"We have to study the livingness of a human being to understand the human being and this is on 24 hour basis." And the quality of that livingness is what we bring to and hence to our lovemaking.
and yet Jonathan we use the phrase 'good in the bedroom', as if it is something that can be compartmentalised from the rest of life and worse still, something that can be dependent on the shape and size of certain parts of a woman's and a man's body!
Sex has, for many, become more of a performance than a true meeting of two people. A series of orchestrated moves based on pictures and beliefs that are held around the subject of sex. When sex is impulsed from concepts and the pressure to perform then there can be no real union of two people.
It took me a long time to understand that I could only be as intimate with another, as I was prepared to be with myself.
The importance of being transparent with oneself before 'coming together' with another cannot be emphasised enough.
There true nakedness that we hide from!
That’s it! Something that turns to a vast picture for me is knowing what is to be in love and transparent with another in total celebration of the union that is possible — the images of this get to me. The trick is to have that union with your own love and power before it is externalised to how you want that to look. This is where porn develops itself from .. to help us with the images so we do not have to be intimate with ourselves.
It makes sense that intimate connection in everyday life leads to intimate love making and true nakedness with each other ... a confirmation of the quality being lived.
What stuns me every time I hear Serge Benhayon talk, is his level of understanding. He goes into every subject that he talks about in such depth and yet more often than not, he does it in a way that is easy to understand. I feel that what makes what Serge shares easy for us all to understand, is that it is the truth and because all of us know the truth in our bodies, there is no fight to comprehend it.
This is great advice for any relationship not just couples or partners. To build a quality relationship that is based on true love we need to commit to it 24/7 not just in moments most convenient for us or when we causally feel like it.
Serge Benhayon always make so much sense, and his depth of understanding and wisdom is incredible.
Such a great question to reflect on regarding "What is the quality of me that is being reserved for some special event?" - as in what quality of connection and love could we be bringing to every moment, naturally so, and in appropriate expression for the situation... Great food for thought...
Simply are we willing to be honest with ourselves about who we are, how we feel etc.....this openness with ourselves will surely be felt by others and if we can not offer this to ourselves, what are we offering to others...a reduced version of who we are and how we can be in life. Yes this willingness to be 'transparent' effects all areas of our lives.
I’ve been exploring online dating recently and watching this I was reminded of the whole “friends with benefits” thing. If the life lived with each other is non existent, as with meeting a person online briefly. What is the quality of those fireworks? This interview shares that there are so much richer depths to a relationship and sex than whats been accepted.
This is gold wisdom that has been shared — a permission to absolutely adore and, love yourself, and your partner as much as it is..
Serge gives the viewer an insight into the philosophies and teachings that have inspired a global movement of people to make true and lasting changes to their vitality and wellbeing.