by Ray Karam
When I first met Serge about 5 years ago I watched him closely talk to people and interact with his family at a Universal Medicine presentation. It stood out how close, personal and intimate he was with everyone I saw him speak to. He just seemed to have a way of speaking to people that I had never seen before. It was a quality that was so obviously not the ‘norm’.
Serge has been one of the best friends I have ever had and ever known. He has continually and consistently been there as a solid base, always and unbelievably available to support where he can. This support for me has never wavered and never changed. He was my best friend from the first time I met him, but it was just me who had to catch up with the friendship. I remember ‘holding’ him at arm's length for a while but the undeniable consistency of how loving and caring he is in every interaction with me allowed me to let go of feeling I had to protect myself.
I regularly wave to people when I drive my car. I enjoy waving to my neighbours and other people when I am driving past them. I remember driving Serge’s car once and I couldn’t believe how people waved to his car, obviously thinking it was him. I had received waves from people, but I could see there was a difference. These people stopped momentarily what they were doing to wave. Like for a split second it was the most important thing they were doing. I could see that it was Serge in action again. The way he even does the simplest thing like waving is done with such loving dedication that the way people wave back is the same. It is like Serge treats every moment like it is the most important moment there is. So no matter who is in that moment with him, they are the most important person there is. But these moments I have seen are not a ‘one off’ or an ‘only for a few’ or a ‘just for my family' or ‘only in public’. I have watched my good friend Serge Benhayon and he is the same, whether he is speaking to 1000 people or is at home with his family or waving to people in the street.
If you have the blessing to spend any time with Serge, you will see his dedication to people is unsurpassed. For me he is a living legend. Not for all the great work he continually does but from the simple fact that everyone he meets, he actually meets. There is nothing else more important in that moment to him than you and it doesn’t matter who ‘you’ are, he will be the great friend he is to me with you. If you don’t believe me, watch him yourself. There are no tricks, no secrets, just a truly loving man who inspires many by the way he is with everyone in each moment. I love Serge Benhayon not for what he has done, but for how he is. I have never seen a person like him and never had a friend like him.
He is leading the way in how to be with people. I have been inspired by this simple but key fact. I now hold this foundation in my life of ‘making life about people’. I have seen all my relationships grow and to the point where the qualities I love in Serge Benhayon are now qualities I hold in how I am. Serge has supported this and not cut it down. I enjoy every interaction I have with people, knowing that if I keep developing myself in my relationships there will be even more in every interaction.
I continue to ‘watch’ Serge and how he is with people. Not from a critique but from the fact that I see how people respond. I see that the great care and dedication Serge brings to every meeting supports people to grow. Through the 5-year friendship I have had with Serge I have grown enormously. My family has grown, my business has grown and my friendships have grown. It is a fact that because of my friendship with Serge my life is more loving and more enjoyable. The relationships I have with people around me at home and in my businesses are truly amazing. All the qualities that I enjoy in Serge are now there for me in my relationships. All the things I love about Serge are now there for me equally in my interactions and relationships also. Serge has been a part of this, he supports me to grow and has never held himself above me. He is a truly remarkable friend.
Our friendship is equal and Serge has held me in this way from day one. I can see now that I am all the things he is to me to him as well. I thought this wasn’t the case but I have seen Serge grow as well from our friendship. He has never held an authority over me as a friend and I don’t see this in him. I see that in his dedication to people there is an overwhelming equalness to everything he does. I can see that how he lives supports this. It’s not something he turns off and on or saves for a few. I have seen that how he is with me, a great friend, is how he is with everyone.
The support he has offered me is just for me to be myself. It is as though through my friendship with Serge I have been able to speak a voice that was deep inside of me but that was afraid to come out. It was a voice that was buried under many other things. Our friendship has allowed me to live a way that is full of moments that in the past were fleeting moments only. It is like all the parts of me that I loved have been able to come together in one full package from our friendship and the way we are together. The more our friendship continues to grow, the more I see that we are just the same. Serge Benhayon is a truly loving, caring, beautiful man and friend and I am just the same. The wonderful thing about this is that Serge has wanted this all along, not for me to be like him but for me to see that all the things I love in him are actually in me. It is not a dictatorship, it’s a friendship and we stand beside each other as equals. I love you, Serge Benhayon, and I know he loves me the same.