I love how what's offered here is presenting that being in touch with and honouring our delicateness can actually be a true strength and not a weakness.
I agree with this, I played it tough, not understanding that is not strong, It makes us sick, it is strong to be vulnerable, open and delicate.
I too wrongly thought being protected was the answer, now I'm learning to stay being delicate and open.
In truth open and delicate is who we all are and protected is who we are all not.
By expressing so simply and directly our foundational hurt and the difference in out-play between men and women provides an understanding from which true healing can occur.
Never before has anyone shared with such understanding and clarity what hurts truly are and that now there is a choice to live with our without them.
Yes, we have got it all upside down - true authority has nothing to do with toughness, but the ability to be real and transparent, especially the tender and delicate part of us.
Often the toughest people are the most scared.
No one has spoken like this before, explaining the core of our hurts and it makes complete sense to me as I know from my own childhood how delicate and sweet we all are however as we grow up that sweetness and delicateness within gets squashed and we harden and protect ourselves to cope with a world that champions competition, money and status.
Our hurts build walls of protection and when we are given the truth in why we build and that there is no longer a need to protect we are offered true livingness. Thank you Serge Benhayon!
Yes, the delicateness and sweetness that we all love in babies gets squashed, we think we have to fit in and not be true to ourselves, and so we harden and protect ourselves, and the world gets more of this lovelessness.
We are all from babies very delicate and sweet natured and as Serge Benhayon has said this is not fostered. We cannot blame our parents because they did not know any different but at some point we do have to draw a line in the sand and say that is enough as how we are raised as children then affects the rest of our lives. What would the world look like if we changed the way we brought up and educated the next generation so that they did not contract and go into protection but where able to be open and fully expressing?
Absolutely correct Mary, we have 'at some point draw a line' and that time is now and Serge Benhayon with his family has shown us the way through their lived example.
"What would the world look like if we changed the way we brought up and educated the next generation so that they did not contract and go into protection but where able to be open and fully expressing?" and what if each generation kept building on that? In time we would parent our way back to the God that we all were in the beginning.
We dont realise how much we are further hurting ourselves in holding back on expressing our delicateness. It makes so much sense how we are trying to live to ideals that we can never fit and that is our deepest hurt.
We are moulded and shaped as we grow into something that we think is what a man and a woman is, instead to being allowed to grown into who we naturally are. I love Serge's frankness and willingness to call out what has occurred for nearly everyone on this planet. No wonder our behaviours are more extreme than ever.
Once again Serge Benhayon simply exposes the cause of our ills. Our sensitivity, fragility and beauty is our real power. Embracing and cherishing these qualities within us restores true equality, our knowing that we all feel the same, and feel the same things.
The pin-pointing of the foundational hurts of men and women - rejection of the delicacy of men and of women not fulfilling an image and hence self-worth issues - explains so much of the cause for the crisis in humanity. For how different would society be if we fostered our delicateness, tenderness and beauty rather competing to protect ourselves from being hurt?
Fearing having our delicateness trampled on is really us trampling on our own hearts. It’s very powerful and healing to realise we all felt rejected as kids no matter how good our childhood was. Not feeling enough or not be allowed to be who you are is a hurt we have all carried. But it sets us up to keep people out and not show our delicate nature – just in case. Being ourselves is worth the risk.
What an incredibly valuable two-minute snippet this is as Serge Benhayon totally makes sense of the hurts men and women live with in their lives. And in doing so he shatters the many beliefs we have often blindly accepted of how life is meant to be and presented us with the wisdom to support us to make the choice to live in a very different and more self-honouring way.
This video highlights very clearly the origins of our deepest hurts. From Serge sharing this wisdom with us we have been gifted a foundation from which to bring healing to what inhibits us from living in our fullness. What a truly loving gift to receive.
Absolutely, a true support that can help us to let go of any false layers we've put on over the top of our essence.
I love what is presented here. If we do not honour our innate preciousness we will bury it beneath layers of protection that keep us living in isolation not only to each other but also within ourselves.
So often we can be engrossed in how this impacts others but when we slip away from the connection to ourselves we offer less in our expression that is there for ALL.
I love the way this exposes how fruitless it is to try and live up to any picture or ideal we may have. While who we are within remains whole and full and always will. Serge Benhayon is so down to earth in his expression of wisdom.
We have distorted the word relationship to mean a fulfilment of a need from another. What would the world be like if we sought real relationships where we love each other just as much as we love ourselves and are not afraid to show that?
