SERGE BENHAYON TV – Episode 13: Gender, Toxic Masculinity and The Energetic Hermaphrodite
As gender based violence and exploitation – in the home and especially now in the workplace – attract widespread publicity and condemnation, the term ‘toxic masculinity’ has become a buzzword for those alarmed at the intractability of the ‘power-gap’ between the genders. [First published on: sergebenhayon.tv] Serge Benhayon is interviewed by Rebecca Asquith.
14/8/2018 10:45:03 pm
So great that this topic is being discussed here - toxic masculinity is definitely something we need to address as a society (as is toxic femininity) as they are literally prisons that are fuelling many of our ills and problems that we currently have in the world today. So bravo guys for going there and starting the conversation!
25/8/2018 04:12:50 pm
Bringing the words 'toxic' and 'masculinity' into the same sentence is the powerful exposure that what we have been fed for so long about the markers of masculinity are far from working in our current state of affairs.
26/8/2018 05:32:45 am
I was enrolled in a well known private school not only in my state but in the country. Not only was it known who was in the first 15 football team but it was noted who was the most aggressive. Our peers indirectly encouraged aggression on the footy pitch. It would never be presented like this because if it was the parents would be exposed that they are encourage aggression for their kids to do well in sports at school.
5/10/2018 04:50:29 am
interesting. And what else is tolerated in the name of betterment and social acclaim. We often hide behind the outcome we desire, rather than taking full responsibility for the process: winning, getting ahead at the expense of who....not just others, but for sure ourselves. How can we respect and love ourselves when we treat ourselves or other harshly or be selfish...every choice is a knock and a demoralising blow to the gorgeous divine sparks every one of us are in essence.
29/8/2018 04:05:51 pm
Love the honesty in this conversation and the talk of how we can imprison ourselves when we live by delineation of our genders.
31/8/2018 09:20:35 pm
I have heard of the term toxic masculinity mentioned a few time but did not understand what it truly meant and just dismissed it as the latest buzz word. I now understand the distractions, identifiers and expectations which we, as a society, have projected onto our menfolk and how a deconstruction of these incarcerating gender delineations is something which needs to be addressed for the benefit of us all. Wow this interview has expanded my awareness no end, thank you Serge and Rebecca.
12/9/2018 09:49:31 pm
This is ground breaking information that we define ourselves by our distractions and are identified by them? This is not the truth of who we are. Men especially identify themselves as the 'bread winner' but they are not that. However the current way we live pushes them into this role. Men rest their laurels being identified in this way; it is though we have put them into a strait jacket of life.
23/12/2018 11:14:27 am
If we, as women, were not in a strait jacket ourselves then we wouldn't have the impluse to put men in one either.
12/5/2019 08:38:09 am
Good point, Alexis. It is our insecurity which then leads to control & wanting to control everything around us. It works well when we all fit into our roles & play by them, things move, we may argue here and there, but no boats are rocked and life passes by.
2/10/2018 01:23:05 pm
How many of us make love.....? Or do we as is simply, 'seek relief?' How many of us, feel tired after work, eat too, watch TV and have a fight with our partner and then think we should have sex now, when we go to bed, because we have not been close, and even with the orgasms if they are had, does it ever actually feel like making love? I suggest it can not if we are not willing to be loving with ourselves and each other in the first place. Love making physically comes form the choice to be love. Thank you Serge Benhayon for inspiring this way, where we truly respect one another and value and appreciate the beauty within us all.
5/10/2018 04:46:45 am
We are in essence, both male and female, in fact genderless, I agree, I express who I am as a woman, but I can feel what it means to be a man, this is being aware equally of the qualities each gender brings. I do not see men as an alien sex, I see them as equal and we are here to compliment one another.
24/10/2018 05:34:29 am
If we play into these roles/prisons theres always going to be this tension of feeling short changed. In other presentations it’s been mentioned that the tension is our best friend and it’s a benefit to make friends with that inner tension. I agree because it’s that voice that is saying “there’s more”.
5/11/2018 01:29:01 pm
It’s true how men and aggression are coupled together. Sport, alcohol and the looked at physical attributes of a man contribute to this. Going to the energetic aspect with the support of the esoteric modalities supported me to surrender to my innate tenderness and natural sensitive nature - it is pure as you feel and see in a little boy only maybe as adult their is authority to this because you know this is the true way to the otherwise toxic masculinity that is ‘out there’.
18/1/2019 10:09:18 am
'Who are we without our distractions?' that is such a pertinent question for men and women alike. Take away our distractions, which we all use pretty constantly and what are we left with? Even just the question would fill many of us with dread but another equally relevant question is 'what are we so desperate to distract ourselves from?'. Surely if we weren't all filled with an almost constant feeling of unrest then we wouldn't have the need to distract ourselves because we would be more than happy simply just being ourselves.
30/7/2019 09:05:24 pm
Absolutely, the anxiousness, nervousness, constant wondering if we're able to cope with whatever often need to be numbed away. Yesterday I was thinking about it, how often am I running to the snack drawer just because there's some kind of awareness that I am avoiding. I can get a sense behind my driver for food and drink, & only slowly am I starting to really see through the lie that says "I want a snack because I am hungry, or bored" or something else.
18/1/2019 10:17:16 am
'Our distractions become our identity', we have literally distracted ourselves away from the truth of who we all are. But as we return to the truth of who we all are then our distractions will naturally drop away.
18/1/2019 10:27:17 am
In the midst of the confusion and search for identity that is going on for both men and women, some women are also now taking on the identity of the toxic masculine man.
18/1/2019 10:37:08 am
Any role that we fill is centred around what we do in that role, whereas the truth of who we are is centred around the quality of our being.
19/1/2019 11:06:03 pm
When we connect to and live from our Being-ness first, it is natural to fully appreciate the qualities and virtues of both genders, a positive shift away from lacing men and women with false ideals that are impossible to live up to.
5/4/2019 10:47:53 pm
I love it when men are not playing the tough guy, but walk with a steadiness and strength that comes natural, without the arrogance, without the protection.
11/6/2019 09:00:14 pm
We play so many games to "trick" each other, we manipulate, pretend to be something we are not and so on. But in truth, no lier would remain lying if there is nobody listening, so we cannot say that men manipulate women and poor women for believing them - or vice versa. We all have a responsibility in discerning what is in front of us & if we choose to believe a lie, then there is something for us to look at and see why? Is our self-worth as women so low that we would accept anything? Are men just so desperate for love that they would put up with anything? We have many reasons, but it is up to us to deal with our unresolved struggles & choose true love in our lives first before we expect it of another.
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