so much to thank Serge Benhayon for.
The judgement is equal to the abuse of the other, thus it fuels more abuse from them as we give the abuse (judgement) in a different flavour but it's all one and the same.
To entertain any kind of assumption or judgment means that we have abandoned our true nature in favour of some predetermined agenda. When we resurrect our natural curiosity it empowers us to see beyond these limitations to the real essence of every person and every situation, something that Serge Benhayon is a true master of.
Deepening our understanding of another, or a situation, helps us to not judge, and to bring in appreciation.
This reminds me how it's one thing to hold someone accountable for their actions and another to judge them, the former being truly needed and supportive and the latter not.
I agree, judgement is widespread, endemic in society, thought of as normal to judge ourselves and others and it is poison.
Judgment in so common place in our world, its as automatic as breathing. Bringing awareness to this insidious behaviour is a vital step in our evolution, so we can collectively begin to establish a true way to relate to one another that confirms our strengths as opposed to blatantly or subtly eroding our confidence.
I have just fully understood how judging another person is so hurtful. We judge someone and they feel the judgment and they are hurt too. So we go round and round in circles with the same abusive energy and nothing changes.
Listening to this very valuable video from Serge Benhayon shows how important it is to have understanding of another person and not to judge them for their behaviours. After all their behaviours do not make them who they are, but more importantly an outplay of where they find themselves at that moment in time. Understanding of another, but at the same time not accepting any abuse from them, has supported me to heal many relationships which in the past have been very challenging to live with.
Short clip and so worth the view again because of the depth being presented -- there is so much there to comprehend and process. The realisation is our lack of understanding we live and hold with ourselves and each other. I 'understand' when I do not have understanding I’m not appreciating and or accepting where I am at.
Such a subtle but immensely powerful teaching that shows us how we contribute to evil when we judge people rather than correctly addressing the behaviour but recognizing the person in the midst of it.
Realising that when make a judgment of another we are embedding them further in their action while instead, if we differentiate between the person and what they are doing it is a game-changer in our inter-actions.
Having been aware for some time has easily judgement jumps into my thoughts, and how horrible it feels in my body, I have committed to deepening my understanding of where others are at in their lives. So, listening to these words of wisdom from Serge Benhayon today really confirm what I have been feeling, that the deeper my understanding, the harder it is for that judgement to grab a hold; it simply doesn’t belong in my life.
Taking this teaching to heart is a huge blessing. It is a big challenge not to immediately jump to conclusions about a person or a situation, but the more we learn to take a step back from the situation or interaction and look a little deeper at what is at play behind the scenes, the more understanding and compassion is brought to bear, key ingredients to successful relationships.
I know from my own experience as well that I can judge someone on the back of what a completely different person has done. It's comes in those sayings such as "All men/women are the same" as an example. But it's my responsbility to understand each person and not tar everyone with the same brush. Likewise is it even true to take something personal if someone is judging me after tarring me with the same brush they tar everyone? No not really.
Ooo, difficult one to swallow - how many of us can be honest to say that we may be judging our partners, children parents etc.? It is not bad to say that we're judging those around us, it is worse to do it without being aware of it. So if you're aware that you are doing it, at least you're one step ahead of the disillusioned state many of us are in.
Love hearing the difference between saying that an action is abusive and that a person is abusive. It opens up a possibility to relate to people in a different way. Without the judgement and disconnection that we can go into when we feel hurt by an action.
Have you ever felt yourself judge another? I often do, all the thoughts about how they should be, what they should do & when they don't match that the criticism and resentment that can be fueled at them is unspeakable. This often occurs because we are furious with ourselves & need a lash-out, so somebody else cops it. It is very important we look at ourselves first before we lash out at another because these lashing out's are so horrible and damaging to the people we say we love.
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