Have we stopped to consider what we are doing to ourselves by moulding into a way that is not our natural way of being?
How different would life be if we simply choose to experiment having relationships in the way that Serge presents here? I know with my experience it was life changing to start this path.
To live holding pictures in our minds of what life should be like is not only exhausting it is the recipe for a life of constant disappointment as the expectations which come with the pictures ensure we are in a tension that actually has no place in our body. Shattering these long-held pictures can be rather challenging at times but to do so offers the feeling of liberation from all the ‘should be’s’ and presents us with what is truly and realistically possible.
This hit home for me — showing all of me in my delicacy and sensitivity and not protecting myself from being trampled on or being taken advantage of or being rejected. It seems a whole a lot simpler to show my sensitivity and not feel in disorder from not showing it. Its cherishing me for who I am (sensitive) and what I have to do (be sensitive) knowing when I have to do it (all the time).
When we heal our hurts we are far less defensive and as there is not the same need to protect and hence we are therefore no longer so reactive and we can instead be open and responsive to others.
It's like we can help to stop the hurt chain-reaction by healing our hurts and instead support everyone by being the innate unconditional love and delicateness we all are.
This is true Jonathan, which is one reason why it is so important to heal our hurts.
I can really see how what is presented here plays out in daily life, where people feel safer holding themselves in protection and not wanting to let other people in, for fear of being hurt. But I can also see how holding people out, hurts others too because it says you are not worth opening up to, so really we are compounding the hurts by staying in protection with one another. So it makes sense to me that the only way out of this is to come clean about our hurts and open up to others.Whenever I have done this I have felt instantly closer to others.
I recently attended a Universal Medicine level 2 Connective Tissue workshop. I got to feel in other people’s bodies just how delicate and precious we all are. It reminded me of when I was a child and I felt the delicateness but it was not appreciated or honoured so I hid these feelings away to protect them from being crushed completely. Finding them again in my body after all these years is a blessing as I now have a choice to let go of the hardness I have built up in my body as a way to protect myself and instead feel just how delicate I am and honour this in my body, by doing this my whole demeanor with people has changed because I can feel how delicate they are and this needs to be respected and honoured in them too.
I have also felt this exquisite but powerful delicateness when receiving esoteric connective tissue therapy.
I love what Serge presents here about how we are all tender and delicate and love to be affectionate but we are living touch and hard with each other. I can really feel that.
Not only don't we as men and women never fit the pictures we have been given the picture are constantly changing and this adds to the confusion of what is expected of us. Is it any wonder as a society we suffer from mental health problems.
Protecting our hurts really doesn't work. The more I feel the energy of what makes up a hurt the more I let go of them because I get to see that they aren't mine in the first place, not something that is truly a part of me.
It does seem a bit crazy and very exhausting to keep trying to pretend that I am hard and tough when really the truth is I’m naturally sensitive like everyone else.
Two minutes, 23 seconds of absolute gold from Serge Benhayon, exposing how so many of us live in a constant state of protection, and why. To be able to first acknowledge these hurts is the key to eventually heal them so we no longer need to protect ourselves from the world, but live in the fullness of who we naturally are.
Yes, Serge Benhayon presents so much gold simply, and in such a small space of time.
Ingrid I wonder if there is more to what you are saying? That currently the society we live in does not want any reflection that shows them that maybe the life we are all living isn't it? And so it's no wonder we live in protection against the onslaught of a consciousness that doesn't want a single person to wake up and know that they have been fooled. As we are witnessing it takes a very strong and committed person or group of people to stand up and take that consciousness on
If we have no unresolved hurts there is no longer the need to self-protect which one enables to be transparent and all that that brings with it.
It doesn’t get better than this to understand our way forward in dealing with life.
All the games we play to keep our guards up, mistrust or compete with others simply to avoid being rejected. Coming clean and asking if our behaviours stem from a hurt can help reduce the unloving behaviours we see in the world. There's no abuse if your not hurt and being naturally your loving self.
I'm appreciating more how trying to ignore or dull down our sensitivity is like going against what actually helps us to be more aware and in tune with how to deal with life harmoniously.
Love it - it's so simple when explained like that.
It is an ongoing process, as we let go of the more recent hurts in our lives, it reveals deeper ones from our early years, which at times can feel a bit tense. However, a worth while process indeed because every time we expose a hurt, we can release it from our being and hence make more room of our innate joy to bounce back into action.
