 | by Samantha Davidson I thank God, the stars, moons and suns in our universe for constellating in such a way that brought Serge Benhayon in to my life. He is a true gentleman, he holds a lived authority, gentleness and strength that is undeniable, he is a man that both men and women like to be around, and as a woman upon meeting him I felt deeply respected and truly seen as an equal by a man which I rarely have if ever encountered. |
I felt with no doubt, absolutely equal, worthy and appreciated with no imposition or underlying agenda and beyond words it offered a healing to have this reflection in my life concerning relationships between men and women. I decided that this was a quality in a man, in a human being that was worth exploring and finding out more about. And recognising this integrity, power and equality in him, brought the realisation from within me, that to see it in another I must already know it within myself. I began an unfolding path of redefining, reappraising and reestablishing of how I lived, cared for myself and expressed as a woman, and this continues to develop.
In this world there is a general opinion that women are less then men, inferior, not as intelligent, to be feared because of their natural connection to sacredness and also subjugated and objectified. Many women such as I have grown cynical of the possibility of truly intimate relationships between the genders within society and have raged against this injustice, felt it unfair and so begun to not trust men and fight their corner with the ferociousness of a warrior…be it by being out of reach beautiful, hiding their beauty, burning bras, playing men at their own game or not allowing themselves to be open, gentle and tender … it is all part of the same issue, we are hurt and this comes out as righteousness, anger and blame.
Many of us women have neglected our inner connection with our true womanliness in this activity and we have also hand in hand neglected that men are our equals, but not in a way where we need to fight them, or be alike, but that we are born to complement each other, that we are all innately of the same essence, that we all want to be loved, seen and appreciated and we are all born, tender, sweet and sensitive.
Men like women are also caught in cultural stereotypes that many do not feel are true and they also feel imprisoned by them.
How would it feel to be a young man who cares, is sensitive, gentle and yet from boyhood they are unceremoniously told to toughen up, to not cry, treat their sisters, mothers and friends as inferior and degrade and overtly sexualise and objectify women? What kind of torment lies behind a man who does not show his feelings but instead follows the cultural dictates that are so prevalent?
They still feel, they are still sensitive they like many of us women have cloaked their tenderness and gentleness in a hardness to attempt to prevent feeling, and yet this does not work, we still hurt it only inhibits our true expression.
This toxic and destructive interplay between the genders is destroying the potential of generations after generations.
Many of us women have neglected our inner connection with our true womanliness in this activity and we have also hand in hand neglected that men are our equals, but not in a way where we need to fight them, or be alike, but that we are born to complement each other, that we are all innately of the same essence, that we all want to be loved, seen and appreciated and we are all born, tender, sweet and sensitive.
Men like women are also caught in cultural stereotypes that many do not feel are true and they also feel imprisoned by them.
How would it feel to be a young man who cares, is sensitive, gentle and yet from boyhood they are unceremoniously told to toughen up, to not cry, treat their sisters, mothers and friends as inferior and degrade and overtly sexualise and objectify women? What kind of torment lies behind a man who does not show his feelings but instead follows the cultural dictates that are so prevalent?
They still feel, they are still sensitive they like many of us women have cloaked their tenderness and gentleness in a hardness to attempt to prevent feeling, and yet this does not work, we still hurt it only inhibits our true expression.
This toxic and destructive interplay between the genders is destroying the potential of generations after generations.
| And so what is different about Serge Benhayon? And how can a man inspire a woman to reclaim her true path and express from a her inner essence, and so not fight or follow what she is told to be from outside. |
I met him around 10 years ago, I heard him speak, I listened and there was a quality in the way he talked about us all - as one humanity, how we are all equally divine, how we are responsible for our own choices, that enabled me to wade through the detritus of habits, behaviours, emotions and hurts that have weighed me down and see more clearly what was at play in my life and in many of our lives.
When I had the opportunity to speak with him one to one, I was struck by something I had rarely if not in truth ever experienced before, he saw me equal, he appreciated me for who I am, but there was absolutely no shred, speck, spot of imposition, nothing to prove, no dismissal, superiority, sexism, gender stereotyping, protection, sexualisation – he met me with gentleness, respect, love and true care and wanted nothing from me and I felt this choice of his, like a light coming on and burning bright from within me.
When I had the opportunity to speak with him one to one, I was struck by something I had rarely if not in truth ever experienced before, he saw me equal, he appreciated me for who I am, but there was absolutely no shred, speck, spot of imposition, nothing to prove, no dismissal, superiority, sexism, gender stereotyping, protection, sexualisation – he met me with gentleness, respect, love and true care and wanted nothing from me and I felt this choice of his, like a light coming on and burning bright from within me.
I call Serge Benhayon inspiring, he is a point of light, with steadiness and clarity, he lights up the world, and this lights reach all of us. To have this initial encounter, one that has now become many, has offered me an alternative in regards to female and male relationships that is rare but very possible in all of humanity.
Through my own commitment I have begun to make changes in my life that support who I truly am without the blinkers and chains of stereotypes or ideas imposing on me, I have begun to truly claim myself as a woman, powerful, loving, gentle and deeply sensitive.
And Serge Benhayon, a man in essence like any other, only different because he chooses another way, this man chooses responsibility and to honour that he is in essence gentle, loving and sensitive. He understands that there is an authority, grace and power that cannot be tainted by honouring how he feels and that there is no weakness in this. This transparency builds what is often called trust, a steadiness that radiates that he is the real deal.
Serge holds those he meets with this love and care which is a lived way, which will change how men and women relate to one another.
This is how a man inspired a woman to exploring her true feminine ways and return to a truthful harmonious way of life. And I am not alone in that.
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