This very short video presentation from Serge Benhayon is for me, absolute gold, for within it he answers so many of the questions I had about me, men and relationships. It has offered me so much to consider as to what I have allowed to hurt me and to hold me back in life. And I can see so clearly that lack of self-worth has been the biggest impediment to me living who I now know I actually am. I deeply appreciate when I am presented with wisdom which, if I choose to take on, has the potential to change my life.
It took coming to the teachings of The Ageless Wisdom for me to realise that I can been lugging around my lack of self worth like a ball and chain for most of my life. It's very revealing, if not slightly crazy to think that something that impeded on all aspects of my life, to the degree that my lack of self worth did, was to me, undetectable.
That lack of self-worth is certainly a heavy weight to lug around, and so you would think that we would suspect something was not quite right in our lives. But we don’t and why we don’t, as far as I am concerned, is that the life we are born into, convinces us that how we are living is normal, but in truth living with a lack of self-worth is the furtherest away from normal as is possible.
So, as a man (and a woman), if we are to be open to our hurts .. could we just start with by accepting we fear rejection?
I'm so glad that with today's technology Serge Benhayon is able to record write and publish the teaching of the Ancient wisdom as this hasn't happened before. There have been other teachers before him and their legacy has been misinterpreted as it wasn't written down at the time but many years later. Now we can read, see and hear exactly what is being said. In years to come we will see the errors of our ways and realise that Serge Benhayon was a messenger from heaven living a normal life amongst us, reflecting how to live in true love and harmony with ourselves and our families.
The more we are able to bring our guard down, the more we show others how to do it for themselves for nothing is more inspiring than expressing our heartfelt tenderness in all we do.
"..... not showing your delicateness is a dis-order in you ...." This is a truly profound understanding as it is the foundation from which arises the problems of the world?
Such critical understanding that empowers both genders to rebuild our self worth and come to fully claim, appreciate and express our most delicate qualities that we have hidden away for too long.
We can't express lovingly in a moment if that moment is taken up with protecting our hurts. It's the same as you can't be in two places at once. Opening up and not protecting hurts gives more space to express lovingly.
Not only should we come clean about our deepest hurts but we should just come clean. We lie and basically muddy the truth so continually that most of us are not even conscious that we're doing it. Which I suppose makes it fairly hard to come clean!
Exposing these hidden patterns that both genders resort to when feeling hurt enables us to see beyond the normal defenses and appreciate just how sensitive and delicate we all are. Consequently this gives us deeper insights into one another's behaviours that enable both men and women, we so choose, to move on from the Blame Game and take responsibility for our feelings.
Another teachings that shows us that everything matters. The most flippant remark can deeply hurt another and in this awareness, just how responsible we need to be with our words, interactions and communications to truly take care of each other.
It certainly makes sense that if we were all honoured for our delicateness and beauty from day one, that our lives as adults would be lot easier than they are today. Life is so very challenging to live when you are not living who you naturally are – delicate - but as the world expects you to be – tough.
I love this teaching because it has empowered me to be able to observe and talk about what hurts me free from the emotional sensitivity that in the past would mean a slippery slide down into an argument or emotional overwhelm, both of which seriously hinder positive discussion and a deepening of mutual respect.
I used to try so hard to fit the pictures I adopted but these days they only cause havoc. Much better to confirm myself as already more than enough and be imperfect.
Pictures are not just body images, it is the ideals we hold and have to measure up to - the wife, the worker, the social media celeb, the teacher, the daughter, the sister, the mother, the father, the grandfather and all else. The more expectations we place on ourselves, the lower our self-worth because we are forever striving to match a goal that is far, far in the future.
To know that whatever the hurt, it does not define us - it does not mean we are incapable of healing makes the conversation about hurts so much easier. It gives a light at the end of the tunnel that whatever we are going through we can get through and move on in life.
There are no hurts that cannot be let go of, when we connect to our essence, our true and natural way of being - all of the hurts we have experienced seem to disappear, they no longer seem relevant and our perception of life and how we choose to live can change.
I just love it when I hear truth and it's simplicity. Just listening to this short video can free us of how we have all been set up to fail. I've tried to be super tough. Growing up I consciously put myself in environments to toughen me up and prove I could survive. I did but all that came at a huge cost not just physically. Inside I am sensitive and fragile. Coming to embrace this is a long-term commitment to myself. It is such huge business to try to hit some kind of ideal picture. Not just physically but all society's dictates. Re-claiming who I am I know gives another a reflection of what's possible.
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